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ChybuzzDD:
I still don't understand why Nigerian guys do these kind of things to their fellow men abroad

How can a sane man be intentionally doing what can cause irreparable harm to his fellow man's marriage

What happens to going after the single and searching ladies their?

In fact ehh, if i hear at any time in the future that you sent people to c*t that idiot's throat, i won't blame you for any reason.
I hate it when people intentionally look down on or harm others, and i believe such people shouldn't be allowed to go free.

This is not a case of Nigerian men's alone, it takes 2 to tango. The guy also is married but the wife didn't come in with her. I heard she has a business in Nigeria she doesn't want to leave.


It is the promiscuous woman we should blame. Cause if she is not disrespectful, she won't be giving another man attention to the extent of flirting with him.

ahiboilandgas:
dangote is single

Is he also childless?
Cause I will like to know what happens after his demise.

Zonefree:
Please don't respond to that guy again, his head is not correct.

A woman you called your wife went to a guy's house to collect gbola cos of three handbags and the morón is proud and defending her. Na so the woman go bring another man's child heap up for the man head. Foolish horseband of a whoré! E better make person born bandit than to born a headless Simp.

I've failed as a father if a have a son like the OP. Tueh!

*Spits on his empty head!

😂😂.

It's just funny you know.
I believe you don't understand what is called marriage.
Also, there is no where in my post I am defending her, cause if i want to defend her, I won't be here in the first place.
Am worries are what have listed above. If you don't have any solution to all have mentioned above, when it gets to your turn. Play break your son head. Your comment shows your age. And I don't think you understand what they call Mental Health abroad.

newcommer:
You're very immature for a man. How old are you again? Please go for marriage counseling, you and your wife.

Yes. Am immature.
I be 18 years old sef.
When it's your turn let's know how you're going to handle it.

Eaganguolly:
Did your wife knew you were aware of her movements? If yes what was her reactions. It is from her reactions you can predict her next move. Let her know you are aware she is keeping a date outside and watch her body movement. Whether she will be remorseful or not. From there you can form a decision. The worst in marriage is suspicion

She is not aware I know anything yet.
She only complains that I feel reluctant to touch her even if she is stark naked beside me.
This is not a case of being suspicious, she planned everything before leaving the house that very day. I know the guy sef might be on this forum reading this. 😉😉

ZionPriest:
End the marriage and start afresh.

It is like you guys didn't plan the stuff well.

I think I rushed everything.
Thinking am doing her and myself a favor by bringing her in.
I should have left her behind and keep sending her upkeep, but still. Na Nigeria own go worst pass😂😂😀

Firefox01:
Signs of a man that will surely be finished. You still dey plan marry? By the time she's done with you, you'll be battling for survival. Shebi na still three bags from another man she bring come your house? When she kicks you out of your own house, Your eye go clear. Don't think about how to protect yourself, you hear?

So how do you protect yourself in a country that favors women?

Regex:
Wait, you are planning to marry again? 😂 😂 Brah, if you are uncertain what the next one will do, just stick with this one, na cheat she cheat, she no kill person

So I should stay single cause someone cheat on me? Let me ask you a question. Even if you're so rich like that of Dangote, can you live your life alone? So in the case I neva born, so I should do what please?

Regex:
I don tire for una UK matter, you can divorce her and she will find her way back to the country

Is it not too early?
Just a year plus.
Who knows what the next one is capable or will do as well?

justwise:
Are you joking with this post?

No am not.
Does it look like a movie?

Now I don't feel like having sex with her.

I always think about how someone can leave his husband and go to a man's house cause of 3 bags.

Some are saying it is too early to divorce her.

Some are saying I should forgive and let her swear that she won't do such thing again.

Some are saying I should think of how much have spent in total and not allow the devil to push me to take irrational decision.

WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?

She said when she left home, she entered one bus and that one was taking her about and she found herself at Salford Shopping Center ( Not the real location) that her friends at work even came there to meet her and they bought her the bags. I checked the time and it was like 8:06pm. I was like, shey your friends are not at work ni since you all close 8pm, how can they now meet you at the Mall? Then she gave an excuse which I let it slide. Then one day she forgot to lock her phone and I went through some chats on her phone. I found out the shock of my life.

There is a guy at her work place, the day she was supposed to go to the club, the guy asked her to send her pictures since they're unable to attend, which she did and that one commented that, is this all I missed today. Chai. With some other chats Sha. That very day she went for a stroll, she told the guy via chat that she would be coming once she is through with what she is doing at home. She messaged him when she left home and the guy replied that, she should come to her place first that they should chill before going to the mall, she asked for the guys address which he sent to her and she went there, only God knows what happened in there. Then they went to the mall and he bought her the 3 bags and she came back home to give me lamba.

felixzo1:
. you people need to sit down and talk, marriage is very challenging ,its best in your best interest to work together.

Is that what you actually think?
I dey come, I neva finish.

Let me fast forward the gist before it gets bored. That was how she Sha did throughout 2022, by middle of every month, salary Don finish and she would borrow money from me again to pay Klarma and do house groceries. Now this year, she said she wanted to go clubbing with her colleagues at work and I said no problem. They started calling each others to know which club or where to meet. Eventually when it was around 10pm. Someone called her and told her that the venue was under renovation so she couldn't attend the party.

