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Fizzymike1:
All men are handsome but money makes men magical

Ngolo Kante was born in France and makes 200k every week.

What other thing will you sell to us?

victorian:
Cause I needed someone who knows me and is spiritual but not emotionally attached to either him or me, to look at my scenario and advise me. I was so sad that day as I poured my thoughts to my Pastor. He saw how sad and confused I look, and quiet too. Im always a lively person but that moment of making a decision about him, my spirit was unsettled and very sad. My Pastor has been my childhood friend from primary school way back til date. We go a long way, on and off.

Okay. Understandable.

victorian:
Oga, you are not tall dark and handsome. Talk true make devil shame.

Anyways I understand what she's going through. Cause I almost got myself entrapped in such kind of marriage but counselling with my Pastor saved me on-time.
I'm not saying u are a bad person, neither am I saying u are ugly but the thing is this : you can be someonelse dream man , perfect and Denzel looking to another woman except your wife. Your wife has the idea of how her ideal man should look like.
Not all women are tall, dark and handsome as their ideal looking man. Some prefer average height, natural for looks with a muscular or athletic body. That's why God created us in different shapes and sizes.
And your wife who got married in her 30s must have seen it all, got heartbroken by the kind of guys, she would have love to marry and settle down with. But reality dawned on her, such guys won't make A good husband to her. Then u strolled along into life, she realised u are serious with marriage. She checked herself, she's not getting younger, what da heck! Lemme marry. I will simply resign my self to this marriage as long as I have a family with him. Who cares about happiness and love. Most marriages sef are just there.
And with what friends will always ring into our ears everyday. Marriage is not about love, it's about marrying a man who is ready and capable to stay married. Just be humble and calm, have your kids and have a business or career going for yourself. That's all. We don't always marry who we wish to marry and here we are with our kids. You cannot be selective anymore, forget about falling in love and just Marry!
That's exactly how your wife feels. She's resigned to her fate with u. She cannot leave u, cos she's determined to stay married. Her happiness is irrelevant as long as she's Mrs.

What a life


In my own case, I stopped myself on-time from marrying the guy who proposed to me, after opening my heart to my Pastor. My Pastor said do I want to be lifeless in the marriage, I said no with tears almost running down my cheeks. He said good, then don't marry him, cos u will regret it. Tell him kindly u simply don't love him, which is the truth. There and then I felt so free and alive, I even felt like hugging the pastor with so much joy! Lol
I told the guy, I'm sorry dear, I can't go thru with it. And I don't regret it. I feel free and alive! . I don't care about my age. I just want to feel at peace wit my soul and being.

Nice epistle.
How convenient for you to have said ''oga you're not tall, dark and handsome''. Nawa o.

Secondly, why did it have to be a pastor that advised you on marriage before making the next step?

EVILFOREST:
He is LUCKY, no petrol and Tyre close by.
By now na BURNT OFFERING things

Calm down. It's a University campus, not Alagomeji Street, Aba.