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I've seen how much you earn but at the end of the day, your cash flow is what's the most important. As well as your savings and investments.

How much do you have saved up? Do you have an emergency fund that can carry you for up to 3 months peradventure you loose your job?

What's your source of income? A business? Is it insured?

These little things are the things that really matter.

The economy is not smiling and rasing kids have become a challenge

Gone are the days when you could pay 25k for higher education.

Ordinary long note is 600.

I think you can get married after all a marriage is a partnership between two adults who have decided to do life together. Just make sure you marry someone who can support you. As you collect her support, don't forget to support her as well in her own duties. Make her life easier as well so resentment will not build in your home.

I wish you the best and I hope you get to marry someone who will love and cherish you.

jboixxx:
[color=#0000ff]Lucky you. Ask them to please send you the screenshot of the reviewed address as I've had an experience that seller didn't modify but gave me false assurance that he did until package went to the old address. Had to find send courier to pickup and send to me.

Best option is for you to cancel it and reorder it except you enjoyed coupon that you don't wanna lose. [/color]

Oh wow. It's been shipped unfortunately. I guess I might have to wait and see. I'll try asking if they could send an image though

jboixxx:
[color=#0000ff]if it hasn't been shipped, yes: cancel and reorder with the right address or contact seller for address modification. Have it at the back of your mind that, store may not accept cuz some of them don't support this. [/color]

Thanks. So two out of the three store agreed to change the address. The last one said they couldn't.

Hi. Please Is it possible to change the destination address after you've placed it on AliExpress? I mistakenly used an address of where I no longer stay.

Please how do you know if your parcel is registered with speedaff?

Please does anyone here use geepay for aliexpress purchases? If so do you use the master card or the Visa card?

Hi everyone. I am currently looking to get a new phone, and I am confused on which to get out of these two phones. I would appreciate your insights and opinions.


Update.
Thanks everyone. I eventually decided to go for the Pixel 6

genius43:
My grouse with the RN12 series are the 4G variants. The RN12 Pro 4G and RN12s shouldn't be in existence.


Same with the Redmi A series they keep shoving our throats since last year.

Can I ask what's wrong with the RN12 Pro 4G? Is it a bad phone?

So because her parents mistakenly let you marry their daughter without noticing your bad character is why you think you're their agemate?

What audacity. You are extremely disrespectful and rude. And if you can behave this way to people that are old enough to have you as their child, it's no wonder your wife ran away from home.

If Nigerian women stopped talking to their in-laws because they feel disrespected 99% of all marriages for don break.

Why would you expect them to take your side?? They don't even know you like that and you obviously refuse the build the bond that would make them like you enough to see you as a son.

RESHARPENED:
First of all, Payoneer didn't trick you. You just failed to read their terms. That's on you.

That said, there's a way for you to actually withdraw your funds from Payoneer since it's more than $25. I'll show you how to do that in this post.

Here are the steps:

1. Go to www.Grey.co and create an account.

2. Apply for a GBP, EURO and USD account with your ID and valid utility bill. Utility bill could also be a bank statement with an address that corresponds with the one you opened your Grey.co account.

3. Make sure you apply for ALL the 3 accounts (GBP, EURO and USD). There's a reason for that.

3. Grey.co will send you a message when the accounts are ready. Euro and GBP should be ready in a maximum of 48 hours but you'll have to wait a little longer to get the USD account.

When you get the USD account, here's what you're going to do:

1. Add the USD account details to your Payoneer profile.

2. When it asks for the country of the account, click on United States. Not Nigeria.

3. Take note of this point 'cause it's the key to everything. When you get to the field for ROUTING NUMBER, copy the ACH routing number from the USD account Grey.co gave you.

ACH, not SWIFT. If you use SWIFT, your money is GONE. That's if it even goes through in the first place.

4. If it asks for bank address, copy the US address assigned to the USD account on Grey.co.

5. Once your account is successfully added to Payoneer, withdraw your money.

6. Exchange it to Naira on Grey.co at black market rate and withdraw to your Naira bank account.

Understand that Payoneer will deduct about $3 or less to process the payment. Grey.co will also deduct 1% to receive the money. Also, Grey.co will make another little deduction to convert the money to Naira. Then another (#35) to deposit the Naira into your preferred Naira bank account.

Overall if $40 left Payoneer, expect to get the Naira equivalent of about $34 in your bank account.

Another thing to note is that, Grey.co's USD account is facing some issue at the moment. Make sure you confirm that it's fully back online before you withdraw to the USD account.

Enjoy your money!

Good evening.

Please do you know how I can get my ACH routing number from my grey USD account number?

Thank you

Fresh graduate and you are applying for supervisor roles?

Hello. Please does anyone know how to restore the default system font on the redmi note 9?

TemmyT002:
Some women actually add value to some men's lives. They help them with business, advice, protection, welfare, and so on.
The problem is that they are not many.
You are ranting because you haven't met ladies like that.
Pele my dear.

You see the thing is this.

Those kind of women are very intelligent. Intelligent women are quick to see things that will cause them problems in the future and discard them.

They know their worth and they aren't ready to be treated anyhow or endure crap.

They value their peace of mind over monetary things and are very picky on who they choose.

A lot of men aren't up to the standard they've set for themselves.

If you like walk into hell. Most people here will just advice you and won't share any of the consequences with you.

TheKingIsHere:
He continued the act with that same woman neighbor till he was 15 years old which is still underage.

Stop being a fo0l and read again

Heck even if he continued till he was 20 it does not in anyways change the fact that he was raped!

