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lulufaj:
We enjoy deceiving ourselves in this part of the world. The teachers to teach in this school, aren't they the same poorly motivated, training-starved people?

My mother retired in 2012 after teaching for 32 years. Her salary was around half of mine(I got my first pay as a medical doctor that same month). Now she's retired and she's yet to have her monthly pension since June. Her colleagues still in service are suffering same fate. Theirs is even worse.

What mechanism has bin put in place to maintain this structure?

You see why we aren't going anywhere in this country? No headway in view.

one of the most sensible comments.on this thread. We are talking building with lack of motivation n manpower

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i cant bliv my eyes with som rplies am sein here on nairaland..so most nairalander are fool to d xtent of blivin Iyabo actually wrote d letter in d first place... My vote 4 GEJ is 1 of d most regrettable actn taken in 2011, though, i was left wit no beta optn. bt shaa We need to tink outside d box dc days... D letter may be a cookd 1 frm APC sef, in oda 2 flavour d fyt btw GEJ n OBJ

Scharck: As a good man, I can confirm OP's guide to be true.

thanks 4 d verifiable rply.

How to Get a Good Man

It is not easy for women to find a good man, and to be honest it is not easy for a man to find a good
woman. This is written from a man's perspective to help frustrated women that are sincerely looking for a good man but keep finding losers. Just Follow The Steps stated Below

Be yourself:- When you meet someone for the first time, you may be tempted to be someone you're not, such as "putting on your best face".
There's nothing wrong with wanting to make a good impression. However, it is possible to take this too far and in turn repel men. The same applies with myths about dressing sexy and excessive flirtation. If you do not respect your body, you will only attract men who have a
similar lack of respect for you and your body, and a good man will find it more difficult to take you seriously. Be yourself, and a real man will respect you.

Have a life. Desperate, dramatic, and clingy relationships are often rooted in a feeling of need
and desperation for a man to fill your life. Even if
you have low self-esteem, work over time to build it. Pursue your goals, explore your passions, have an interesting life, do things that take you outside your boundaries. Don't put up a tough exterior to get over shyness; [/b]gradually
learn to build trust with a network of people, so that your boyfriend isn't the only person you open up to and share your life with. Also remember to trust yourself first. If you can't trust yourself, you are likely to not trust your man.

[b]Be relaxed and cool:- Most guys hate it when girls are possessive, bitchy, clingy, controlling,
etc. Learn to relax, and have fun. We all have too
much going on in our lives; don't be the high maintenance "drama queen". Having a woman around who makes life more difficult than enjoyable will make a man lose interest. If you do things like show genuine concern when the man
has had a rough day, it will earn his respect and
go toward winning him over and a good man will reciprocate. Remember that most men, especially the good ones, are looking for someone with whom they can be comfortable, and not someone who is always intense.

Realize differences in communication. Men can often miss the subtle messages that women send
in their body language. Don't judge a guy because of this, it's just the way men are. Subtle body language like smiles only make a man think that you might like him; he can't assume it means you're interested without being accused
of being a self-absorbed jerk. To drive the point
home, gradually introduce more "obvious" body language like playful touches on the arm, playful banter and teasing, winks, inside jokes, playfulness, or (when you know him better)
attempts to find a man's ticklish spots. (Don't be afraid to kindly tease him over minor things -
women who pretend a man is perfect are regarded as weak in their eyes.) Flirting will not only show him you like him enough to get that physical and playful, but also help to break the physical barrier and allow a man to feel more
comfortable making a few advances to you.
But don't forget to look at how he is reacting to you.

Take a good look at yourself . Psychological studies have shown that people seek out partners to fill a psychological void. Sometimes these voids are unhealthy, for example a woman who is unhealthy will actually seek out any man for the "high of seduction" or to get attention
and feel desirable. Look inside yourself and ask yourself why you want a man so badly, be truly honest with yourself, and, if need be, talk to a therapist about this. A woman with issues only
attracts a guy with issues as well, and a good, real man doesn't want anything to do with a woman who has more issues than TIME magazine. If you want a good, healthy
relationship with a real man, make certain that your own mental state and intentions are healthy.

Drop the games. Nobody likes a partner who plays "head games". This is deceptive, and willhurt anybody who trusts you. Be real, don't play games, and good men will respect you and may even pursue you. Playing head games will only make good men run away. Remember the
communication thing? That is especially true here. If you like a guy, don't push him away and act like you don't like him. Tell him. Yes, there are some men who do like the thrill of the chase, but all good men genuinely want to respect you and your wishes, and will leave you alone if you insist
on it. Remember, men communicate directly, if you act like you don't want him, he'll think you don't want him.

