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nairalanda1:
Your father had a very aggresive form of prostate cancer.

The section called gleason score is telling. It is 9. That means, in plane english, THAT it was bad.

Separate from the score, I suspect (may be wrong, tho) that it also had spread all over the body by the time they did the gleason score (if it remained in the prostate, that means operation immediately...the fact that the doctor did not suggest an operation for papa as your comment seems to imply, shows it had spread already. )
There is a reason why we tell people to do regular prostate tests from the time they are forty years old, and if the prostate is enlarged, so long as it has not spread, it would be good to remove it.

What your dad needed was palliative care. You should have explored that option


Also, oga, please, kindly check your prostate every year. At least once every year.

Sorry for your loss, but don't blame hospital for everything. Herbs would have not helped his case.

we are dealing with a Gleason score 10 here actually . the biopsy showed it is an aggressive one too.

Leebeedo:
The same illness claimed my dad’s life at 87.

Personally, I’m skeptical about traditional medicine. While some remedies may help, many are based on guesswork and can become a way of taking money from desperate families.

Considering his age, I believe palliative care may be the best approach. Regarding the treatment you mentioned, I hope it isn’t Zoladex. My dad’s health deteriorated significantly within two weeks of starting it. It drastically lowers testosterone, and in his case, I felt the effects were simply too much for him at that age.

I think it is Zodalex you have mentioned. other options is the Orchidectomy.

shortgun:
There's no need attacking him. What he just told you is a fact. My late father died from prostate cancer. There's nothing on earth we didn't do to save him. There's no amount we didn't spend at different hospitals, we lost him painfully at the end.

Hii, can we talk please. I will appreciate your experience if you do not mind.

anyone with experience?

Hello here,

So I have a very dear family (80+ man) who has been diagnosed with stage-iv Prostate Cancer that has metastasise into the bones. Currently unable to walk but still able to stand with limited aid.

The medical treatment pathway is to kill the testicles the prostate is feeding on and treat the symptoms (palliative care). Now, a lot of people are coming around with knowing someone who helped someone managed it well with herbs and all for years.

I know I will take on any treatment to ensure we can keep him for as long as possible but the explanation from trado-medicinal people is not just adding up to me. If you can cure it in 1month and charging only 200k, I don't think anyone will still be going to the hospital plus with this current stage too.

what do you all think ?

Wainey:
There is no problem if you take time to think things through but do not give people the impression that u are ready to make a deal with them when u know u will cancel it at the last moment.

Also when u make a plan, stick to it, don't let someone discourage you.

There is nothing wrong with u. Just don't cancel deals with people, it's a waste of their effort and u may never get their support again

Thank you so much and I know it must be very annoying as well to deal with someone like that. I am beat-up because I can be very sure and would have made up my mind then a second opinion will just crash everything.

Thanks once again.

I don't know if have come to right section but I hope the mod can help me.

I don't know if have come to right section but I hope the mod can help me.

Seyi8750:
Lagos lead

Where is the link to the website?

Ruby458:
Awww! Such is life. You have to suck it up and move on.

My ex of 4 years got married last year. He didn't tell me and I had no way of knowing because I blocked him. I blocked him so that I would be able to heal properly and move on. Both of us are not heavy social media users and we rarely post stuff online. So, I had zero knowledge about his marriage.

Last year, on my birthday, he called me. He called with another number. I picked the call. I was surprised to hear his voice. I have healed and moved on, it was easier to talk with him. In the course of our conversation, he mentioned his wife. I was shocked. I asked him if he is married, he said yes. Then went on to talk about his wife. He said quite a bit about her.

He wished me a happy birthday, I thanked him and we ended the call. I sat still on my bed for minutes, trying to process everything he said, especially the part of his wife. Then I cried. Fat, gut-wrenching tears. Images of the times we spent together, his proposal to me, what our life would have been as husband and wife, how everything started falling apart and the final breakup. I cried o, I really cried.

Weeks later, I started feeling better. Today, I don't really think about him or his wife again, except something or someone reminds me of him. I wish him well with all my heart, while I pray to meet my husband soon.

