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ascaris:
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This is my interest in you post. This guy is a great thinker in the making! He will make wonderful discoveries. Just try your best in encouraging him.

U are right o, sometimes his questions scare the hell out of me, one day we where watching TV, current affair then they ask what year did police change their uniform, his question was what where they wearing before, in mind I was like what kind of question is that even me don't know d answer. His questions really used to surprise me sometimes o n don't even bother telling him anything if u are not ready to answer questions.

Thanks all for ur advice. I will do as advised and I pray for improvement. Amen.

Hi everyone
I have three kids, age 9, 7 n 5.
My oldest daughter happened to be very intelligent, she av came out top of her class severally, my children's school av magazine which the most intelligent of d graduating class which is one kg 3 graduate n 1 primary 6 graduate cover the front page as prince and Princess if its a boy n girl n princesses if they are both girls. When my daughter was in kg 3 I saw her read
so hard just to come out best she doesn't keep her book after school home teacher after d home teacher leaves she study again by herself d only thing that will make her take a break is to eat , while i was complaining she is too young to study that hard.
In fact my girls are trying they are both serious
My challenge is that d boy is having none of it, he only knows how to ask questions, he doesn't like to read when the teacher comes he will be sleeping giving her a hard time, I try as much as I can not compare them but this boy is giving me hard time. its a catholic school and sister said if he continue that way they might expel him that i should make him learn from my daughter.
Please parents in the house how can I make him serious and quite his sleeping habit he is even growing very fat because of too much sleep. I feel good when collecting present for my daughter as d best I want the same for my boy.

aisha2:
I can bet my left breas-t that the poster is a man. With all the "women learn from my mistakes" each post concentrating more on learn lessons women than the actual issue is a dead give away.

Good luck to all of the commentors wey reach 10 page, thank you Jesus for spirit of discernment. Next

Sophyrocks:
I said it na. welli done to people who had time to type epistles. The way the story was narrated in form of lessons and showering of praises to the husband would not be the true state of mind of a woman who is truly hurt by her husband marrying another wife. Such a woman will be too hurt and speechless to give lessons. To top it all, the account was just created with this post as the only one. This story is as fictional as nollywood.

aisha2:
I can bet my left breas-t that the poster is a man. With all the "women learn from my mistakes" each post concentrating more on learn lessons women than the actual issue is a dead give away.

Good luck to all of the commentors wey reach 10 page, thank you Jesus for spirit of discernment. Next

And all im not a man, i am a woman, if you notice you find out that most of my post where done at night.
Do you people realise my husband is happy somewhere today getting married, i cant kill myself because of a man
I av my kids to live for.
when i opened my first post i was dead emotional and felt like killing my husband but after i heard all what my husband said with his mouth about me and our marriage and moreover how excited he was then i realise i av no reason to develop hbp

IF i concentrate on women its because i felt they are women like ME.
CURRENTLY I HAVE NO FEELINGS FOR ANY MAN BECAUSE ALL THE MEN IN MY LIFE HAS BETRAYED me including my dad and my brother.

I am not here to preach anything to women, i hate polygamy.

AND I dont pray for anybody to experience such betrayal.
AND TO THE MEN THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A PERFECT WOMAN we can only thrive to work towards perfection.

For now im forcusing on myself and im so giving myself all the love i deserve.
I have decided to further my studies so that my certificate will be upgraded.

I am currently in my parents house and my mum is taking care of my kids.
Im not really the type that makes friends.
The few friends i had was when i was in uni after uni everyone went thier seperate ways thats why you saw me on nairaland.
THANK YOU.

To all the single ladies and even married you can learn from my experience.

Im not a script writer neither im i a story teller im writing my experience first hand

10 years back even in my wildest imagination i wont come up with such a thing.
Ive been very regular on nairaland my friend introduced the sight to me when i was in uni. i spend almost all my free time here

Hubby is not responsible for my family and everyone in my family is grown up already im the second to last

I married hubby when i was 19 years old then i just gained admission, im 29 years old currently
Hubby mum n dad are late and my mum used to be her mum best friend so when he wanted to get married his family taught i wont be a bad idea and mum also said its okay if marry him seeing how close he was to the family.

