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eepeepook:
Learning road signs no be mind. Go to a driving school. Thank God companies force drivers to attend proper driving schools first before getting employed.

lildush:
This is not an excuse bro.. you should have left her alone d moment u found out she is dating someone else.. is she d only girl in ur vicinity? Now see ?? what are we.. sorry u going to do now? Because na only u dook d girl..we no follow 🤣🤣🤣

untoldtruth:
If the second is yours, to whom do the first and third belong to?
You said she was married, when you begin chop berating you quickly changed it to "she was cohabiting".
OP, you deserve every little thing coming your way just like she's coming this weekend and just like she's coming this weekend, you won't be able to avoid the consequences of your actions.
Enjoy 😂

realsoftouch:
OP is a serial lier... How can u not be ready to marry and you became the father of her second child.. Not the first... It means you have been foocking a married woman because she is ur ex..

People like you have crashed lots of marriages with ur prxxk..

ibechris:
If u don't have money for DNA test,do a simple blood test.

Onegai:
Ikeno,

Please tell her to meet you at Mecure, Lagos state DNA testing facility (Marina, Lagos Island)or Clina-labs with the child to do a DNA test.

I hate to agree with a previous poster (because he called her a vulgar disgusting word with no proof) but she cohabited with someone and had 3 kids and somewhere along the line, was still having time for you.

That's not great judgement being shown by either her or you.

She may be looking for financial ease and decided to do this.

Be firm, ask for DNA test and don't let her move in with you.

If the DNA test comes back as your child, decide what to do. You can offer to take that child (are you married, are you ready to be a single dad, don't start looking for girlfriend to help you, most won't want to play stepmum). Or you can give her money for upkeep monthly (I'm more concerned about this route, as neither of you have shown good character judgement).

You can't force her to give up custody because legally under Nigerian law, that's her child and not yours (unless you marry her and then all the kids belong to you).

You should get your parents involved so that if she is your kid, they can convince this woman to release that child into your care and their care, as it may be better for her future to have stability.

Solofresh2:
You are being optimized. You are not being "reunited" or "given a gift." You are a dormant resource being extracted by a woman who has run out of better options. The child may be yours. That child deserves a father if so. But the child also deserves a father who enters that role with clarity, not manipulation. She stole your choice once. Don't let her steal your judgment now.

Demand a perternity test before any further discussion

Namaster:
Thanks for this advice,I will definitely do as you said

Tell her to bring the kid and BEFORE you say/do anything, go for a DNA test.

It DOESN'T matter how much the child LOOKS like you, STILL run a DNA test.

You are DEALING with a disloyal CHEATER.

If DNA confirms the child is yours, take STEPS to play a BIG ROLE in her life.

If POSSIBLE, tell the WoRHe that you're willing to take the chill OFF her hands so she can FOCUS on catering for the other two KIDS.

Your GOAL is to ensure that your DAUGHTER (as confirmed by DNA test) is NOT raised by a Single Mother.

If you LET your daughter be raised by a Single Mother, you may end up being the FATHER of a Nigerian Bonnie Blue.

ALSO, the claim that she DIDN'T tell you earlier because you were NOT "ready to settle down" is clearly a LIE.

After all, she was ALREADY firmly settled down with a WIFE-BEATER (allegedly) at the time she was FROLICKING with you.

She was ESSENTIALLY married.

And she did NOT want to LOSE her PROVIDER.

Now that that's done and she's STUCK raising THREE kids by herself in this Great Tinubulation, she's looking for another FINANCIAL CUSHION, aka YOU.

Anyway whatever you do, NEVER invite her to live with you.
Unless you want to be the BREADWINNER for another man's family.

If you LET her guilt-trip you into ANY kind of cohabitation, be ready to PROVIDE for 3 extra people.

And when she's SUCKED you dry, she'll tell the NEXT guy you were a "wife beater".

Have SENSE!