In February this year, we're at home together that day and She told me she wanted to stroll out. I said no wàhálà and she left, then she called me like after an hour that I did not even look for her, I said why should I, you have your bus pass, your phone is charged and you know how to use the map, so you can't get lost. And we joked about it, and she said she is even at Salford Shopping centre now ( Not the real location). I said OK. Then after like 2 hours she got home and came home with 3 female bags.

When she arrived, did all necessary things, bank account, NI, contract sim, DBS, and some trainings like Mandatorys, Moving and handling so that she can be prepared for the care worker role and we started applying for a Healthcare assistant role. She also started working with some agencies so that she won't be idle at home.

Eventually, she got a job as HCA and she started making money and I told her this. Although, you're supposed to assist me in paying my tuition fees since you're the dependant and you're allowed to work unlimited. BUT, I have paid all my tuition fees (£13,500) upfront before stepping into UK at all. So all I requested from her is to save all her money so that by the end of year, she would have gathered something for herself. She said okay. And after first month, she started ordering Wigs, Human hair, Clothes and bags. I complained how can you be spending money like this that you just entered the country? Just because you saw me buying a single winter jacket for £200 doesn't mean you have to emulate me na. She refused and said, how can I ask her to buy clothe at PRIMARK when am ordering mine from HOODRICH. 😂😁😁😄. So I kept quiet and was looking, after all shebi na she get the money and ná her sweat, let me allow her to please herself.

I go continue later. Make i quickly go attend to something. Let me know when you guys have finished reading.

This is a true life story and it's really a long epistle, so take your time to read it. Insults and advice are welcomed as well.

There is this girl we're dating in Nigeria, which I intend to Marry though eventually. It started that I got my student visa in Nov 2021, so instead of me coming alone and leaving her alone back home, I decided to get Married to her same Nov 2021 and same year I did my house warming, that was in December. So she moved in to my house and I traveled for my Masters in January 2022.

So I came in alone to put everything in place, renting apartment and starting my studies. It was really an heculeous task, my eyes see shege as I was unable to pass through verification / affordability check, so I had to offer 6 month upfront before I was later considered. By end of January, she started with she is feeling lonely and can't stay alone in the house, so I started processing her visa February and I went back to Nigeria during Easter to bring her myself, just to avoid unnecessary wàhálà at the POE.

Insultme:
When she arrived, did all necessary things, bank account, NI, contract sim, DBS, and some trainings like Mandatorys, Moving and handling so that she can be prepared for the care worker role and we started applying for a Healthcare assistant role. She also started working with some agencies so that she won't be idle at home.

Eventually, she got a job as HCA and she started making money and I told her this. Although, you're supposed to assist me in paying my tuition fees since you're the dependant and you're allowed to work unlimited. BUT, I have paid all my tuition fees (£13,500) upfront before stepping into UK at all. So all I requested from her is to save all her money so that by the end of year, she would have gathered something for herself. She said okay. And after first month, she started ordering Wigs, Human hair, Clothes and bags. I complained how can you be spending money like this that you just entered the country? Just because you saw me buying a single winter jacket for £200 doesn't mean you have to emulate me na. She refused and said, how can I ask her to buy clothe at PRIMARK when am ordering mine from HOODRICH. 😂😁😁😄. So I kept quiet and was looking, after all shebi na she get the money and ná her sweat, let me allow her to please herself.

Insultme:
Let me fast forward the gist before it gets bored. That was how she Sha did throughout 2022, by middle of every month, salary Don finish and she would borrow money from me again to pay Klarma and do house groceries. Now this year, she said she wanted to go clubbing with her colleagues at work and I said no problem. They started calling each others to know which club or where to meet. Eventually when it was around 10pm. Someone called her and told her that the venue was under renovation so she couldn't attend the party.

In February this year, we're at home together that day and She told me she wanted to stroll out. I said no wàhálà and she left, then she called me like after an hour that I did not even look for her, I said why should I, you have your bus pass, your phone is charged and you know how to use the map, so you can't get lost. And we joked about it, and she said she is even at Salford Shopping centre now ( Not the real location). I said OK. Then after like 2 hours she got home and came home with 3 female bags.

Insultme:
She said when she left home, she entered one bus and that one was taking her about and she found herself at Salford Shopping Center ( Not the real location) that her friends at work even came there to meet her and they bought her the bags. I checked the time and it was like 8:06pm. I was like, shey your friends are not at work ni since you all close 8pm, how can they now meet you at the Mall? Then she gave an excuse which I let it slide. Then one day she forgot to lock her phone and I went through some chats on her phone. I found out the shock of my life.

There is a guy at her work place, the day she was supposed to go to the club, the guy asked her to send her pictures since they're unable to attend, which she did and that one commented that, is this all I missed today. Chai. With some other chats Sha. That very day she went for a stroll, she told the guy via chat that she would be coming once she is through with what she is doing at home. She messaged him when she left home and the guy replied that, she should come to her place first that they should chill before going to the mall, she asked for the guys address which he sent to her and she went there, only God knows what happened in there. Then they went to the mall and he bought her the 3 bags and she came back home to give me lamba.

Insultme:
Now I don't feel like having sex with her.

I always think about how someone can leave his husband and go to a man's house cause of 3 bags.

Some are saying it is too early to divorce her.

Some are saying I should forgive and let her swear that she won't do such thing again.

Some are saying I should think of how much have spent in total and not allow the devil to push me to take irrational decision.

WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?