My brother and my dad never liked the idea of polygamy for me but they said they cant choose for my husband.
My brother and my dad are the only people in my family aware of his decision
My brother said i have been away from my kids for 3 months plus and my life was becoming miserable by the day because i was complaining of how i wanted to be with them.
His decision for him to keep it away from me was only tempory and he cant fight my husband over his decision he can only support my decision so anything i come up with he will give me his 100% support.
MY dad said he had personally discuss with my husband and he doesnt have bad intention for me and our kids that he doesnt like polygamy because of the stress and all that but he doesnt see polygamy as bad.
WELL their explaination goes on and some sound logical

IF i sound like im supporting the new wife is because i want to give myself reason to be happy and i dont want to involve myself with any emotional thinking anymore because even my dad said i was too emotional and always taking things seriously but he never knew i will learn the hard way.

Ive promise myself to always make logical decision

Ive discovered that i can only make myself happy because just as im hurt hubby is happy and preparing for his day today
Im not going anywhere at least for now i want the new wife to come in and meet me so she can share her husband from the beginning of their marriage, i will not give her the joy of having a man all to herself and probably raise my kids since she has decided to share let her come and share with me though hubby has provided a seperate accomodation for her and he said after their honeymoon is 3 days per wife, i will see how it will turn out to be if the enviroment becomes too hostile for me then i use the exit.

I dont have much to say anymore, ive decided to do more of my reasoning logically.
MY HUSBAND has choosen his path.

PERTAINING TO JOB i will start applying for job at least to get something doing.
My husband fixed me on a salary before but i dont know if it will stop or reduce since we are about becoming wives.

I dont regret marrying early whether arranged or not is one of the things i thank God for everyday, my womb is presently covered with fibriod so medically i cant give birth to anymore children.
I got diagnose of fibriod when i was pregnant with my first child, the doctor initially taught it was twins until my baby grew to some certain level then we realise the other one isnt a baby, doc advised me to continue giving birth since it didnt affect my fertily after my 3rd child it had my womb covered then i had an operation but unfortunately it started growing again but im at peace since i already had 3 lovely kids i decided to take a break from stressing myself out because of it.

Yes i cant deny the fact that i took advantage of my husbands quietness
He is not bossy
He was also very patient with me, he had been patient with me when i was much younger he used to tell me that he will cut me some slack because of my age and he is ready to wait for me
when i was 28 with same alttitude we got seperated by then ive learnt my lesson but little did i know that i have already lost my husband.

Im taking responsibility so people can learn from me, i dont need to hide anything anymore
A man that told me if he courted me he wouldnt have gotten married to me.

AS THE SAYING GOES TWO WRONG DONT MAKE A RIGHT

ALL THE SAME I NEVER KNEW IT WOULD GeT TO THIS POINT, deep down in my soul im tired of life, im weak and unhappy, no appetite, the only thing that really kept me going is NAIRALAND and my kids, thanks to you guys, you are indeed a family, thank you all.

Today is my husbands day and a new phase in my life, though i owe myself the duty to be happy im not happy

I PRAY FOR GODS STRENGHT IN MY LIFE AND MAY HE GIVE ME WISDOM JUST LIKE SOLOMON TO DEAL WITH THE SITUATON.

THANK YOU ALL, YOU ARE INDEED NAIRALAND FAMILY.

Thanks @ all for your advice

When my husband came for reconcilation, he informed my brother and my father that he would be getting married again and the new wife has accepted to stay with me, he also wanted to know if i will be willing to stay with her if not we can get a divorce.

My brother said he told him not to inform me then that when he is ready to get married he should inform me afterward i make my decision myself.

My brother said polygamy is not a sin, its better than divorce but im free to make my decision because my husband had confirded in them that he is not comfortable with me, if he remains with only me he might die of hypertention has he had already develop high blood presssure, he said if he wants to die the death should at least be natural not for something he can aviod.

HE said he is not letting go off his responsibility that he wants to be happy since i decided not to be happy
He deserve to be happy and the new wife will teach me how to love.

Unfortunately since i called the new wife and warned her on phone she changed her mind of staying in the same apartment with me and gave my husband condition of providing a seperate accomodation for her before she can go ahead with the marriage which my husband accepted saying afterall he has two houses.
My husband said nothing has changed between the two of us apart form him not being comfortable with only me since he dont want to divorce me and i should be thankful to the new wife because its her family that told him to reconcile with me before they can give him thier daughter so that they can be sure that no matter what happens in their marriage they can be assured of reconcilation since their dauhter has choosen him even with his married status.

