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ladycomfort: Well, this is not the first time of hearing a story like this. I think its time ladies know that no man wanna marry a lady that had abortions for him. Guys prefer to marry ladies that had abortions for other guys. But OP ask for her forgiveness, cos i know u will neva marry her.

I don't know how to plead anymore, just confuse

Sunkyphil: Guyman just dey break pulley dey go wen e dey sweet u no call nairalanders na.



Back to ur topic i think both of u really need to sit down and define what u guys want so dat d two parties will be happy. And next time use a condom

Yea I thought a long discussion of this nature will work but bro it seems to escalate issues, I am just hoping she changes her mind from redeploying back to Uyo,

fleezytran: Ufan mmi,
1. For all u knw , dt babe myt av lost her womb for u & never will let u go for dt reason or let u go wif a curse.
2. I stongly bliv it's easier for guys to be married and still go to school if u really luv her, marry her & continue ur education.

Emesiere Ooooo

Thank you boss, I still believe there is a huge difference between boyfriend/girlfriend and marriage , secondly I am not ready for marriage now, my family won't even hear of it.

tiswell: Op,if the babe is really good as u said,maintain the relationship,marry her.Am not from Akwaibom but am based there,Akwa ibom babes are good,am presently dating one and there is no big deal if it leads to marriage.Leave ur excuses and ''say no to abortion''.

Thank you for your response, I am honestly not ready for marriage and I believe it will be wrong for me to keep her waiting till I am ready (5-7years) time. Thou I never propose or promise to marry her .5years is too much of a long time for me to keep a lady who will be 29 by then, technically I feel the decision is for her own Good.

she will be leaving for her service on Tuesday and I am strongly praying she will change her mind on redeployment back to Uyo.

bykebyke: Just Imagine..After the girl has done the Abortions..the o.p is using education as a means of escape

not a means of escape bro, by the time am done with school she will be 28+ , the age factor will be working against her by then, besides till am thru with school marriage is not in my agenda of which she knows, secondly I have never promise to marry her.

PLS Nairalanders I know how you hate long stories but find time to read and help by dropping your comment, suugestion and opinion #SaveANairalander >>>><

No need to bored you guy with long details about my school, in simple terms I failed most of my courses that will have me spend more than  2 extra years to write them back. I was leaving in denial thinking I will sort it out thru the back door but for where , nothing worked out ( this alone has created a very big problem between me and my entire family, I understand they were completely disappointed) I have lied to my self, my family , I have made every one beliv it was actually my school that got some of my results missing.

I got a job in Akwa ibom with a firm , I quickly relocated , boooom !!! Uyo was the my dream place , the city is clean and not too noisy with alots of business potentials . 2months on in Uyo I met this pretty lady which I got attracted to, I asked her out and we started dating. We got so used each other that one would think we have been dating for years , she was my only friend in Uyo and we had almost everything working , I must  admit she's good, she completely stopped me from eating out as her food was wow, she washes my cloths iron them and virtually do everything to make me Happy, our sex life was great I assumed then she had some extra moral classes on how to satisfy a man in bed, this confirmed all the stories I have heard about Akwa ibom girl, she also has her bad side, she was domineering and wants to have her ways all the time, she also argues a lot, I complain about all this but she promise to change which she did gradually.

