₦airaland Forum

Saecula: I don't think it's about not knowing what she wants or inferiority complex. The truth is that a lot of things ranging from friends to the society affect our decisions. I can have a girl I don't think is of value and a friend might say ' boy this girl make sense o, it could be beauty, character wise etc. That comment might make me start seeing her in that light. As opposed to when a friend says ' o boy wetin u dey do with dis kain girl'. Its true that I have my life to live and make my decisions, but that comment could have subliminal effect on me which could in turn lead to hatred towards the girl.

I'm talking of someone you already have feelings for but u don't wanna have a relationship with cos of your friends. And when a friend makes a derogatory comment on a girl u like, u let him see ur reasons. Developing hatred towards such girl cos of what your friend said means you never liked the girl

AirborneLacer: It's the glaring truth.

I've been with most of them, conducted my researches well, done my surveys and it's all same fact - they are clueless about what they want.

Most of 'em have had their objectives misplaced, all they are left with is to conform - date b'cos everyother girl is dating.

And it only gets worse, when you have the educated ones falling victim to this.

What a shame

izaray: I can sense some signs of shyness in you! Be bold enough to look back at her, if she does too, avn't u be watching movies, at the end, they end up wit a soft hug, saying i love you e.t.c, so be wise pls.

Ramalingam(Silencer) said: These ideas do not work in the real world Chanchad!

My ex was like that. She doesn't cook or do all those housewife chores though, but she never accepted anything from me

olasmith10: my ex girlfriend wouldn't even allow me hug and kiss her in d room not to talk of @ d full glare of d public.. Well Maybe Cos she doesn't love me..

some ladies sha...

Are u sure she's your girlfriend?
Maybe you're in the zone

Ivanspring: She has inferiority complex combined with a weak will. Dating such a person could be a disaster because her friends can tell her to add some foreign bodies to your food in the bid to make you love her more and she'd do it too. Be careful.

lol you're right.

AirborneLacer: The answer is simple: The average Nigerian girl doesn't know what she wants in a relationship.

lol..
Funny thing is some girls say that. "...I don't know what I want"

dmcdad: I have very close friends today who are womanisers, love partying(lau lau), go clubbing et al. Yet, these are things I don't even imagine myself doing. (I ain't saying i am a saint here, its just my way of life. Besides, i am a melancholy and as such dont have time for much outdoor activities.) This doesn't mean they don't scold me in their own way every now and then. And of course, if I were someone else then I would have given up on my way of living for theirs.

That's it bro. Its all about your self esteem which most people lack.
This girl I'm talking about happens to be prettier than her friends. Why on earth will she allow them decide for her. I'm not sure they are the ones behind her indecision though

I was talking to a female friend and I told her about a girl I asked out and why the girl has not given an answer. She gave me some reasons on what might be stopping/delaying her. One of those reasons is the "friend factor". She said her friends might be discouraging her, showing off their rich boyfriends, blah blah blah...I'm not saying I'm poor, but I'm just d type who doesn't believe in a give and take relationship(I'm not any girl's father). Though little gifts once in a while ain't bad.
My question is why will a girl/lady let her friends decide for her even though she likes the guy. Why can't most girls make decisions on their own and stand by it?

MrIknowAll: People liKE u ainT welComeD hEre

Whats wrong with me?
Nothing obviously. You're the one who is not welcomed

MrIknowAll: .



INCASE

I thought people like you have gone into extinction...I'm wrong.