Seyi8750:
Lagos lead

Where is the link to the website?

Ruby458:
Awww! Such is life. You have to suck it up and move on.

My ex of 4 years got married last year. He didn't tell me and I had no way of knowing because I blocked him. I blocked him so that I would be able to heal properly and move on. Both of us are not heavy social media users and we rarely post stuff online. So, I had zero knowledge about his marriage.

Last year, on my birthday, he called me. He called with another number. I picked the call. I was surprised to hear his voice. I have healed and moved on, it was easier to talk with him. In the course of our conversation, he mentioned his wife. I was shocked. I asked him if he is married, he said yes. Then went on to talk about his wife. He said quite a bit about her.

He wished me a happy birthday, I thanked him and we ended the call. I sat still on my bed for minutes, trying to process everything he said, especially the part of his wife. Then I cried. Fat, gut-wrenching tears. Images of the times we spent together, his proposal to me, what our life would have been as husband and wife, how everything started falling apart and the final breakup. I cried o, I really cried.

Weeks later, I started feeling better. Today, I don't really think about him or his wife again, except something or someone reminds me of him. I wish him well with all my heart, while I pray to meet my husband soon.

So, guy, you will be fine. It's a normal emotion. We've all been there.

Thanks a bunch for sharing your story. It is really insightful to learn this is just a phase for me and I hope you meet the perfect person you deserve.

spencekat:
Bro, move on. Don't fix your mind there. That is life for you.

thank you so much. I guess it is because it is my first time. lol

Gadafii:
Every day my ex this my girlfriend that, Shey una no Dey smoke Cana or work out or learn something profitable and meaningful??!

Una just carry girls for head like dada, the earlier you realize women or anyone at all are not responsible for your happiness and growth or fulfillment the better for you

As a guy man, if you are dating or married and you don’t have the mindset that anything can happen and your girlfriend or wife can become your ex within two seconds you never ready, you are setting yourself up for massive heartbreak

The reason people buy spare tyre is in case of eventuality, you don’t wait for tyre to burst before you buy another one, same as girls, have options

If she leave, promote a side chick to main chin or rather keep it at that level while you massively work on your self, money, body and soul

Nothin girl wan offer you that you can offer yourself if you work towards it, except pusse tho and it’s now in abundance if you know your onions

Lol.. I get your point about building yourself and all but that never stops right ? I am 29yrs with a comfortable life and I still desire companionship but I get your point anyways, thanks.

Wearetheugliest:
Lol.. u dey feel say na u she suppose marry abi

Lol not exactly. Just a mix-match of emotions of what It could have been especially as I am still searching from my end. So there was this thingy feeling of what if you guys had worked on it and all but I will be fine. I just couldn't control the emotions when I saw it last night.

Bluezy13:
I understand that feeling.

You're are happy she is happy or looks happy that she's getting married, your sad your not the one. You're are disappointed at whom she's getting married to and you are wondering why you didn't make the move to marrying her thereby blaming yourself...that feeling you could have made things work, maybe; with a little seasoning of the feeling of pride that someone you once dated/slept with is getting married.
All these feelings mixed together into one portion; that's how you feel. And it is funny.

At least this is better than a situation whereby two/three of your former women getting married almost the same period (December ending) and you got to find out some through Facebook pictures while some through friends.

You actually captured some of my feelings - there was this overwhelming thoughts of if things could have worked out differently with a bit of compromise and all. We actually really matched in many ways before the break up.

I am not convinced we were the best for each other with our circumstances at the time but when I meet girls who are bit nonchalant, I always miss her knowing her intentional she was about us but when I meet a girl that is giving me that great energy, I usually don't even remember we ever dated. I guess I have to pray to meet someone that won't remind me of her because that emotional rush of was that not even better than this and all is always there.

I don't know how to describe this feeling and if I even have the right to feel that way but I just realised my ex girlfriend of about 7months got engaged last week.

I don't even know how to describe how I feel really and how best to distract the feelings but I really have flashback of all our memories today and how things went sour. She really did showed me love but still stepped out and I just couldn't move on from it and that was what led to the break up eventually.

It is a funny feeling to be honest and I have never felt that way before.

See who is engaged now ... haaa and people will start tagging me bad vibes now

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CreedElliot:



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Eternity is forever and we cant afford to lose a single soul more to hell

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cocolacec:


You are dealing with a female narcissist,you will regret it if you call her back and start a family with her.She is giving you the kind of sex you want and this is blinding your eyes to see the bigger picture.Read about narcissitic women.

https://liveboldandbloom.com/09/emotional-abuse/female-narcissist

Find a decent lady to date and marry in the future.

