Hi guys, I think I'm an introverted extrovert.
Most introverts enjoy all their time alone, and don't love socialising but mine's a little different in that even though I do enjoy some time spent alone I get really lonely and depressed alot of the times. I really like socialising(with ladies especially) but damn I'm too shy/self conscious for my own good. I do manage to start a conversation without much difficulty but can't keep it going. I think I do have low self esteem despite making some progress in my life my self esteem issues seems to be worsening. My fear is with time my record keeps growing and I wouldn't want someone I'm interacting with to know I have spent over four years @ the university without a GF. And stududying medicine ain't helping at all. I've also noticed I'm quite uncomfortable interacting with certaing guys too because I don't want them to discover the extent of my weirdness.
Like I'm 23 but haven't had a girl in my life ever, I'm not just talking about a girlfriend, I mean I haven't even had a close female friend ever and it kinda scares me because it ain't looking like I'd ever get one. Like I find I have a bit of shame walking along a road with many people that know me let alone walking along with a lady. It's like part of me feels it's wrong to be with a lady. Even when I've told myself it's just for sake friendship(no sex). Most of my friends don't have issues interacting with ladies as do normal guys but they are quite Christian minded and would want to be single till marriage or sth, but they do hv a lot of friends. I would want to learn how to get lots of lady friends, just friends, then probably move on to having a Gf.
What makes this matter pressing for me is that even though I seem to be doing well academically, I think it might not be for long if I don't do something as my depression keeps getting worse with time. Even if it's not about getting a Gf, An advice to help me accept being alone would do.
Like anyone who's got tips pls help me drop them. Insults are welcome if and only if they are conveying a message.

Are you an only child, is your parents too religious, is your parents too domineering?.

All I have to say is that I have nothing to say at this moment


Let's wait for the elders...

At 23 na money I dey find. But since na obow your destiny want here goes. Every evening before you stroll comot drink better beer. If beer no dey drink Jack Daniels. If e no dey drink Chelsea. If e no dey drink Jedi. Go ye outside and toast any woman. Liver go Don dey your body.

Slap fit come no worry. After like 8 to 10 slaps to 500 abuses you go Don perfect the art.

Thank me later

If you are comfortable around women only, you are obviously a woman wrapper, womanizer and a Casanova period!

Face your studies guy!

Helicobacter:
Hi guys, I think I'm an introverted extrovert.
Most introverts enjoy all their time alone, and don't love socialising but mine's a little different in that even though I do enjoy some time spent alone I get really lonely and depressed alot of the times. I really like socialising(with ladies especially) but damn I'm too shy/self conscious for my own good. I do manage to start a conversation without much difficulty but can't keep it going. I think I do have low self esteem despite making some progress in my life my self esteem issues seems to be worsening. My fear is with time my record keeps growing and I wouldn't want someone I'm interacting with to know I have spent over four years @ the university without a GF. And stududying medicine ain't helping at all. I've also noticed I'm quite uncomfortable interacting with certaing guys too because I don't want them to discover the extent of my weirdness.
Like I'm 23 but haven't had a girl in my life ever, I'm not just talking about a girlfriend, I mean I haven't even had a close female friend ever and it kinda scares me because it ain't looking like I'd ever get one. Like I find I have a bit of shame walking along a road with many people that know me let alone walking along with a lady. It's like part of me feels it's wrong to be with a lady. Even when I've told myself it's just for sake friendship(no sex). Most of my friends don't have issues interacting with ladies as do normal guys but they are quite Christian minded and would want to be single till marriage or sth, but they do hv a lot of friends. I would want to learn how to get lots of lady friends, just friends, then probably move on to having a Gf.
Like anyone who's got tips pls help me drop them. Insults are welcome if and only if they are conveying a message.

At 23 you still have not learnt enough from social media that women chase men with money..... Then you come here thinking with your deek and start talking off point.... Are you ready to father a child, are you ready for the emotional stress or you think it's all about romance and sex.... I pity whomever celebrates your birthday. You are still a child.


Get your head clear and chase your destiny than women. Women will never notice you unless you have what they want in abundance. Be shy but be rich and ladies will make the first move on you.

It is misplaced priorities that makes a young man think that at 23 he needs a girlfriend... Smh

Yours is a case of misplaced priority, jare. Who female friends help? They will end up distracting you from your studies. Hello, hi, how are you, is ok for now with female folks. Studying medicine no be moi moi and it requires maximum concentration.

If you know the vibe that comes with keeping some kind of friends, ehen, you will thank God for your life. And you're here getting depressed over bullshit. Be happy jor. At your free time, play lots of music, read your books, attend Bible study and forget about depression.

Just focus and graduate, when you eventually become a doctor, I prove it to you that you will see, interact and become friends with so many women, especially if you're the type that knows your onion. Some female patient might not even likely get well until Doctor Helicbatcer personally attends to them. And what about those beautiful nurses that will be giving you body language upandan. Abi you no understand? There's always that particular doctor we naturally like the way he attends to us and that could be you.

No matter how shy or introverted you're now, your profession would help roll away your shy ministry when you start practicing. So don't get worked up over nothing abeg.

Helicobacter:
Hi guys, I think I'm an introverted extrovert.
Most introverts enjoy all their time alone, and don't love socialising but mine's a little different in that even though I do enjoy some time spent alone I get really lonely and depressed alot of the times. I really like socialising(with ladies especially) but damn I'm too shy/self conscious for my own good. I do manage to start a conversation without much difficulty but can't keep it going. I think I do have low self esteem despite making some progress in my life my self esteem issues seems to be worsening. My fear is with time my record keeps growing and I wouldn't want someone I'm interacting with to know I have spent over four years @ the university without a GF. And stududying medicine ain't helping at all. I've also noticed I'm quite uncomfortable interacting with certaing guys too because I don't want them to discover the extent of my weirdness.
Like I'm 23 but haven't had a girl in my life ever, I'm not just talking about a girlfriend, I mean I haven't even had a close female friend ever and it kinda scares me because it ain't looking like I'd ever get one. Like I find I have a bit of shame walking along a road with many people that know me let alone walking along with a lady. It's like part of me feels it's wrong to be with a lady. Even when I've told myself it's just for sake friendship(no sex). Most of my friends don't have issues interacting with ladies as do normal guys but they are quite Christian minded and would want to be single till marriage or sth, but they do hv a lot of friends. I would want to learn how to get lots of lady friends, just friends, then probably move on to having a Gf.
What makes this matter pressing for me is that even though I seem to be doing well academically, I think it might not be for long if I don't do something as my depression keeps getting worse with time. Even if it's not about getting a Gf, An advice to help me accept being alone would do.
Like anyone who's got tips pls help me drop them. Insults are welcome if and only if they are conveying a message.

You are ok like That, it's your comfort zone, anything from women will only bring you disgust

If there is a thing I discovered in life, is that the greatest people who has lived, either past or present are mostly those people who lived a life of seclusion. These is a powerful gift which people can't learn, but are born with and if channeled properly into something productive, there is no telling how great the outcome is going to be. Embrace this your magnificent gift young man and channel it wisely, not on frivolities. If you have ever have a dream to become great, trust me women should be the least of your problems, because when you become outstanding be it in any areas of life you have focused on, you will just naturally attract the ladies. But personally I must say this, who gives a Bleep about ladies?

Ladies are attracted with different things most especially unique features, like having abundant, unusual materials or gadgets, eloquent speeches with confidence, smart gadgets, smart cgpa, smart background, smart wears(flashy), ....

The question is......


Why do you give a FCK?


That's your problem

The right word for it is "Ambivert"

There's nothing like "introverted extrovert"