HE said i shouldnt go about gossiping him because there is two side to every story.

I shouldnt even try bringing the bibble n western culture to him because he wouldnt buy them
I should be happy that africa provides altternative for divorce.

If i want divorce he will settle awesomely so that i can go live my life and get the happiness i truly deserve if that is my wish

MY husbands heart is made up
He didnt come home yesterday because some of the girls family is threatening fire and brimestone over her decision
They said they will scatter their marriage that their daughter cannot be in a polygamous marriage so the girl left home because of the stress and he went to be with her and got her an hotel for them to relax.
He told his family that they should be ready for any form of embarrasment in the marriage just in case but he is not backing down on the girl because the girl taught him how to love.
I saw my husband being very emotional and behaves as if his life depends on the marriage.
HE is about 15 years older than her but my husband age is only but a number. well it goes on n on but i dont want to so spying on his life anymore

Since he already had hbp i dont want him dying on me, his obvious his family is in support of the marriage because they dont want thier son /brother to die over uneccessary stresss.

I ACCEPT ALL MY WRONG DOINGS AND I CANT HELP BUT REGRET, maybe i took advantage of my husband being such a quite man but his brother who seems like a father to him told me today that whenever he is angry he always go mute.

TO MY HUBBY IM SORRY FOR CURSING i was only being emotional

I TAKE BACK ALL THE CURSE AND CANT SAY MUCH THAN MAY IT BE WELL WITH YOU and may you find all the love you are looking for.

Lest i forgot the new wife really appeared to be a good person with all the warnings and curses i rained on her there was a time when myself and huby was together and it appeared she was having issue with hubby, she called him all day without him answering d call continued d next day same thing, then she called me and ask if my husband was with him, i shouted at her then huby was there, the next thing i saw was him sending her an sms. the next day he went out probaly to reconcile with her when he came back that same day, i heard him asking her on phone
WITH this words exactly, honey so you love me that much after that they continue their conversation which i went to bed because it was in the night and sometimes my hubby makes call with her all through the night. he even set alarm not to over sleep so he can talk to her.

I CAN GO ALL N ALL BUT THE DEED HAS BEEN DONE hubby has even given me a clear warning to stay off his marriage if not he will divorce with nothing and there is nothing anybody can do
thanks @ ALL FOR YOUR ADVICE. Thanks @ all for your advice

When my husband came for reconcilation, he informed my brother and my father that he would be getting married again and the new wife has accepted to stay with me, he also wanted to know if i will be willing to stay with her if not we can get a divorce.

My brother said he told him not to inform me then that when he is ready to get married he should inform me afterward i make my decision myself.

My brother said polygamy is not a sin, its better than divorce but im free to make my decision because my husband had confirded in them that he is not comfortable with me, if he remains with only me he might die of hypertention has he had already develop high blood presssure, he said if he wants to die the death should at least be natural not for something he can aviod.

HE said he is not letting go off his responsibility that he wants to be happy since i decided not to be happy
He deserve to be happy and the new wife will teach me how to love.

Unfortunately since i called the new wife and warned her on phone she changed her mind of staying in the same apartment with me and gave my husband condition of providing a seperate accomodation for her before she can go ahead with the marriage which my husband accepted saying afterall he has two houses.
My husband said nothing has changed between the two of us apart form him not being comfortable with only me since he dont want to divorce me and i should be thankful to the new wife because its her family that told him to reconcile with me before they can give him thier daughter so that they can be sure that no matter what happens in their marriage they can be assured of reconcilation since their dauhter has choosen him even with his married status.

HE said i shouldnt go about gossiping him because there is two side to every story.

I shouldnt even try bringing the bibble n western culture to him because he wouldnt buy them
I should be happy that africa provides altternative for divorce.

If i want divorce he will settle awesomely so that i can go live my life and get the happiness i truly deserve if that is my wish

MY husbands heart is made up
He didnt come home yesterday because some of the girls family is threatening fire and brimestone over her decision
They said they will scatter their marriage that their daughter cannot be in a polygamous marriage so the girl left home because of the stress and he went to be with her and got her an hotel for them to relax.
He told his family that they should be ready for any form of embarrasment in the marriage just in case but he is not backing down on the girl because the girl taught him how to love.
I saw my husband being very emotional and behaves as if his life depends on the marriage.
HE is about 15 years older than her but my husband age is only but a number. well it goes on n on but i dont want to so spying on his life anymore

Since he already had hbp i dont want him dying on me, his obvious his family is in support of the marriage because they dont want thier son /brother to die over uneccessary stresss.

