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Hi folks, my name is julie. i am 27 years old pretty girl from the eastern part of Nigeria. i come from a poor back ground n was raised by a single mum who always beat us n throw us out of the room to sleep in the corridor of her house or on the street cz she was always paranoid.

my case was was in particular bcz i never knew my dad nor his relatives n the only man my mun introduced to me as a father was always denying me wn ppl asked  n he never did anything to support i n my mum but rather tried to rape me in d middle of d nt wn i went to liv e wt him at age 10.
 
at 15yrs i met this guy n moved in wt him n he was d love of my life, we planed to get married after living 2gda for 4yrs but i got pregnant, he wasn"t dt rich but his true love was ok for me not until the cold hands of death snatched him away from me but this was after i walked away wt my son who looked so much like him bcz his mum was raising hell against our relationship just bcz i did not come from his place.
i had no choice than to leave my son wt my num n followed my aunt to another state on the promise to gt me a job or help me further my education but instead they turned me into a house help.

i left n stated squatting wt a gf  n got a job smwr n was managing on my own to send money monthly for my mum for my son"s upkeep until aat 19 i met a white man in his 5os who claimed to be in love wt me.
he was so nice n caring n gave me everything i wanted n was really dr for i and my son but he refused to let me do anything in life like schooling working or even driving my own car he bought for me alone.

months later, he proposed n we got married traditionally and legally  n i got pregnant but he ran away immediately i showed him d scan result as he demanded n came bk after a month n said he wanted me bk n asked y i refused to abort d baby? he apologized n we moved to another country from nija, i came bk to nija to hv my white baby wt my mum as we agreed but he dumped me wn the boy was 3wks old.

i went back to dat country to meet him but i refused to mk any problem wt him cz i loved him so much as he apologized, cried n took us in but un known to me dat he was planning to elope wt my white baby n when he cud not succeed, after 3months he abandoned us in that country on the street n ran away n gave me a proposal on the phone to name my price the he will pay me and take his son n i wount have to see him again forever and that it is over btwn us.

i had lost n sold everything i had to care n to send  my 2 lovely n wonderful sons to d best schools and they r still leaving wt my num. 
i am managing  a little bznz of my own but do miss my kids second  but i am 2sad to kp them with me cos every time i see them, they remind me of their fathers.

getting over my foreign husband has been so difficult but i am sad about wat he did to me and what he has put me through even as i don"t have any means of reaching him for 4years now.

now my son is 4yrs old n d ist one 7yrs wtout a father.  i am tired of single life, tired of men n their lies. sometimes i feel like going crazy n i don"t know wat to do. right inside me, i know i am a faithful nice person just as people always describe me and i know [color=Black][/color]i still need a man and a shoulder to lean on or to get married again but men always want to take advantage of me or flee away the moment i tell them that i have2 kids and i just can"t lie about anything cz i later realized that my ex husband had a wife in his country n ws lying to me all along.  i am a very honest person but i just can"t find true love n true happiness. sometimes i break down, lock my self in my room n cry for days wtout food. pls help.