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cooooooks:
Nigerians should leave other Nigerians alone. Faxe your heterosexuality and leave Queer people alone.

How a supposed straight person goes about thinking about gay people everyday baffles me

Dude is just a DL, a gay person even gave him the contract he is working on now, so that he may not die of hunger

Mateen1000:
Las Las, This virus never enter naija
They wan us am embezzle again as usual

Na wetin ah dey reason so o Baba

Maybe Africans dey immune to am

So far so good, Lagos and Ogun State has managed it very well and Nigeria as a whole.

Kudos! Am starting to believe Nigeria has the capacity to deal with this issue. Since it will affect everybody, our politicians has sat up!

This country works when it really wants to work.

Palehair:
The first question I always ask homophobes especially the ones who say it's a choice is why on earth will someone wake up one morning and choose to be hated by the world? It makes no sense

Absolutely no sense! So if it was a choice
they think we'll pick it?

Palehair:
Wow, your experience was far different from mine and a little bit toned down. Mine was heightened, I felt angry at the world, myself and everyone else. It was a rush of emotions. I felt hate, disdain, scorn, anger, pain etc. It was all those vices piled up into one. I just wanted to die because I kept asking myself why me of all people who have it all. I'm so masculine and athletic, top of my class and blessed with good looks and yet I'm still not an "alpha male". I thought the whole concept of being a man is to be rugged, brute, masculine in everything. It wasn't as I started to find myself that I realized you don't need none of those to become an alpha male. A real man's first rule is owning up to his shit and doing whatever the fvck he wants as long as no one gets hurt

No cap..100%

Palehair:
love this. Thank you very much. I will never let societal norms let me betray my true self and hurt someone else in the process just to please people. They don't own me or my life. The fact that Nigerians mind goes to sex whenever homosexuality is being said shows how perverse they are. It definitely shows love doesn't exist between couples when marriage have been trade by barter for ages. Over here the anthem for marraige is "you marry me, satisfy me and give me children while I take of you" only a select few derail from this narrative, so they don't understand that gay love is so more than sexual pleasure. I know of gay couples who don't have sex and even a gay disabled couple who have their version of intimacy. I don't even try to change minds anymore, I just let them wallow in their ignorance.
It's ok to be homophobic, i've made my peace that not everybody will like us but they do have to tolerate us and they should never take it to the extreme by hurting people. That just shows how insecure they are

That's what i always tell people, it's ok to dislike what you don't like. Religion without the right education is a very deadly combination. I always say it that if i didn't experience the gay gene, i wouldn't have understood and maybe God knew this beforehand. You can't fully understand what you didn't experience. If there is a gay cure, gay people will all get it, that alone shows that they're not the cause.

If they're really afraid of their future kids, tell me how being homophobic and insecure has stopped people in the past from creating gay children?

Palehair:
I'm also trying to imagine how lonely you must have felt thinking you were the only person whose feelings were not "normal" back then unlike this age of social media and lots of information. At least, I know I'm not alone and I have my queer click of friends . I'm also very masculine and I dated girls(it was nothing serious) so no one knew, you did mention you were fem. Were you ever bullied and were there suicidal thoughts? It must have been really hard for you back then

Yeah. When i knew my sexuality since i was little but i didn't know it was really hated in the society. And you're right, i used to think i was the only one too
Until i started growing up, stories of how demonic and how cursed a gay person was, negative thoughts began to fill my mind, i started to question God, why he would make me what other people weren't. What did I do? I began to ponder on my life, if i ever offended God to curse me because i was a very religious kid. My fears amplified, i began to hate myself and plus i was fem, i hated it to the core! I wasn't bullied much because back then, brilliant kids were treated like gods and plus i was very rough and lived in a very rough environment, we had that typical challenging spirit in us, people were much nicer back then, maybe because i was a kid, they thought I'll change as I grow up. My friends were very protective of me too since i was a social and carefree person but i know most of them are now very homophobic, due to information from SM and the rest.

As i grew up, i found out how left out i was. I was nothing close to a typical male, people on social media can make you commit suicide with their homophobic sentiments, no matter how you try to fit in. I was devastated, even to the point of not believing in God again(if he really cared about my soul, he'll heal me) but God no kuku answer me , i even started keeping malice with God, i refused to pray of become religious anymore
If I go out, and make eye contact with gay people, triggering my gaydar, I'll feel like taking my life! I began to live my life based on people's Idea. All i wanted was to be normal, I didn't sign up for this.

