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k2039, Mynd_44. Thanks for the comments, I appreciate it

I’m 23 years old and my fiancé is 27 years. We met in the UK. He’s Yoruba and I’m Ibo. We have been dating for a while until he proposed. We decided to come back to Nigeria to get acquainted with our families. Ever since he introduced me to his family, they have been very hostile towards me, they are angry because I’m Ibo. They don’t approve of our union. My fiancé has been trying to talk to them to convince them that I am not a bad person. My family has nothing against him, but they are not happy about their attitude towards me, my fiancé has been very supportive and he recently told me that his family may never accept our union, and it’s best we get married with or without his family’s approval. My family do not agree with this decision because they feel if his family does not get along with me even before marriage then it would be a problem in the future since a woman does not only get married to her husband but also gets married to his family, they advised me to stay away from him . His cousin called me to tell me his family already found a Yoruba girl for him to marry and if I don’t want to end up being one of two wives I should just stay away from him. I told my fiance and he said its just one of their plot to separate us.
Seriously I thought Nigeria has passed that level of tribalism, what has being ibo or Yoruba got to do with how you feel for your fellow Nigerian. How can people judge me based on my tribe without even getting to know me .
I love my fiance very much and I don’t want to loose him. I m confused right now, what is the right thing to do, go ahead and marry him or take my family’s advice to stay away from him. Please, I need your advice