OAM4J:

Have you gotten any information from your sister? Did he actually despoil or attempted to despoil your sister?

What do you personally want? Will you be able to forgive and still live with him? Especially if the two families ask you to do that.

Her lines are not going through for now.

Seeing him last night I have almost forgiven him already. just pray he realises his mistakes and change for good otherwise with wot has happened if he continues something more tragic could happen to him.

sexxxxy:

hmmmm, question,

Have you directly asked him,if he molested your baby?

Yes, he said how can I be asking such an abominable question, that how can he be sleeping with his own
daughter, that do I realise is a taboo?  He said he will kill whoever is responsible, I said since he has not denied the allegation that he too should be sentenced to death by firing squad/hanging for doing same to another man's daughter, he kept quiet.

This is one of the curses of the H.help in her letter upon my husband, now it's already manifesting, she said she will revenge with the last drop of her blood and that she is going to invoke the spirit of her late grandmother who toiled day and night to train her till she died  fight for her in this matter, that my husband will never know peace.

I have be calming her down and pleading with her to forgive, she said she will only exclude me and baby and my hubby must face the consequences of this actions.  she is likely to go this weekend, will settle her well and still plead with her once more.

I woke him up this morning so we could talk, immediately he saw me he just pick up his phones, charger, car keys and hurriedly left home even without brushing his mouth, I couldnt help but laugh

agabaI23:

He is living in his own world of regrets now.

I think so too

OAM4J:

influentia

You dont have to respond to every comment here in NL. Dont let anyone work you up.

BTW, how are things progressing? and how is your daughter?

Both families and a representative from the girl's family are expected to meet today over the issue b4 the girls leaves.

I went back home late last night so I could ask my hubby some basic questions before the meeting, Alas when I got home he wasnt there (didnt pick his calls nor responded to his numerous text messages prior to this time).

I called him to enquire about his whereabout he said he was afraid to come home cos he doesnt know wot to expect anymore. He was sounding so pathetic, I told him the girl is going 2morro (today) that if things are left the way they are b4 she leaves it's going to get messier. He made me promise that I wasnt going to violent and I kept to my promise.

He came shortly b4 mid-night, after resting a while I went to him calmly but with firm and recounted all he is being accused of, he was mute, i told him to look straight into my eyes and tell me it's not true, he was quiet, I now slowly recounted how an innocent baby have been suffering and how the other house help and my sister left and her last statement as she was moving out her things "I dont know what u begged me for that I didnt give u that u now hate me this much" my husband's aunty was around that day and she heard. Hearing all these he rose up his head and looked straight up to me with quilt written all over him and said he couldnt say anything now that he wanted to sleep, that we were going to talk about it later, he went to the other room and locked up himself. I handed a photocopy of the girl's parting letter to him and ask him to go through it.

If anybody calls concernng the matter, he calmly says he is busy that he call them later but he never did.

sexxxxy:

meshionu u this chiddyville, u r as dumb as your name, ignorant a s s,


abeg @ influentia,i apologise on behalf of this slowpoke, ,
pls,do what u have to do, and remember,put it before God and commit everything to him,he'll surely guide u thru this nightmare,

Thank u girl, I ask for God's grace and strength

I sincerely think chiddyville is from the ape planet, he is not human

people pls beware for this DEMON home wrecker on the   prowl[/size][size=8pt]

@Chiddysville, joining words with an idiot like u is just a waste of my precious time, I never substantiate the claim of my husband sleeping with the baby, I said he could be the one cos of this rape issue and beside how were u expecting me to have behaved in the heat of a crisis, that I hadnt confronted him doesnt mean I dont want to, its just cos I dont wanna overreact and spoil things.

After finding out that he raped someone am sure u expected me to just laugh it off and pretended that it never happened or wot, just as u confine your wife to doing after dastardly acts right??
of course I felt bitter that he has been cheating and still be the one threating me, i dont want to incure the wrath of something I no nothing about if it happens that he actually slept with baby cos of where we are from.

am sure u were also deaf and blind to the meeting that have been called by the elders in  the village.
Well if working to provide the best for my baby is eating u up, then u must roast in hell then cos I cant begin to beg to feed her while I have my 2 hands. I do the best I can to be there for her. that u lack affection for ur children doesnt mean everyone is the same.

@Chiddysville, wot an slowpoke are u that u cant comprehend things, events are still happening and I am taking my time not to act stupidly then u are here constituting public nuisance.

yes I was confused that I didnt know how to ask him, just wanted to use the girl in a way, all that is not necessary cos extended families are already involve.

u know wot, its just a waste of time explainning to an ape like u, cos u are never going to uderstand anything
cos U are such a useless lowlife Chiddysville, please get some life.
Baby needs me now.

