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[quote author=Mrzfavour post=86133002]Dear Op..
Welcome to the real world of marriage ..
Tears are for Nollywood cry babies Biko dry up that tears and map out Your next life plan.

If You were a widow with 4kids won't You survive?

Your MIL seems like a good woman but unfortunately most mum will always choose their blood..

Dust Yourself up You life doesn't start and end In marriage .

[quote author=Bluehill1051 post=86140453].
Bia.....
Mr Mama's boy will You keep quiet and man up to Your responsibilities....
Do You think sleeping around with any lady in skirt gives You the right to call Yourself a matured man who comes online to droll out advice yet act hypocritical when people deliberate on Your issue.
Or do You think marriage is a joke that gives You the right to toil with another human emotion?
If You are matured to sleep around then be prepared to cater for Your immediate family.

Marriage is not by force neither is it a weapon of subjugation the fact the op relies on Your family
today doesn't mean the table can't turn tomorrow.

Be wise

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@ Cheenway ,
I'm humbled by Your words. Thanks

@ Metooreal,
I believe every child is unique in a special way. Study Your kids and educate each in their own ways.
My child is 4yrs in nursery 2...knows how to write 1-100 perfectly and learning 100- 200.reads novels (children's novels) and practicing advanced maths and english .
Do U think it was taught in her school or by her teacher? Hell no.
Her teacher is still struggling to get the students to write 1-50 since beginning of third term.
U see My daughter started creche at the age of 2yrs where her creche mates was 11months -1yr +...But she was the only student that doesn't talk in class....withing 3 months she started school I had to advice myself.
You see Madam only a mother can be the best teacher for her children ,they are Your future and no school or teacher can impact more knowledge than a mother can. This are the formular I devised.
1) Go back to basic ..the way I was taught in my formative years I went to my mum's library and took my nursery school books and used that method for my Child when she encounters challenges in school.

2) At day time I become that working class woman but once I am home I stoop low to teach my child every evening except she is too tired ...I chat with her over topics that was learnt for the day and pretend I haven't heard such amazing topic then she becomes excited to teach me .

3) I blocked all cartoon network on dstv except only on saturdays (I learnt that from nairaland ).

4) Saturdays and Sundays evening are for reviews of all her school homeworks .

5) I take mental notes of all homeworks and draft mine when am less busy at work for Our daily private lessons.

6) Dont give them pressures during exams or be hard on them
kids learn by fun and games with parents where U Introduce topics to them (My hubby introduce me to the use of bottle tops and stones to teach her greater than and lesser than in maths).

7) Postive reinforcement plays a vital role ..Cheer them up and praise them on how brilliant they were able to accomplish what they do .

build a mini library for Your kids with lots of exercise books for their home use ..Give them little tasks e.g 1-20 and make sure each page is filled with a particular number ..just have fun teaching them when You are tired give them the book and push them to their Dad to coach them while You grade the score...

9) Never compare Your kids to any other children..Give them Your time and attention...

Finally, I learnt a priceless asset I can give my kids are not wealth or investments (although they matter) but knowledge and wisdom acquired through education...

To the doubting Thomas that will debunk my daughter's age and her class with calculator she was double promoted in creche
To Nusery 2 (I did home lessons with nursery 1 curriculum while she was in creche) ....She has been offered another double promotion now to primary 1 which her Dad declined too that she has to go to nursery 3 .

Above all before we begin our daily private lessons I taught her to say a short prayer on her books.