I ACCEPT ALL MY WRONG DOINGS AND I CANT HELP BUT REGRET, maybe i took advantage of my husband being such a quite man but his brother who seems like a father to him told me today that whenever he is angry he always go mute.

TO MY HUBBY IM SORRY FOR CURSING i was only being emotional

I TAKE BACK ALL THE CURSE AND CANT SAY MUCH THAN MAY IT BE WELL WITH YOU and may you find all the love you are looking for.

Lest i forgot the new wife really appeared to be a good person with all the warnings and curses i rained on her there was a time when myself and huby was together and it appeared she was having issue with hubby, she called him all day without him answering d call continued d next day same thing, then she called me and ask if my husband was with him, i shouted at her then huby was there, the next thing i saw was him sending her an sms. the next day he went out probaly to reconcile with her when he came back that same day, i heard him asking her on phone
WITH this words exactly, honey so you love me that much after that they continue their conversation which i went to bed because it was in the night and sometimes my hubby makes call with her all through the night. he even set alarm not to over sleep so he can talk to her.

I CAN GO ALL N ALL BUT THE DEED HAS BEEN DONE hubby has even given me a clear warning to stay off his marriage if not he will divorce with nothing and there is nothing anybody can do

thanks @ ALL FOR YOUR ADVICE. i have both male n female children n didnt cheat n never cheated infact i got married as a virgin same with hubby, the both of us had no ex, hubby said he better walk the aisle again with someone he love than to cheat for those that asked.

Evina:
Is this a Nollywood production?

If not, and this is real, please tell us the whole story since you decided to tell us any story in the first instance. How can your husband just start another family? Please give us the unedited gist.

I got married when i was quite young without proper education then my husband just got employed.
His family introduced me to him when he wanted to get married because according to them then i met his requirement.

my husband have a good paying job so i can say he have it all good

At a point in our marriage i became insecure, i went snooping on his phone, calling some of his contact , warning people unnecessarily i never knew i was destroying my marriage.
MY HUSBAND been a very patient man warned me to stay off his phone and all but i didnt listen.

When my last daughter was three i called one of his senior colleage to stay off him which made my husband angry and said im being hostile to him so he wants a divorce, the issue became so big that my husband and i got seperated.

my husband is the traditional type that doeesnt do any house chores, i taught there was no way he was going to saty without me but to my greatest surprise he stayed without me for 3 months plus he rather had his neice stay with him than myself.

His family had to interven before he reconciled with me, when we got back together i noticed he had a girlfriend this time with so many love text messages on his phone, i got emmotional n deleted them all, he noticed i deleted them without saying a word he passworded his phone by then i already had the contact of the girl unknown to him but because of our initial dissagrement i was reluctant in calling her but it got serious, my hubby started making night call , talking to her on phone for hours, visiting her n coming home back late.

It got to a point i called her and warn her to stay off my home, she wanted to know who the caller was but i ended the call, after sometime i noticed she called hubby and hubby ask her to give him the number of the caller so he can check if he knows the person, she gave him anh he told her to go bed there is nothing to worry about. he came to me and ask me why i did that, i pick up quarrel with him but he didnt say anything afterward, the next he went out and came back by 11;20 in the night. He doesnt talk much so i tried confronting him about the woman but he didnt say anything but he kept seeing and talking to her. i called the woman again to tell her to stay off my husband but she told him and that cause another misunderstanding between us, then hubby told me that he will marry her and there is nothing i can do

Evina:
Is this a Nollywood production?

If not, and this is real, please tell us the whole story since you decided to tell us any story in the first instance. How can your husband just start another family? Please give us the unedited gist.

I got married when i was quite young without proper education then my husband just got employed.
His family introduced me to him when he wanted to get married because according to them then i met his requirement.

my husband have a good paying job so i can say he have it all good

At a point in our marriage i became insecure, i went snooping on his phone, calling some of his contact , warning people unnecessarily i never knew i was destroying my marriage.
MY HUSBAND been a very patient man warned me to stay off his phone and all but i didnt listen.