Treat him with respect. This is the most important thing of all. Men hate being around a woman who emasculates them, and a good man won't take long to leave such a woman. Don't be afraid to help your man feel good about himself.
A little known secret is that men are just as insecure as women. If he's with his friends or family be open to opportunities to let your man look like "the man". It will win his love and respect.

Don't be afraid to make a move . Let's be real, a good man doesn't desperately need any woman, he would like to meet a good woman. If he's a good man, he will appreciate the compliment to his attractiveness, at the very least. But remember
that compliments are usually given to acquaintances - people who are intimate usually have a more honest connection, with playful teasing and banter. Think of good relationships between brothers and sisters, parents and
children, especially couples - they're always joking, laughing, teasing, flirting in a positive way.
A woman who is always complimenting may simply be boring and look desperate. Even if you are old-fashioned and never want to be the
woman who asks a man for a date, you can still go out of your way to talk to him, and arrange to be with him. Don't over do this, however; unless she is already attracted to you before the encounter, the more obvious it is that you've put a ton of time into the encounter without his direct
encouragement, the more desperate and less attractive you look. Work on building attraction first.

Respect yourself. If you say no, he should stop. If he doesn't stop, leave. Don't ever be uncomfortable saying no. Don't go against your morals to try to keep a guy. If you feel this is necessary, then either he's not a good man, or he is a good one but simply isn't a good match for you specifically (e. g. he is currently "playing the field" and is up front and honest about it, but you're looking for an exclusive relationship).
Don't be uncomfortable saying yes, either. If you feel the time is right, believe in your worth [/]and don't worry that you're "giving yourself away."
You respect yourself and you're confident that he'll come back for more! A man who doesn't respect you in the morning never properly
respected you to begin with, and a man who doesn't respect your wishes to wait is too
impatient to make a good partner. Either way, find someone else.

[b]Follow the Golden Rule. That means apply the! same rules to yourself that you'd apply to others,
including him. Real men do in fact notice this, they just don't scream it out. For example, if he tells you he has a girlfriend and things are not working out, Stop! and think ladies that this could be a "test" on how you would handle the situation, so stand your ground and cut off communication, hint "Golden Rule". Second example,if you do want to try finding his ticklish spots, then don't complain one bit if he tries finding yours in return. Don't go on about how you "don't NEED no man!" or about "men this, men that" if you don't want him treating you the same way. DO, on the other hand, treat him--and others--with respect, dignity, and honor. Others will notice, too, and who knows--if they know
you want a good, real man but don't yet have one, they just might introduce you to one!

Don't Be clingy. This means, don't show that you love this person by being near them all the time. They need their space and they need to know that you don't need to follow them everywhere they go. Most of all, they need to know that you have your own life.

amen, u mke senxe

Iyadunni= mother is sweet to have.lol

Alex J: Strangers seem to have taken ove the party you laboured for? Are you gonna be there for ever? Maybe its the strangers that PDP really need to take them to the next level.

This is the same reasoning or manner of thinking that other nigerians in other sectors of this nation have. They dont want new faces. They wanna remain there and hand over to their children, relations, friends, as long as they arent "strangers"_ the who-know-who syndrome. Smh

off point, do betaa next tym

Promhize: Cry on bitches

dont u gt wot dey're tryin to pass accross 2u, dey mean only a fool can bear a child who render such statement u posted

Billyonaire: The old school cabals whether in PDP and/or any party that has been holding this country to ransom against the structures of the constitution MUST gradually be shown the way out of Politics.

OBJ is a terribly sick old man who believe he must always proffer solution to Nigeria's problem, as if we care, cos at the end of the day, we buy our diesel, we have no hospitals, no social benefits and no biometric system. OBJ was there for 8yrs without doing jack. The future of Nigeria is not his business, cos he has no stake in the future. So why is he not resting in retirement ?

A man, who knowingly put a sick Yaradua in office, with a premonition that GEJ will be a President he can control, has realized that he is nobody's boy, now he has realized that he is a SW man, even when Tinubu has single-highhandedly reduced him to nothing of relevancy in SW politics.

Now, he calls a meeting, the outcome can not be for good of the nation but the supremacy of OBJ over the rest.

