LuvSwollenPussy:

Yes very true. God bless you

Amen and you too

chinybelle:
What tribe are you?
If you are Igbo(not all part tho)
You can marry him a wife and the lady will produce children for him.
Go to the villages, there are families looking for opportunities like this

Can you please provide me with the names of some of those villages? He's not too into Ivf again. We've been thru a lot for years. Tried all sorts. Since he can impregnate a woman even at first intercourse, getting a wife is the ideal thing to do.

loveanonymity:
Let me add this too, I know IVF is costly and chances of success is small and you said you have tried 3 times, but if you are okay financially keep trying for some time more please. You still have viable eggs, don't let guilt and depression cost you what you can afford. And hey smile and laugh and joke with your husband, don't let him feel he already lost you to depressin and guilt, have fun with people that love you. Please reply me with smiling emoji atleast I will console myself that you are pretending to smile.

Thank you so much Sis

otunbablacq:
I can only imagine the level of discomfort, pain you are going through, it may be truly unbearable. However, i feel you should not throw away this genuine care just because of this pain. You have been enduring so why give Up now.

My options to you are

Both agree to adopt a child
Maybe he should get a second wife that way you remain to keep his care and love.

Please dont leave him alone at this period when he needed you most, you both will suffer depression and regret.

I wish you well

Thanks a lot for your kind words. I don't deserve them though. I live with so much guilt and depression. It's so sad to keep wasting his lifetime cos of me.

To everyone who said kind words :
Thanks for your care.

alexialin:
Op I know u are deeply hurt and sad but be hopefully. God always keep his promises at the end. You don't need to feel guilty that youve made your husband unhappy all these years. He chose and Married you even when he knew your status and that's true love. Seeking for divorce will only hurt him further. Like someone said u can opt for a surrogate mum that will carry both your baby for 9months and deliver. Life is not easy.. It's a process and u need to be strong to go through it.. U can't just divorce and live alone. Nope it's not right. My aunt was married for 18years before she deliver twins baby boys. She travelled abroad with her husband several times for IVF but no positive results. They eventually chose a surrogate mum to deliver their babes.. Although people do not know.. It's only few of us in the family that knows.. And everyone is happy. So please don't quit. U and your husband stil need each other. But inbetween what did your husband say about the divorce?

I told him and he said he'll think about it but he's been moody since then. There's a certain age one gets to, one does not need sentiments to handle a long time issue. I wish him to be strong and move on. The next news I'll love to hear is that he's now a father

NgoziOkoli:
and your sure ur brain is still functioning?

You meant that to yourself I believe

Efewestern:


Good morning madam, hope you are doing great?

I would advice you get him a lady who can bore him a child, then after that you take the baby, this can be done with ease.. divorcing might not be the right option since your husband isn't in support of it.

I can suggest a way this can be done,

How can it be done?

torqque7:
Hmm HIV positive and barren?correct me if I'm wrong but someone with these must have lived a very reckless life when young..so karma might be at play here,people will not listen until it's too late..destroyed life just because one was too carried away by vanity when young..too bad.

Some men Sef get mind sha o..

Hmmm.
Thank you for adding to my tears. Thank you. I was molested at 9 by my step dad. Many other things happened. Too terrible to write. I knew my hiv status at age 19. After 10 years of constant molestation. It's not your fault. I blame myself. I'm 34 now and I didn't live a reckless life to get hiv.
I only found a man who's like an angel and I hate myself daily for causing him pains. He accepted me even with all my past. Not up to 1% of all living men can do that. He deserves the best even if it's without me

otunbablacq:
I can only imagine the level of discomfort, pain you are going through, it may be truly unbearable. However, i feel you should not throw away this genuine care just because of this pain. You have been enduring so why give Up now.

My options to you are

Both agree to adopt a child
Maybe he should get a second wife that way you remain to keep his care and love.

Please dont leave him alone at this period when he needed you most, you both will suffer depression and regret.

I wish you well

Adoption is not as simple as many people think. We've tried it all. To even think he impregnated my maid within the 2-3 times they made love is very disheartening. What I couldn't do in 15 years, she did in 3 days. It's better he has his own offspring

chinybelle:
What tribe are you?
If you are Igbo(not all part tho)
You can marry him a wife and the lady will produce children for him.
Go to the villages, there are families looking for opportunities like this

Really? Unfortunately I'm yoruba and he's akwaibom.

LuvSwollenPussy:
Sincerely I never knew such women still exist...ladies who can take decision by themselves based on conscience. It is always somebody advicing them to satisfy their jealous nature or go to one babajuju blabla even thought they know down their mind that its wrong.

But being a business partner with an ex-husband, my dear it won't work, if it does, it won't last long. Not every woman is like you. The new woman he'll find after you would manipulate him and initiate business disagreement somehow. So don't even think of it. You may agree to do it for d mean time but know it may not go on for long

I know it won't be for long. Working on floating my own business and dividing all existing business interests into 2 in the near future. It's hard to face reality but if it makes him more fulfilled as a man and father, then so be it.

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