Peace out

@Chiddysville, It is so disgusting for me to start reponding to every thing u've said, your comments shows a clear demonstration of the stuff u are made of. u are worst than the man in question and am sure u are quilty of greater offenses which is why u dont give a hoot.

u must be the man that impregnated mother and child , u silly homosexual. Your comments shows u are brainless and empty, otherwise u shouldnt expect someone in my situation to be giving a bit by bit account especially events are still unfolding.

u only read that my hussy picked her up but u were blind to see that we have left home, how many minutes does it take for one to leave home. He picked her up from school and we left home afterwards u idiotic fool.

only God knows what your daughters/girls are already suffering in your hands slowpoke

Chiddysville:

@ poster, continue with your nollywood tale. it's getting interesting. feeling sorry for the gullible ones

what do u mean by nollyword story, if u dont have anything to contribute berra shut your trap.
U must think everyone is like u mheeeeeeeww

Roliks09:

@ poster, I noticed certain discrepancies in your tale and I hope u arent feeding us lies or directing a nollywood film which you are looking for a suitable end to.
That being said, I'll say u divorce him if u find out all these are true. People out here clamoring for you applying wisdom and saving your marriage must be disillusioned. He threw your marriage away when he first harboured thoughts, not even the actions of committing adultery. As for your daughter, what the hell is she still doing around him and in the day care. Its going to have SERIOUS consequences on her life. Kids rememba stuffs, and it may spoil her forever. I've been molested, and I know wassup.

As for him threatening u wheneva u come late, its his tactics to prevent u from seeing the real devil- HIM!
I wish u all the best.
and yeah, someone said maybe its cos u're denying him sex. OMG! I cant believe the wickedness in this world, cos its only that that'll make someone rationalize these act of even higher degree of wickedness.

Pls point out the descripancies and I will clarify

@ hauler

I thought u said you moved the kid to a safe place, so how the hell did your husband manage to pick her up from school? You're telling fairy tales girl

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@hauler, We left last night after work then the baby had come back from school

@agaba123
BTW poster, are you sure that your is sister is not the one who cried out in this post last year?
She said that they from Edo state and she talked about a baby as well.
I am in love with my sister's husband

She probably listened the voice of nairalanders and ran away.

This happened when you went to a training course in Abuja.

The lady in question was also a carrier woman like you. hmmmmm

@agaba123 No am not the lady being talked about in that sorry as I have never been to Abuja before. I also read that story too.

@Roliks09 I cant remeber deying him sex, at least he did complain about to me, so wot's his problem

@Moderator, please consider moving this to the family section, it will do alot of good there.
Never knew/heard similar things happen until I started opening up to people. If possible duplicate it on both sections

@ chaircover, thanks for your concern, when I first noticed I  took her to 2 different  hospitals but they werent so sure all they said was that the hymen was still intact. they couldn't rule out the possibility of fingering etc I doubt if it's the H.help cos they are hardly alone and again it started before she came. I planed on taking her today for proper/general check up.

@mothers in the house is it normal for mucus to be found in a child's p.area I saw this yesterday too and it was my hussy that picked her up from school.

@all, thank you so much and most especially chaircover, I have already taken some of the actions  suggested.

As it is now I dont even wanna see my husband, we haven't seen since yesterday and I am not picking his calls(over 100 calls). I have taken the house help and my baby to a safe place.

There is fire and brimstone everywhere that he praying for the ground to open up and sallow him.
This is just the beginning for him.

This matter is beyond just the cops as he is been already invited in the village for face the elders and undergo the consequent punishments.

If all these could be happening right under my nose u can imagine wot is happening out side.
He has been summoned to a meeting in Lagos here to face a shamefull/disgraceful interrogation even b4 the girl leaves.


This is a man who I have never had the thought of cheating on but he  will always bully me if I spend a minute outside saying I will soon confess wot I have been doing and that I will soon be invited in the village, he was just torturing and blackmailing me emotionally that I was always being weak and threatened. see the ironing of life? one day I spoke up in tears and cursed that if I am guilty may his wishes come to pass but if I am innocent may disgrace befall those who wants me disgraced. now it happened he is running helta shelta and calling the H.help on fone asking why did she report.

Pls I really need this right now for my 1yr 4mths old daughter
I know what am talking about, pls how can I make orders

Big-Man @Poster - If i understand you well, your husband despoiled his own daughter? Habaaaa, this cant happen unless your husband is not a Nigerian or he is under curse.

Your thread is hard to believe especially the latter part on your daughter. Are you a Nigerian? Nigerians understand the consequences of making love to their own children let alone 1.4yrs old. You mean he can despoil that kid without injury occurring As per the other part of the story, get your facts well. Like someone suggested, call your sister and the former house girl to narrate their own versions.

If everything is proven, take your husband to the church for deliverance as this is not normal. Dont kill your husband. Remember the Bible says he who kill with sword must die with the sword.

@ Big-man

My husband is from a part of Nigeria where things like this are forbidden the most (Ishan, Edo State) those people that knows our culture should know exactly the enormity of this crime. Big-man there are hairs and redness in the area. she is my baby and I know wot am talking about.

