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Solofresh2:
You are being optimized. You are not being "reunited" or "given a gift." You are a dormant resource being extracted by a woman who has run out of better options. The child may be yours. That child deserves a father if so. But the child also deserves a father who enters that role with clarity, not manipulation. She stole your choice once. Don't let her steal your judgment now.

Demand a perternity test before any further discussion

Namaster:
Thanks for this advice,I will definitely do as you said

Tell her to bring the kid and BEFORE you say/do anything, go for a DNA test.

It DOESN'T matter how much the child LOOKS like you, STILL run a DNA test.

You are DEALING with a disloyal CHEATER.

If DNA confirms the child is yours, take STEPS to play a BIG ROLE in her life.

If POSSIBLE, tell the WoRHe that you're willing to take the chill OFF her hands so she can FOCUS on catering for the other two KIDS.

Your GOAL is to ensure that your DAUGHTER (as confirmed by DNA test) is NOT raised by a Single Mother.

If you LET your daughter be raised by a Single Mother, you may end up being the FATHER of a Nigerian Bonnie Blue.

ALSO, the claim that she DIDN'T tell you earlier because you were NOT "ready to settle down" is clearly a LIE.

After all, she was ALREADY firmly settled down with a WIFE-BEATER (allegedly) at the time she was FROLICKING with you.

She was ESSENTIALLY married.

And she did NOT want to LOSE her PROVIDER.

Now that that's done and she's STUCK raising THREE kids by herself in this Great Tinubulation, she's looking for another FINANCIAL CUSHION, aka YOU.

Anyway whatever you do, NEVER invite her to live with you.
Unless you want to be the BREADWINNER for another man's family.

If you LET her guilt-trip you into ANY kind of cohabitation, be ready to PROVIDE for 3 extra people.

And when she's SUCKED you dry, she'll tell the NEXT guy you were a "wife beater".

Have SENSE!