Thank you for sharing this. You are right and I actually know the right type of girls who will be good for me to settle with.

akube34:
you better free that girl. Someone is showing you her true color and you wan go back to am

Thank you for your kind words. I guess I was just lonely and it made me vulnerable.

FRANCISTOWN:


Two things define a man(human being in general)

1. His actions
2. The ability to live and deal with the
consequences of his actions

Don't people resign from a job and later
regret it?
People relocate and still regret it.

It's no big deal, stop being nostalgic. It's a
useless feeling

thank you for this.

I broke up with my girlfriend about 3months ago and I still struggle to convince myself that I did the right thing and I believe this is affecting me in the process of trying to move on and meeting new people. We both live abroad and you don't meet a lot of Nigerians easily around here.

She was very caring, admired me and always supportive but still I made a decision to end the relationship. Why ? It was based on some sort of things that happened when we started being together. We started as friends with benefits while in school though she was in a distance relationship at the time. We both agreed it was just sex and nothing more when we started and I was fine with it. However, we started acting like couple - sleeping over, going out together, doing everything exclusively, and all that despite not defining things officially.

She wasn't always happy when I'm on phone with any girl irrespective of whatever relationship I have with such girl and I just sort of started distancing myself from all other girls. On her side, I acted 'maturely' by not interfering during her phone calls and all. Things continued that way for some months till the pressure was just too much that we had no choice but to define things. At that point, I was hooked already - in that, I was saying in my mind that it was just friends with benefits but I couldn't even leave her and I also found it difficult to make a decision to commit to her forever due to some number of reasons:

1. She once asked me to give her MouthAction which I have never done before at that time. I told her I wasn't ready and her response was that If I don't do it, someone else will do it for her. She went on a dating site, hooked up with a guy for one a night stand and I was aware of this though shocked at such boldness. I couldn't complain because we were not dating officially though we were always together at this point.

2. Another time during our time together, I was on a night duty and she went to a party which I was aware of. I saw a guy with her and her female friend and she earlier told me the guy came with her friend. Unfortunately for her, her female friend left early without the guy. I added 2 + 2 together and fixed it that she had something with the guy that night. I subsequently saw their sex chat on her phone. She later confessed they had a one night stand only.

3. There was a guy disturbing her that I was aware of, she always told the guy off until one day she told me she was visiting the guy for the weekend. I was shocked because we were literally talking about building a genuine relationship the previous night confessing how we have come to like each other. She was love-bombing me throughout her stay with the guy and I knew they were probably having sex throughout the 3 days. She came back on the 3rd day and started acting all nice and all to me.

4. She has a bit of bad temper especially with others. She is not the most likeable person out there and she doesn't care and can say anything when she is angry. She can bullshit anyone and I was always wondering if she will do it to me too one day. She was an angel towards me but opposite towards others.

5. Unlike me, she was very experienced in Nigeria with series of sexual partners littered on her phone. I stumbled on her nudes being with different guys on her snapchat. Sex wasn't a big to her and that was a total turn off for me since I didn't live that kind of life.

I know this might not make sense to anyone reading as you may assume I have reasons to make an easy decision but trust me, it wasn't an easy decision for me as I was almost used to being with her which I have never had with any other woman. My mind kept tricking me saying maybe it is not totally her fault as I didn't commit her. Plus, I have never been with any woman that showered me with so much care in my life before this girl. I have met very decent girls that still showed me shege despite being ready to commit.

I have only seen things like that on movies and I would have said it was juju but it was not. I have never experienced that kind of 'love' before and I didn't even care if it was fake or real. I enjoyed it as we both went on dates, vacations abroad and all but I was scared to commit to her.

Eventually I had to make a decision on whether I should stay or leave her and that was I how started going back and forth. I didn't want to leave or stay. I had never been so confused in my life. It was as if I was getting the kind of love I have always wished for but I am not exactly settled with our circumstances. I wanted to forget but I just couldn't given that I knew these men and it doesn't appear she has sexual discipline as well. I felt so bad for her and myself.

Though we ended up dating officially for 2months, I struggled to let bygone be bygone as she had requested. Not that I am so concerned about it but I just hate the fact that if anything happens in the future, I can't say I didn't see the signs but she was still a good person to me.

It is been 3months since we parted ways and I still randomly wonder if I did the right thing. Should I have given her a chance to change and prove herself ? Could I have influenced her positively ? I guess I will never know.

Who has experienced this before and what are your thoughts please?