I didn't catch my husband with my baby, all I know is that there are strong evidences that she is being frequently despoiled but dont know who and how. To me, since the H.help has been refusing him, he now turned to baby for satisfaction,that's is my logical conclusion.

As for taking him for deliverance, dont think I am gonna force him if he doesn't want to
I will only pray for him and if he doesn't change his actions will take his life/kill him one day very soon and all the insults and curses from his victims will be his head ALONE. My daughter and I never part took in the act and I have not even contemplated cheating on him before for the 2yrs we have been married.

Owner of evil load go use him head carry am. nai b my own

Hey peeps thank you all for your contributions so far, I know I will always count on NL

Yeah he has to be disgraced if not for anything for all his threats that he will call a family meeting (both families) at every slightest provocation and that I need to confess wot I have been doing. there is no such time better than now. Not knowing that he has been using that as a cover up for his acts.

The newest house girl is still around and willing to testify before she leaves and funny enough her family members are ready to wage war against my hussy family in the village because we are all from the same place. I have put a call across to my mum she couldn't believe her ears, the girl will stay till end of month b4 she leaves and I have told her wot to when he dares her again.

Yes I have to get my facts right and my sister is ready to open up too. I have arranged with the girl to provoke a situation where my husband will want to bully her and then she will speak up and narrate the ordeal b4 his very presence.

My husband doesn't know any of  these for now, he doesn't even know the main reason for the fight last night but he is beginning to think the girl has told me something, even after smashing his head severally times and biting him he still knelt down and started begging forgiveness over 'nothing', I pretended all was well but I have my plans.

He came to my office this afternoon and we had lunch he was still petting and begging, he kept saying wot is the matter with you, did any body tell u anything about me? I said noooooooooo.
He has been trying to be extra nice,,,eeeeeediot

PLEASE MY STORY IS LONG JUST TAKE PAIN TO READ IT

I am burning inside right now, I want to set my husband ablaze and watch him burn to ashes before my very eyes but my conscience wont just allow me. Only last night  I discovered that my husband is a serial r.a.p.i.st, for now I don’t know what to do to him.

We have had several people lived with us but they all left one after the other without any cogent reason. First it was my younger sister of about 20yrs who left us, enquired why, she just said she could just cope and she is no longer happy being in the house. Next was the house help we got, she left same way and abandoned our baby with our neighbours. I got a new one afterwards and she been saying she wants to leave  barely a month after she came and have been misbehaving seriously, though she is very respectful but she never take corrections, if u admonishes her about little things she will do worst. Yester night I got so very angry with her for the time that I raised my voice at her, questioning her upbringing and manners. Then she said “I am not who you think I am, am not dirty nor wayward, am only doing these things to hurt you deliberately cos of what I have been going through in your house” I couldn’t place a finger to what she was saying cos I treated her well, she dishes her food most times and I don’t disturb her with much work so wot could she be talking about??

When I probed further she told me wouldn’t talk about it and that she had written a parting letter and was going to drop it and leave it after taking baby to school but because I have been very nice to her and the way I spoke with her in the morning before I went to work she will tarry a little while I look for another person. She handed me 3 pages of written full scarp sheets I couldn’t believe wot I saw. She wrote how my husband despoiled her just the second day in  our house, she cried and shouted but there was no body to rescue her kai, and still persisted after then, when she refused my husband hated her with passion, I noticed the hatred too because he was always complaining about her, I thought it was cos of the girl’s sluggish attitude but to me that wasn’t enough for his bullies I was just quiet since she said she wasn’t staying again. I was dazed when she told me all these and couldn’t just hold myself but I apologized to her  and was going to pretend to my husband that I hadn’t heard anything.

I later heard that my younger sister confided in someone that she cos she couldn’t bear my husband advances and harassments anymore, same complain with the other house girl. And once u refuse him he displays total hatred towards them and start treating them like shirt. My husband used to like my sister a lot all of a sudden he wouldn’t just hear her name again, it was that bad.

The worst of all now is that someone have been violating my babygirl of 1yr 4mths+. She stays in the crèche  while I work. It’s so obvious that I see hairs around her private and she sticks her hands inside once in a while. The baby is so intelligent that she does everything that is been done to her. She pours water on herself and tries to bath herself, tries to wash her mouth, eat etc and now she is sticking her hand inside her private, it means someone have been doing that to her also + the redness around the p.area.
Her crèche is an open place, only matured women works there and there are other children there. I have been telling my friends that I was going to confront them, they said it cant be possible that it’s only in my imagination. Now I believe it’s my husband’s handwork.

In the middle of these thought he drove in and entered into the house, I just greeted him and he started laughing and getting romantic with me I was so red in anger and I told him they despoiled baby again today and started raining curses, he asked who took the baby to school, I said the house help, he started blaming me for not taking care of her I was so angry I told him how I might sure he is not the one despoiling her. He rose up to meet me, I gave him a hot bite and smashed his head, he bit me too and neighbours came in but we couldn’t say wot happened.

For now I don’t know wot to do other than killing him right now. Please my people I count on your advice