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It used to be that marriage was considered a cherished institution by the majority of people. But something has happened in recent years, and the idea of marriage isn't held in the same high regard by nearly as many people. That would certainly be one explanation for the higher divorce rate. Is saving marriage even worth it in the modern world, and if so, what are some ways to make it happen?

Let's be blunt about the state of marriage as it used to exist. While it was a lifelong commitment and it was incredibly difficult to get a divorce, this wasn't always a good thing. For example, a wife that was being abused rarely had no other choice than to bear it. That clearly isn't a good thing and is one of the reasons divorce laws have been loosened over time.

We can see that marriage isn't always a good thing, and even the purists out there will freely admit there are some cases where a marriage can and should be dissolved (even the Bible says adultery can be grounds for divorce). On the other hand, it doesn't make sense to let people marry and divorce as though they are going through a revolving door. So, on to saving marriage.

If you are married, then your marriage is probably the most important one to you; and rightfully so. You may think of saving marriage in more personal terms, especially if you are in a rocky relationship and have a hard time getting along. You want to know what you can do to save your marriage, and may not be all that concerned about it as a whole.

Saving marriage can only be achieved by keeping couples together (again, except in extreme cases). The couple who is facing tough times doesn't need to worry about the whole institution. They should do what they can to fix their marriage, because every marriage counts. In fact, if you are happily married and there is anything you can do to help a couple going through a rough spot, then by all means do so.

The more difficult part of saving marriage is to shift the collective attitude to one of respect for being married. How? There are no easy answers, but we have to start somewhere. A very simple first step is to treat marriage with deep respect. No more dirty jokes about cheating spouses, no more talk of the "old man" or "old lady", no more making light of it. Now, that doesn't you shouldn't have a good sense of humor; not at all. After all, being able to laugh is a great way to get along with others, including your spouse.

Saving marriage may seem quaint to a lot of people today, but it has a lot of benefits. For example, studies have shown that married people tend to live longer. Also, divorce not only hurts emotionally, it hurts financially, too. But, if more of us can be committed to making marriage work, then it will be better for everybody.

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Mother: Son I'm sorry i slept with someone that is not your dad 23 years ago. And that person is your real father.

Son: Mum, what rubbish! How am I to deal with this?! You should be hanged.

Mother: I am sorry he is my first love and i could not marry him cause we are of different religion. He is on the phone at the moment and wants to speak with his son for the first time ever.

Son: No i am speaking to no one. Mr Alani is the only father i know and so will that be.

Mother: Please dont be soo upset. Just talk to him.

Son: Ok, I will give him a piece of my mind!

Phone: Morning Son, I am Mallam Aliko Dangote. I am your real father.

Son: Daddy! Daddy!! Daddy!!! Thank God! I always knew there was something special about me, Thank you mum. You are the best mother in the world

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Have you been longing to find the perfect man but just don't have much luck in the boyfriend department? Does it feel like guys are just not interested in you? Are you the only one in your friend group that doesn't have a boyfriend? Perhaps it's time you developed some new skills that might help you to get a date.

It is actually possible to acquire new skills that can help you to overcome the obstacles that you face when trying to find a boyfriend. You can make some mental and physical changes, become more motivated, plus a few more ideas and you will be on your way to having that special man in your life.

You may be thinking that it's always the boy's fault that you haven't found the right man, but you also need to consider that it could be something that you are doing. Perhaps you are very shy and find it difficult to approach a man can initiate conversation. When you first meet a guy, he doesn't know the real you and only see's the outer girl, so he may not realize that you are very shy and might mistake your shyness for being a bit snobby or stand offish. This can possibly turn a guy off and he may never get to know the real you. It isn't easy meeting new people, particularly of the opposite sex, if you are a shy person so this may be the first obstacle that you need to overcome.

Look at your body language

You need to consider your body language and behavior as these could give the wrong message to a potential boyfriend. If you are shy and withdrawn, men may see you as not approachable, but if you are outgoing and friendly then it will be reciprocated by any men you meet. Shyness can often be mistaken for pride and coldness, although that isn't who you really are, this is what your body language and behavior may be portraying.

You might be a great person who is friendly and caring and that is fantastic, but a guy needs to know that to be attracted to you. You need to build up your self confidence so that you can show the 'real you' to everyone that you meet, rather than them miss out by not getting to know you better. If you have been rejected a number of times you may be thinking that you aren't good enough or attractive enough, but chances are that you are attractive and a great person and it may just be your body language that is letting you down.

Look at your past

Think about your past and the times when you have received compliments about your beauty, your skills, and your personality and so on. I'm sure if you think about it you will remember occasions when you have received compliments and all of these compliments are proof of your worth. Whenever you are feeling low in confidence and lacking self esteem, think back to a time when someone complimented you and it will give you a boost.

Put in an effort to be extra friendly

Even though you really are a friendly person, your shyness and lack of self confidence may stop you from being outgoing and as friendly as you could be. Put in an effort to be friendly more by doing simple things like smiling at a stranger, greeting people with a 'good morning' or helping someone whenever you have the opportunity. Try to do these little things as often as you can and you will soon become more comfortable talking to strangers. This is a big skill for you to use to meet a nice guy.