That woman needs to be brought to justice.

Of all the people to sleep with she only saw a child?

Rape is rape. It does not matter if the victim comes back later.
Why are people so insensitive when it comes to molestation of males?

Even his fellow males can't stand up for him
Disgusting.

So we're all going to ignore the fact that he was molested? Wonderful. Op what happened to you was 100% wrong and in a saner clime that rapist is supposed to be cooling her ass off in jail.

Op, I hope you know that keeping any information to yourself that could shed more light to the situation is detrimental to yourself and the marriage you're trying to save.

That being said, if what you're saying is absolutely true with nothing left out then you're married to a sadist with demons for relatives.

And frankly I see no logical reasons why you'd want to stay.
Because even if he eventually takes you back you've proven to be someone with no self worth who can easily be run over and will always come back grovelling.

You guys seem to have a lot of communication issues and also, it might be that a troublesome soul has sown bad thoughts into his head on why his wife refuses to move with him and prefers to stay apart.
If that is the case it would explain for his irrational behavior but then it could have all be solved with simple communication and assurance.

Someone once said that people should be taken by their actions and not their words.
He words says he wants his wife with him. His actions do not.

An endless spiral of poor choices and bad decisions.

Empathy
Understanding
Intelligence

If the person you want to tie yourself to forever lacks these qualities then only God knows what you're marrying.

Marriage is not just about boobs and ass or six packs and money.

People like to create problems for themselves.

You know you want a homemaker as a wife yet you go ahead to marry a career driven ambitious woman. Is that not madness?

Considering this is a one sided story I will assume your information is 100% accurate.

If I were you I'd be happy.
It's easier to make it when you're alone than when you have dependents.
That doesn't mean you should abandon you family.

Since you've gotten this opportunity use it to improve your financial situation. Try new things, look for more opportunities, save the left over money and invest.

Stop ignoring your calls. It makes you look guilty.
If you pick do not shalaye.
Tell them your wife is free to return

She's in what I call the honeymoon stage.
They'll soon show her pepper and she'll return home.

By the way when one is frustrated it is understandable that they talk to others. Afterall, if you cannot tell family about your problems who can you tell?


Also, financial contributions aren't the only contributions one can make to a family.

There are three ways a family can be run.
1) The man being the sole provider and the woman being the caretaker/homemaker.

2) Both the man and the woman providing and taking care of the home( share the bills , share the chores).

3) The woman being the sole provider and the man being the caretaker/homemaker.

Anything outside of this leaves the equation unbalanced.
There's nothing wrong with any of those arrangements but it seems people no longer talk about these things before they get married.


Your wife should get something doing even if it's hair making for school children.
All she'd need is comb and hair cream and that can bring like 1k a day to your family.
Something is better than nothing.

Afikoo:
Please can we focus our energy now on making money.
Please suggest best possible ways I can help my financial situation

The problem is there's no straight path.
You could try buying and selling of in demand goods. And like someone said you could also try getting a skill like copywriting, designing, programing, event management, electronic repairs, etc.

One problem is that things like this take time to learn and be good at.
You can't just take one 20hr course and become a professional.
You'd most likely invest a lot of time (which can run into years) and money before you can start making reasonable money.
If you choose to tow this path I'd recommend picking something you have interest in so you wouldn't loose interest even when the money isn't forthcoming.

On the bright side, you can learn this on the side while you continue your job. It will just take longer.

The first real money is never easy to make but subsequent are very easy

Why is it so hard for you people to say no? Is there a gun to your head? Are you owing her anything? I'm sick and tired of posts like this. Parasitic, greedy and lazy people exist everywhere irrespective of gender. If more people said no to them they'll go and find work instead of begging 24/7.

Stop exchanging your hard earned money from frivolous things like sex and co that won't add any positive thing to your life.

As long as they take only people with education certificates, it's a welcome development.

Broken2020:
Bro I would have, who would I have paid to? Whose house would I have gone for the introduction?

This is really not about marriage because she knows the love of my son won’t even allow me think of marrying another person. I love this woman.

How about a court wedding?

Ehya.

MLTR:
soundings like kidding, lets assume the gurl is independent, won't she cook her meals, won't she clean her own house ?
Another angle, without the lady can Op cook his meals, can he tidy up his own apartment, if the answer is YES then you should #STFU.
i think its advisable they switch roles, she provides & demand for sex when she likes while he will clean & cook,
If making 100k is that easy am sure your mom won't marry your dad.

Women are trying Sha.

Only her will cook, clean and still expected to open yansh in the night.
Cook- 20k
Cleaner-20k
Clean ashi - 2k per night (roughly 60k/month)
Total- 100k/month

Wawuza

Lol, abeg oo women go and work hard and have your own money make them no twist your back anyhow.

There is more to this story than meets the eyes.
You seem hell bent on doing what you have in mind which begs the question as to why you brought this matter here.
There's a saying that to settle the problems between a husband and wife you must know the full story.

I believe the solution to your problem ( If you're even interested in a solution) would best be given to you by either your parents or a wise elder, a religious person who both of you respects and can sit the both of you down and talk to you or if none of the former exists you can get a marriage counselor.

You are your child's father. You and both have equal rights over your child. If you've consulted a pediatrician and it's been confirmed that what the child needs is a change of diet then enforce it.
No one has any right to harm a child just because they are it's parent.

Do not go above your financial capacity for a one day event.

The amount you need is dependent on several factors which include the kind of wedding you have in mind, the state, area which you plan to host it and others.

Cut down on some luxuries and 500k is more than enough.