₦airaland Forum

LordIsaac:
If you think you have established a family principle for yourself or a name, wait until you give birth to a daughter!

ImaIma1:
This is how marriage should be. Not all those spouses that are in competition with each other.

bukatyne:
To be objective, what moral ground does the OP's mother have to act rashly?

Because her brother's wife did not welcome her son properly?

And so?

The OP's duty is to tell the mom so the girl isn't maltreated and/or abused in Abuja.

If the aunt is as painted by the OP, the kid sister would soon be forced to fend for herself which is a recipe for disaster.

rockstarB:
The difference is that the love child of a married man can be healthily raised outside of his home if his wife doesnt agree to raising and nurturing the child like you put up here. Can a woman raise her own love child outside her home if her husband doesnt agree to being a part of the childs life? Will it be easy for her to do that? Especially if the baby daddy isn't all that. Basket mouth has a love child that doesnt live with himself and his wife, they have a good marriage and the kid is doing okay with the babymama.
You need to ask yourself why its easier for women to feign paternity fraud rather than come out clean to their husbands.
I'm not saying there arent men that would raise love child of their wives tho.

Climatology100:
Thank you for this, I know my ex very well, we've be together right from our innocent age.
There was a time she called me around 10pm, I was shocked as I couldn't pick her calls so I called her back afternoon the second day as I told her she shouldn't call me at that wee hours because of herself and marriage.
She told me I shouldn't worry about that, that she's free to call me anytime she like irrespective if her husband is aware or not.
I think she's the one calling the shots in the union.

Teebaba30:
But she's always afraid to be disowned by her parent, Cos she's the only daughter

Teebaba30:
As for me, all things will go down well, but from her side I doubt it she can deal with inter religious marriage.

We both just confused now

Teebaba30:
There is this lady I have been dating now for almost eleven years (11) she was my first love, we started dating while I was still in my final stage of secondary school, things were moving smoothly, as we are both new in the game of love.

I could remembered, then, mtn with their free night calls, we would talk from 12am to 5:00am then, she is the daughter to the king of the town, a well known king in Lagos state, but along the line, as we progress in line, owing to my fine boy of a thing,.

u know we guys when we sense that, it seems all lady want us, due to our cute look, or academic reasons, we take the advantage to flirt, of which she so much detest a cheating guy, she caught me times without number, but still hard for both of us to let go our anyone, after my higher institution,

I relocated to Lagos to start life and keep the hustle real, but this lady was in Lagos with mom, she keep coming to my place even in Lagos, but unfortunately, we lost contact, for seven years, we couldn't reach ourselves, then i decided to relocated to another location in Lagos

, but just last month, her call came, that she saw my contact on Facebook, And we try to renew the relationship, that's how we started and doing fine, she's now in her final year At Fountain University, Oshogbo,

Now the problem facing us now is, She is a Muslim, while am a Christian, her parent will never allow her to convert, while my own parent will never allow me to convert, and now we are madly in love, she try to convinced her dad, but all effort was prove abortive.

We love ourselves so much, but religion is the barrier facing us now, we are both planning to run away from the country, she promised to foot all bills for our travelling, but I told her we should try just be friend as our religion is the barrier here now.

If not for the religion issue, we plan to have our introduction this year, and get wedded next year, but religion want to truncate the whole plans,

Pls fellow nairalanders, your advice is urgently needed now, we are both confused, with no option, we can't let go of anyone, and yet we don't want our parent to turn back to us,

She keep crying everyday, even I myself, and in the state of confused now,.

SHOULD WE QUIT THE RELATIONSHIP OR WHAT SHOULD WE DO NOW..?

Dande55:
Let their gay allah protect them.
Abeg, nobody should disturb me.

MrBrownJay1:
what fun exactly?! you should PERMANENTLY get rid of such "parasites/liabilities" from your life.

goodman41:
I met her when she came for her IT at my place of work, one day I collected her number but I didn't call her till she finished her IT and went back to school.
One day I called to inform her that I will like us to go into a relationship which she accepted, i told her that l' m not looking for a girlfriend but a wife I asked her if she has a boyfriend but she said yes but she will never marry the guy because there are some things she will consider in terms of marriage.
I called her to visit me but she was doing promise and failed, I told her that I'm not inviting her for sex that sex is nothing for me she say okay I should send transport money, I tried using my phone transfer 2k for her but it was not going, so told her that it was not going she said I should go and use ATM but i told her that I don't have that time that she should borrow from her roommate and come or she should forget about coming until when I will be able to use my phone to do the transfer. So that evening she called that she will come the next day been Sunday that she borrowed money from her roommate.
When she came on Sunday I put movie for her and kept my self buy with my laptop, she started feeling sleepy which I told her to go and sleep on the bed which she went, after I was through with my laptop I asked her if I can join her she said yes, I now joined her in the bed before we know it we started kissing and romancing each other and we had sex. After the sex she said that but you told me you don't like sex I told her I like sex but I don't take it serious she said okay I understand. I now took her out spent like 3k, the following morning I gave her 4k for her transport and she was happy.
After one week she called that I should send her airtime I told her that am not sending she said okay without being angry, when she visited for the second time she asked why did I refuse to send her card I told her that I don't like sending card to people she said okay ,so am seeing her as people, i told her don't worry any time I feel like I will send to her, but she said if i send it that she will send it back to me, i asked her about her boyfriend she said that she has ended the friendship but my mind is telling she is lying, she cleaned my house and cooked for me before going back to school that she doesn't want me to be eating outside, she asked me to give her money to do hair which I gave her 3k for both her transport and the hair, she said the money is small but she Will add her own so she collected it without any issue.
Am not the type that use to call every day but she asking me to be calling her every day to make our relationship grow stronger, she was telling me the other day that she will visit me oneday without telling me to see if I have another girl. Please is this girl really serious with this relationship or she just want to use me?

Michelle55:
Really? Insults for being real? I don't think so.
If she's interested, she would agree and if not, she will politely decline.
Better to be truthful from the onset than to lie just to lead someone on.
Honesty pays!!