Early november last year she called me to say she needs to see me urgently , I wasn't bothered cuz whenever she want my attention that's usually her trick I ignored her till I got her sms (she's pregnant) I asked her to come to the office immediately, she came explaining how she went to the hospital to check and all that stories , I took the test result from her and I was completely frozen inside, we have been very careless of late, I couldn't remember the last time I got a CD, chai na so this Akwa ibom girl wan take tie me down , how will I face my family plus my unresolved school wahala , truly I love this girl but I am so not ready for this moment, I was burning inside but the looks on her face was different , she was very relaxed as if its a normal day, she had once told me she had never had an abortion before and can not have a child outside wedlock, I stand to leave till she drop the bombshell (in her exact words) "Baby you know I need to take care of this issue today" jeeeez !!!! I was speechless , I tot she had not done this before, how come she's so bold to come up with a solution, I have never seen her with any friend and she said she doesn't have any so who is actually giving her all this ideas before I could decipher all that was running in my head another bombshell from her landed " baby I called my doctor friend and he said he will collect 17k to do it and he said I shud come this evening" she sounded like a professional in this biz, I was complete lost for words , could she be lying to me ? How come she has all the contacts and solution right within her and she claim she has never done such, my anger dashed away, this babe is lying to me, she's not pregnant maybe she want to see my reaction or something, I wasn't still satisfy I needed to be sure I took her for a test in a nearby clinic and lol and behold she's pregnant, she was angry that I didn't believe her but that doesn't change the fact that there is more to her than I know, I needed a solution and she's already offering one na me go come say no ? I counted 20k for her and dash off to the office with a deep wound in my heart, how could I have been so careless ?

I needed more than what I was getting at work and my firm wasn't the right place to be, Uyo is blessed and its only a blind man that won't see all the investable opportunities all round, I moved on from my company, went dark for a while to plan and do a business survey, after about a month I got my office ready to kick start something I have grown to love doing, within 3months  I had already made some contact and the business was gradually picking up by this time my Akwa ibom girl was becoming too clingy, I needed some breathing space so I could focus to build my new business, I didn't want to hurt her esp after that incidence, she had started introducing me as her husband and inviting me to her house of which I obliged given one excuse or the other,  I told her that until my school issue is resolve I will not be thinking of marriage , even my family won't hear of it, we got careless again and it happened again, if I had assume the first one was a mistake then this is actually stupidity on my own part,  after the second one was also done we agreed to be extremely careful, after about 3months before I could say jack Robinson another one had entered, in just 10months of dating, this girl has gotten Pregnant thrice. Which Kain wahala be this ? I dey craze ni ?, I vowed to end the relationship as soon as this one is done, there is no way I can continue like this I had to stop completely. About a month after I got a call from school that all my runs to clear my self from school had crashed ( after spending huge sum) its either I start afresh or go back to spend more than 2years  I tot about it and decide to start a fresh,  but there is no way i am going back to start a full time bsc programme,fortunate I got info that National Open University form (NOUN) is still on sale , I got admitted immediately, I called my Akwa ibom girl to let her know my stand on the school matter. I told her I won't be thinking of marriage till am done with school, and I can't keep her for 4 years or more depends on when I graduate from NOUN, and that 2months is more than enough for me as a person to change my mind,I pleaded with her to forgive me for wasting her time for about 10months now, I made her to understand its d best decision as age won't be on her side by the time I graduate from school, she will be 28 by then and that its not the best decision for her to wait  for me, she said she understand and left, I completely kept my distance and avoid every form of intimacy with her thou we still see and talk. She complain that even if we are not getting married this is not how we shud end the relationship and that we shud still act normal, she complain I no longer have sex with her  or eat her food of which I told her I can't as that will be as if am taking advantage of her, that was where her madness was let loosed, she complain I am leaving her for another girl , last time she came to my office I was with a female friend and she practically walk the girl out of my office, she now feels she controls my whole life and she's desperately forcing her self on me. I called her this afternoon just so we can sort things out , she came insisting that we shud still act normal , I agreed but insisting no sex but she bluntly refuse stating that she's human and has feelings. I told her since she's going for Nysc next month that it will be a fresh opportunity for her to go outside Uyo  and start afresh, she said if that's the d case I shud be ready to leave Uyo as she will redeploy back to Uyo after her 3weeks in camp, we were still talking when she started crying , that I want to dump her after she had aborted 3 pregnancies for me, that I shudnt worry she knows what to do, she stood up and was about laying a curse on my future children , I scream at her to stop the madness and hear me out, I talked to her to calm down first before doing something we would both regret.

Honestly I am getting scared, this girl can do anything/everything  thou she later apologies she can't lay a curse on me but I see that as a face saving story,  if I had not stopped her she would have said what's on her mind, I heard of stories of how issues like this end up. I am completely confuse


I need help, I honestly do. #SaveANairalander

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