When my last daughter was three i called one of his senior colleage to stay off him which made my husband angry and said im being hostile to him so he wants a divorce, the issue became so big that my husband and i got seperated.

my husband is the traditional type that doeesnt do any house chores, i taught there was no way he was going to saty without me but to my greatest surprise he stayed without me for 3 months plus he rather had his neice stay with him than myself.

His family had to interven before he reconciled with me, when we got back together i noticed he had a girlfriend this time with so many love text messages on his phone, i got emmotional n deleted them all, he noticed i deleted them without saying a word he passworded his phone by then i already had the contact of the girl unknown to him but because of our initial dissagrement i was reluctant in calling her but it got serious, my hubby started making night call , talking to her on phone for hours, visiting her n coming home back late.

It got to a point i called her and warn her to stay off my home, she wanted to know who the caller was but i ended the call, after sometime i noticed she called hubby and hubby ask her to give him the number of the caller so he can check if he knows the person, she gave him anh he told her to go bed there is nothing to worry about. he came to me and ask me why i did that, i pick up quarrel with him but he didnt say anything afterward, the next he went out and came back by 11;20 in the night. He doesnt talk much so i tried confronting him about the woman but he didnt say anything but he kept seeing and talking to her. i called the woman again to tell her to stay off my husband but she told him and that cause another misunderstanding between us, then hubby told me that he will marry her and there is nothing i can do.
After that ive called her once or twice again and it was disaster between myself and my hubby.

I completed uni after being married to him and he didnt allow me to work saying i dont want my wife to be looking at another man and answering sir.

Now my husband says he his getting married to his love for the first time
He said he love her, he never had the opportunity to choose
He said he choose her himself and he is happy to be in love
He said she knows how to communicate him which i dont
he said he needs a friend, someone who sees marriage as love not as responsibility.
He said i sees marriage as responsibility

He asked his people to pass the message to me

He said he will still be responsible for me and our kids
He will keep us under one umbrella n everybody will be happy, its natural if i get emmotional but he is not going to hurt me
He is sorry if he is hurting me but i should know that i destroy our home not his incoming wife.

I feel terrible i cant help but regret, i taught it was a joke but to my greatest surprise its reality

I JUST SAW MY HUSBAND INVITATION CARD

PLS BE SINCERE TO me did i relly destroy my home?

Dear nairaland family

My heart is broken, i so much hate life and my hubby. Guess my hubby knows i am very angry hence his refusal to talk to me.

I have not seen him since i learnt his marriage is on saturday, his family has been arriving our home, at first his elder sister then an older uncle and some other relation, i became curious to find out whats up if someone had died but to my greatest surprisec it was my husband that is getting married.

My husband has not arrived home since yesterday they started coming.
my heart is broken, my soul is weak. ive called my parents that im done with the marriage i will be coming home. my mum cried on phone on hearing the news, im confused, my family is confused, all i feel for my husband right now is hate, i can strangle him or even poison him with trhe amount of hate i feel right now.

Our pastor called he didnt pick up.

Even though we have heen married for ten years with three beautiful kids.

dear hubby whereever you are right now, i pray for Gods purnishment on you
may you never know peace with your new wife
may your pocket go dry, by that way you will get to suffer with your miserable mistress
i wish you all the bad things of life

To the mistress
as far you have destroy my home, that is how God will destroy your home be destroyed too.

My heart is broken, i so much hate life and my hubby. Guess my hubby knows i am very angry hence his refusal to talk to me.

I have not seen him since i learnt his marriage is on saturday, his family has been arriving our home, at first his elder sister then an older uncle and some other relation, i became curious to find out whats up if someone had died but to my greatest surprisec it was my husband that is getting married.

My husband has not arrived home since yesterday they started coming.
my heart is broken, my soul is weak. ive called my parents that im done with the marriage i will be coming home. my mum cried on phone on hearing the news, im confused, my family is confused, all i feel for my husband right now is hate, i can strangle him or even poison him with trhe amount of hate i feel right now.

Our pastor called he didnt pick up.

Even though we have heen married for ten years with three beautiful kids.

dear hubby whereever you are right now, i pray for Gods purnishment on you
may you never know peace with your new wife
may your pocket go dry, by that way you will get to suffer with your miserable mistress
i wish you all the bad things of life

To the mistress
as far you have destroy my home, that is how God will destroy your home.

sleepless night for me, my husband wedding, my husband family asking me to be patient nothing has changed apart from me having a helpmate, me helpmate? TO MY HUSBAND I HATE YOU.