So, guy, you will be fine. It's a normal emotion. We've all been there.

Thanks a bunch for sharing your story. It is really insightful to learn this is just a phase for me and I hope you meet the perfect person you deserve.

spencekat:
Bro, move on. Don't fix your mind there. That is life for you.

thank you so much. I guess it is because it is my first time. lol

Gadafii:
Every day my ex this my girlfriend that, Shey una no Dey smoke Cana or work out or learn something profitable and meaningful??!

Una just carry girls for head like dada, the earlier you realize women or anyone at all are not responsible for your happiness and growth or fulfillment the better for you

As a guy man, if you are dating or married and you don’t have the mindset that anything can happen and your girlfriend or wife can become your ex within two seconds you never ready, you are setting yourself up for massive heartbreak

The reason people buy spare tyre is in case of eventuality, you don’t wait for tyre to burst before you buy another one, same as girls, have options

If she leave, promote a side chick to main chin or rather keep it at that level while you massively work on your self, money, body and soul

Nothin girl wan offer you that you can offer yourself if you work towards it, except pusse tho and it’s now in abundance if you know your onions

Lol.. I get your point about building yourself and all but that never stops right ? I am 29yrs with a comfortable life and I still desire companionship but I get your point anyways, thanks.

Wearetheugliest:
Lol.. u dey feel say na u she suppose marry abi

Lol not exactly. Just a mix-match of emotions of what It could have been especially as I am still searching from my end. So there was this thingy feeling of what if you guys had worked on it and all but I will be fine. I just couldn't control the emotions when I saw it last night.

Bluezy13:
I understand that feeling.

You're are happy she is happy or looks happy that she's getting married, your sad your not the one. You're are disappointed at whom she's getting married to and you are wondering why you didn't make the move to marrying her thereby blaming yourself...that feeling you could have made things work, maybe; with a little seasoning of the feeling of pride that someone you once dated/slept with is getting married.
All these feelings mixed together into one portion; that's how you feel. And it is funny.

At least this is better than a situation whereby two/three of your former women getting married almost the same period (December ending) and you got to find out some through Facebook pictures while some through friends.

You actually captured some of my feelings - there was this overwhelming thoughts of if things could have worked out differently with a bit of compromise and all. We actually really matched in many ways before the break up.

I am not convinced we were the best for each other with our circumstances at the time but when I meet girls who are bit nonchalant, I always miss her knowing her intentional she was about us but when I meet a girl that is giving me that great energy, I usually don't even remember we ever dated. I guess I have to pray to meet someone that won't remind me of her because that emotional rush of was that not even better than this and all is always there.

It is a funny feeling to be honest and I have never felt that way before.

Hi,

I am interested in learning Igbo language and currently looking for someone who can teach me. Maybe on WhatsApp or on Zoom.

Previous experience in teaching would be preferred. I currently speak only Yoruba and English language.

If you are the right person, please leave a comment below and I will send a DM if I think you will do the job well.

Many thanks.

CreedElliot:
Can I recommend you listen to great sermons online to jelp rebuild faith in returning ti church please?

Eternity is forever and we cant afford to lose a single soul more to hell

Please recommend.

cocolacec:
You are dealing with a female narcissist,you will regret it if you call her back and start a family with her.She is giving you the kind of sex you want and this is blinding your eyes to see the bigger picture.Read about narcissitic women.

https://liveboldandbloom.com/09/emotional-abuse/female-narcissist

Find a decent lady to date and marry in the future.

Thank you for sharing this. You are right and I actually know the right type of girls who will be good for me to settle with.

akube34:
you better free that girl. Someone is showing you her true color and you wan go back to am

Thank you for your kind words. I guess I was just lonely and it made me vulnerable.

FRANCISTOWN:
Two things define a man(human being in general)

1. His actions
2. The ability to live and deal with the
consequences of his actions

Don't people resign from a job and later
regret it?
People relocate and still regret it.

It's no big deal, stop being nostalgic. It's a
useless feeling

thank you for this.

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hi here,

Happy new month and I hope you all have a wonderful life.