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DivineGrace123:
You can also join "TOASTMASTERS" club. It is a nonprofit organization that usually help individuals to become better communicators through leadership training and public speaking practice.

Where and how do we join em

You have daughters of 19,18,17 years and they can't do the chores hmmm...

JacksonMS:
exactly, and ladies hardly talk to me

Same here bro. I think it's called social anxiety disorder. Seems we subconsciously give off vibes that probably tells the ladies to keep off.

JacksonMS:
me too. Even the whole family. I get sick when my family members wants to take me out.

Mehn, mine is that I love to go out and interact and make new friends but too shy to try. Even when I did try all results in regrets.

Hi guys, I think I'm an introverted extrovert.
Most introverts enjoy all their time alone, and don't love socialising but mine's a little different in that even though I do enjoy some time spent alone I get really lonely and depressed alot of the times. I really like socialising(with ladies especially) but damn I'm too shy/self conscious for my own good. I do manage to start a conversation without much difficulty but can't keep it going. I think I do have low self esteem despite making some progress in my life my self esteem issues seems to be worsening. My fear is with time my record keeps growing and I wouldn't want someone I'm interacting with to know I have spent over four years @ the university without a GF. And stududying medicine ain't helping at all. I've also noticed I'm quite uncomfortable interacting with certaing guys too because I don't want them to discover the extent of my weirdness.
Like I'm 23 but haven't had a girl in my life ever, I'm not just talking about a girlfriend, I mean I haven't even had a close female friend ever and it kinda scares me because it ain't looking like I'd ever get one. Like I find I have a bit of shame walking along a road with many people that know me let alone walking along with a lady. It's like part of me feels it's wrong to be with a lady. Even when I've told myself it's just for sake friendship(no sex). Most of my friends don't have issues interacting with ladies as do normal guys but they are quite Christian minded and would want to be single till marriage or sth, but they do hv a lot of friends. I would want to learn how to get lots of lady friends, just friends, then probably move on to having a Gf.
What makes this matter pressing for me is that even though I seem to be doing well academically, I think it might not be for long if I don't do something as my depression keeps getting worse with time. Even if it's not about getting a Gf, An advice to help me accept being alone would do.
Like anyone who's got tips pls help me drop them. Insults are welcome if and only if they are conveying a message.