It is us, against them, and in the battle off the revolutionists, the masses always win.

only a fool can use d word in bold 4 OBJ

sagbar: That is the problem with this Obasanjo of a man...he is too lazy for the present Nigeria politics.While people lyk Tinubu were busy canvasing for support all over the regions,he won't stop to converge clueless people to his hill top residence...Tinubu can sacrifice anything to bring anyone to his camp most especially if he knows such person can work wonders for his party relevance at any level.Obasanjo is yet to learn modern politics!

wot's dc guy sayin?

@OP ur conclusn is overgeneralisatn

see kids, som folks here don bgn to tke dc personal don't u knw dc isn't real.... Shine ur face u're in Jokes section on nairaland

i laff @some dudes lyk u, nd at d sametym feel sorry 4 d victims...... This is not the reasonable meanz of hlpin ur fellaz boy

vizkiz: pls ah need help!....so ah went 2 d *joint* 2 qt 4kd so when doinq d sh*t ah was qoinq so fast dt i didnt knw when d condom burst!
Pls advice

xo simple, Go nd see ur Doctor

fabulousdame: hmmm na wa oh

leave am, my tym to rubish His post is comin..lol

Luvly devin: Yes ladies love complement as they love that cash, tell me who does not like to feel special jare, but the problem here is that we guy's love to give cheesy compliment, complement on it's self means you found something different or outstanding in someone else, but trust we guy's we only give complement when we are after a kitty cat,, that alone makes it fake,

Characteristics of a killer complement that gives you endless kitty cat should be first and foremost genuine, it should be given to her type of person not any other girl on the street eg you admire her sense of humour or enjoy being around her cause she is fun to be with, girls love a man that take notice of little things you might like to complement her on how she looks on that new dress, all in all a compliment should be that you admire her in her own special way apart from the sexy stuff,

Dc is 1 of d best rply on dc post 2day

TribalEAST: I like your bleached skin.

make sure u're a mile away 4rm wr she's b4 complimentin her wit dc o..lol

-Mr Cork-:
. ...rubbish...is this expected to guarantee u punny? ..in 2013?

Guy u fall my hand, i no xpect dc kind comment 4rm u, bt not dt surprise though. Is lyf all abt punny?

crackhaus: Gender equality gaddemit
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By the way, I like your dimples...

lol

fabulousdame: nice one

yea that's why it's posted.lol. Thanks dr

How to Compliment a Woman
Giving a compliment to a woman you're interested in can be an easy yet effective way to make her feel special. Unfortunately, too many guys don't know how to give good compliments. They'll either state the blatantly obvious, or they'll overuse compliments to the point that they become empty and meaningless. The art of giving compliments is one that, if mastered, can make you appear both smooth and romantic to the ladies.

Note:- Develop a good relationship before bombarding her with compliments.

1 Use compliments regularly. Everyone likes to hear good things about themselves, and it never
hurts to make someone smile. Just be sure you
are genuine with each of your compliments (see number 3).

2 Come up with something original. Don't use generic compliments such as "You look beautiful tonight." Compliments such as this, while they
might be sincere, are both unoriginal and boring
(and she's no doubt heard that exact same
compliment a hundred times before). [color=olive]A better
compliment would be[/color] "You're the most beautiful woman in the world", which is both more original and also plays upon the natural
competitiveness that woman have toward each other (women love to be told that they're prettier than other women). Be careful with this though.
Some women find this sort of thing slimy and rude.

3 Don't give phony compliments . Only give compliments that you sincerely believe to be true,
and be detailed about it.

4 Disguise your compliments, and make them detailed (as explained in step 3). For example: "I'll bet that everybody you meet tells you that you have a really great pair of blue eyes. I'd tell you that as well, but there's no need to restate the obvious." Compliments such as this are
clever, and will cause a woman to think about
what you've told her (which, by extension, means that she's also thinking about you).

5 Think outside the box. Attractive women are always being complimented on their looks, but they're seldom (if ever) complimented for being
intelligent or talented. Take advantage of this; even an extremely beautiful woman will love being complimented on more than just her appearance.

6 A lot of women take a lot of time putting their outfits together, saying something like "wow you look fantastic" is a great compliment, as well as commenting on how well her earrings go with her top or shoes with the outfit.

7 Any guy that has had contact with women knows how important communication is, but this one only works if you really can carry a conversation. "I could talk to you all night".

8 Finally remember that women do appreciate it when you compliment their intellectual side, so "I really like the way your mind works" is another great one.