You need to develop the skill of initiating a conversation with someone and by saying hello and smiling at a stranger is a good place to start. You can also ask questions about a product you want to buy instead of just picking it up and buying it. By asking questions you are initiating a conversation with the shop assistant and helping to develop your new skill.

It is a matter of practising and developing your social skills to overcome your shyness and be a little more outgoing. Men will soon look at you in a different way and will be more likely to approach you and begin a conversation. You will soon find yourself having more fun, being happier and others will see you happier and they will enjoy your company.

When you develop your social skills you will soon find yourself fighting guys off and will have the pick of the bunch. It isn't always easy to change the way that you are, but with a bit of practise you will soon have those skills you need,

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A boy who had intentions of being a doctor got his WAEC result with two credits in Yoruba and Agric. Luckily for him he had an uncle who worked in the medical college, so he now embarked on a journey to secure an admission in medicine.
The following discussion went on between the boy and his uncle.


Uncle. - Jnr long time, how are you doing?



Boy - I'm ok 'I came looking for admission in your faculty.



Uncle - so how was your O' levels.

Boy - fine oh. I really want to be the first Doctor from our village and with your help I can secure admission.

Uncle - What was your result like?



Boy - Two credits in Yoruba and Agric .



Uncle - laughing for a while, and then said "u can still be a Doctor but a native doctor. You will use your credit in agric to look for herbs and Yoruba to chant your incantations."


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Nothing is more disheartening to a relationship than finding out that there has been infidelity. It can break your heart and can definitely knock the wind out of your sails. But, the good news is that cheating in a relationship can be overcome with time. Please take the time to focus on your relationship and try to work things out, in many cases you can. Don't give up.

One of the best things you can do is to take plenty of time to try to figure out what happened. Unless one of you is a chronic cheater, the cheating came from somewhere (not that this is an excuse) but to fix things you need to know what happened to create the situation in the first place.

If you or your partner has been going through some things and maybe that situation has put stress on your marriage or relationship than you may need to start there. But, I know I'm repeating myself but it's that important, that doesn't mean it was ok that either of you turned to another person to feel better about yourself. No matter what situations the two of you are dealing with, it doesn't make it ok to have an affair.

It's important to figure that out and fix the cause. You will also need to get help from a therapist. The hurt and anger that you can feel after someone has cheated can almost take on a life of it's own and it can be very difficult to work past it, especially on your own.

If the two of you understand that the process will take time and it will be painful yet you are still willing to do what needs to be done, than the two of you have a great chance of salvaging your relationship and maybe even making things better than they were before.

Of course, if one or the other of you has a long history of cheating than the problem runs much deeper than just some issue in your relationship. If either of you is like that than the best thing for you to do is for the "cheater" to get some serious counseling to figure out why they are so flawed that they think it's ok to do what they want to do no matter who they hurt and what promises you go back on.

When you make a commitment to someone, that is a promise. Even if you don't come out and say the words "I won't be with another person" once you and your partner enter into a committed relationship that is the same as making a promise.

If you just go about doing whatever you want to do no matter who you hurt, than you have problems. Sorry, if that sounds harsh, but it's the truth.

If this describes you than before you do anything please get yourself the help you need so you don't continue to go through life hurting yourself and anyone who has made the mistake of loving you.

Tough love can be, well, tough. Many of us come to a point in our lives sometimes where we have to face difficult choices and decisions. While it's not always fun and it's never easy, making changes and saving your relationship is possible but you have to start with you. Cheating in a relationship can be overcome, just be willing to put in the time and effort.

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This story tells us not to be 'too kind' to our bosses. Here it goes:

There's this Jed Smith  who was working for a multi-millionaire as a house guard. One day, while the millionaire was driving out to catch an early morning flight to conclude a business deal,  Jed Smith  ran out from the guard house and stopped the millionaire' s car just right in front of the
gate.

He said 'Sir! Sir! Are you going to board a plane?'

'Yes, why?' asked the millionaire.

'You had better cancel the trip. You see, last night I dreamt about the plane going to crash.'

Curious over the early morning fright that  Jed Smith  had given, the multimillionaire decided to cancel his trip.

'You better be damn right for this is a million dollar deal.'
The following day, there was a news report that the plane which the millionaire was supposed to take had indeed crash landed.

'Thank God, I cancelled the trip', the rich man said realising that what Jed Smith had said had come true, he summoned Smith to see him. When the guard was called that morning, the millionaire gave him his salary and FIRED him.

WHY did he do that?

Think first…,

Use
your brains…,

Use your brains!!!

Still no idea?

Come on…,  it is quite easy…,

Still drawing a blank

Just imagine you are Jed Smith  and you have saved your boss's life…,

OK, since you do not want to 'use your brain' like Jed Smith  before you talk to your boss.

Just scroll down for the answer …


Jed Smith was supposed to guard the
house at night. NOT to Sleep and Dream all night!

ADVICE: So, GO BACK TO WORK, and don't try to save your boss's life. It's not worth it!

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