Then i began to study, i discovered that being gay cuts across every ethnic group in the world, i read, i spent time trying to understand the concept of this queer feeling, why it looked so perfect but it's not. Then i began the journey i wrote earlier. It's a very long story.

Palehair:
Oh, i'm no sir... I'm still in my late teens trying to figure out my sexuality. It's confusing, don't know if i'm gay or straight but I refuse to wallow in self hate

That's it! The more you hate yourself, the more the gay gene attraction will grow. That what people don't understand, they think it's your fault, in Nigeria they'll be like "how man go leave pussy go dey straff him fellow man nyash" what they fail to understand is that, it's not just the sex, "THEY FALL IN LOVE WITH MEN LIKE YOU DO WITH WOMEN" the sex just comes as a form of lustful wanting of the body you love.

I am a nobody to tell people to fight what they didn't create because if there was a way out, every gay on earth would take it and be straight! I normally advice people like the Op that are gay but don't want to be.

If others feel they're ready to pass through the fire to maintain their originality, since they didn't choose or create it for themselves, then i won't tell you not to

In the end, make a decision rather than hating what you have no power over.

Hope you get the point? Am free to entertain questions

Palehair:
How can I like this a billion times? Your words are like living water quenching the flame of hate. Best advice ever. This made my day. Thank you

You're welcome sir

navzla:
There is or are genes designated for gay.Itz a matter of control and environmental influence. Some people decides in their lives never to have sexual intercourse, does it mean they ain't born with sexual urge?.everyone has sexual urge but control is very important

Am not denying the gene stuff either but i don't seem to get ur point

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From the comments above... religion is really the opium of the masses!

Op, you're even very masculine and you have a chance at survival. They say people are not born gay and it's a curse blah blah blah. If I didn't have an experience i would have followed this theory too. People always think it's about the sex, but it's not.

What did i ever do to God that he made me gay? Did i join Satan in trying to overthrow him? I kept on asking him this question since i discovered my sexuality right from childhood. How can he bless me with everything i ever wanted, from looks to brains to money and decided to add one setback, homo attraction? Mind you, i am the most religious person I've ever known since I was little up till now. Isn't that enough?

Then i stopped asking and decided to take matters into my own hand. Mine was worst because I was a bit fem at times but i decided to train myself very hard. You see, this stuff is like a house, you can't banish the owner of the house but you can introduce another person into the house. Dude i won't lie it was very hard but i was determined!

I trained myself not to hate and banish my original sexuality(because it wasn't working, no matter how i tried),but tried to love heterosexual sex. Meaning i preferred being bisexual than trying to fight what won't go. Now what i did next was to give more power to the new housemate than the original settler. I can't come and kill myself. I reduced it Influence, i trained myself with female nudes and forced my dick to adapt to it, to the extent of suppressing the gay gene.

Note: Never try to deny that the gay gene is not there else it will come back more powerful and shatter ur previous success.

I didn't deny the gay gene wasn't there i just ignored it. Women can be another source of setback for you. When i got my first and second heartbreak, I was frustrated and angry i even fell sick. The gay gene was like "i told you so " i almost dropped the journey but i didn't. Me wey don try masculine finish..

Even God acknowledged my trial to change and helped me too because i asked him during the journey. Today am a larger percent conscience free and don't have to read homophobic stories with fear but rather pity, because people fear what they don't understand. I no longer fear my future. My friends also helped, sometimes the right friends are worth it

People shouldn't blame and insult gay people because if they were a gay cure, no gay would think twice before getting it. They want a normal life but they can't get it

Am open to questions

Lamanii22:
Come to Jesus Hun... You're not gay.. Don't let Satan get to you... Jesus will save you Hun...

Who told you that will stop him from being gay? How can God create someone then Satan determine the sexuality?

How does it add up?

If Nigeria was a more serious country, i actually support the moving of State capitals to other towns in the state, so development can spread.

Some Nigerian states are only a bit developed in their in capital cities while the other towns and cities are neglected

Miner13:
this can only be in bornu state

It's in Akwa Ibom dude