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Swissheart:
Nice.

Thanks

You thought reading was just fun? Well it’s good for your relationship. The American Psychological Association says, “If a particular book has made the top 10 lists, it’s probably got some substance.”

Today on Intimate Gist I will sharing with you the top ten books our relationship experts recommended for singles and Couples. Every single, wife or husband struggling to stay married, especially happily married, should read at least one of these books:

www.intimategist.com/?p=144 (THE COMPLETE LIST)

IamLEGEND1:
3 days? this one strong gan.

and we dey laugh Kim kardashian for her marriage to that huge guy that lasted 2-3 months.

Honestly, this can happen to anyone!

You thought reading was just fun? Well it’s good for your relationship. The American Psychological Association says, “If a particular book has made the top 10 lists, it’s probably got some substance.”

Today on Intimate Gist I will sharing with you the top ten books our relationship experts recommended for singles and Couples. Every single, wife or husband struggling to stay married, especially happily married, should read at least one of these books:

www.intimategist.com/?p=144 (Complete List)

delishpot:
If say na husband catch wife in this same situation, you go ask this question? Even if he found out on the wedding night and dumps her?

Exactly, men most also be committed for relationship to work.

Swissheart:
Nice.

Thanks, Wlc

nedu2000:
A man can cheat on his fiance and still love her,vowing to quit cheating after d wedding.....forgive him

Its ok

gamaliel121:
Niccceee onee..

But.


Fucccckk truuust

OK... Thanks

benedictnsi:
So, now who shame go catch much

Hmmm.... the man i guest!

hob:
3 days pere

Just 3 days dear

Donbabajay12:
Just call d ur husby and make him understand ur feelings ..mab he can change his ways thou

Hmmmmm.... Maybe he changes! Thanks an expensive bargain

Stephansmily:
Nice write up

Thanks!

Trust issues start with trusting yourself before you can trust someone else. One day, someone screwed up, gave someone else reason to distrust, and from that seed blossomed “trust issues.” Around the globe, in bedrooms, boardrooms and even on playgrounds, we’ve become a society built on trust issues. To trust someone, without having trust issues, is to trust ourselves enough to be ourselves.

GASP! You mean I have to be totally transparent, say what’s on my mind, ask for what I desire, and that will eliminate trust issues in my relationship? Um, yeah! It all starts with you, baby, quickly followed by how you choose to respond to those little annoying possibilities that your partner throws at you — consciously or unconsciously — that leads you to believe they can or can’t be trusted. See, it’s all about you and your trust issues, in the same manner it’s all about your partner and their trust issues. That being said, how do you resolve trust issues when they arise?

#1. Trust Yourself
I know it’s already been said (and referenced) but this is truly the starting point of getting past trust issues. In the somewhat similar words of Ru Paul, “If you can’t trust yourself, how the hell ya ever going to be able to trust someone else!” Um hum! Preach sister!

#2. Define What Trust Means
… for you and your partner. Hello, we ain’t mind readers, and if you claim to be then why are you having trust issues? If you can read minds then there’s no reason to have trust issues, because you already know what your partner is thinking. For the rest of us, ask and ye shall receive. Talk about trust and what would break or make trust issues arise in your relationship.

#3. Take a Look in the Mirror
I hate to say it, but often, trust issues arise because what you see in someone else as an issue of trust is directly reflecting something you yourself don’t want to see in yourself. It could be that you think your partner is cheating, and even if you’re not cheating, you may be considering it, or even emotionally cheating with someone. You may not even realize it’s causing wicked scripts of “cheater is as cheater does” to play out in the fabulous stage play that is your real life. Look at yourself and ask, “What’s really going on with my trust issues?” It may shock you, but it could stop you from being a crazy maker.

#4. Have an Open Relationship
GASP. Did I just advocate having an open relationship? YES! An “open, let’s communicate, be transparent and quit hiding that we each have trust issues, admit our stuff” relationship. No, this doesn’t mean you have to have different lovers, although if that makes the trust issues scamper away, more power to you. But what I’m really saying is that I’m honestly advocating being open and vulnerable so that trust issues become dead issues, rather than a dead relationship!

#5. Put Trust In
If you put trust in, you will back it back. One of the hardest parts about trust, and getting past trust issues, is to freely give trust. However, when it is seen as a gift that keeps on giving, then it’s easier to watch trust issues retreat. The moment you take trust, without giving back in return, you’ve abused the right to be trusted. And, who wants to be abused?

Regardless of the circumstances, and irrespective of your sexual orientation, trust issues are trust issues. Whether it starts with a little white lie, or explodes from the bombshell of infidelity, trust is trust! Personally, once that little tongue twister got resolved, I realized, because I trusted myself, it was easier to address trust issues head-on in all my relationships.

Now that I’ve resolved my issues, I’m the perfect partner, the perfect father, the perfect ex-husband, and the perfect life coach. Trust me, it’s true … NOT! However, what I did discover was it became easier to admit when I was having trust issues, talk through them, and be open to hearing when others didn’t trust me.

The lesson learned? Trust issues kill the beauty of trusting you. YOU can have a happy life.
Now get out there and start trusting!

Source: www.intimategist.com

Donbabajay12:
Just call d ur husby and make him understand ur feelings ..mab he can change his ways thou

Will understanding her feelings change anything... Infidelity is bad

My prayer is that this doesn’t happen to you! I have decided to share this sad experience with Intimate Gist to lessen the burden I carry about. Here is my story!

An old friend from when I was in church camp found me on Facebook. We reconnected and dated for a year. We got married, planned our wedding very quickly. I was head over heels in love and happy, and had a wonderful, amazing wedding.3 days later- We hadn’t even gone on our honeymoon... READ MORE www.intimategist.com/?p=124

prettyjo:
ok
noted

You are welcome

tomyka81:
This is so sweet. There are thousands of Black American women dying for a man like this. We don't even have bride prices lol.

True! Wow, interested.... Lol

sanbells:
Nice thread though. Buh not all guys think this way still

Thanks

Amazing write up... Wow

Vixxie:
Maybe you need to elaborate more

So help us dear!

pinceprinz:
Tha prob really is that; Bad girls ain't no good, and the good girls ain't no
fun. So , we usually between too unfavorably unfavorable situations as guys lol.

Lol, True Talk

Jollyjoy:
Hmmmmm
it indeed a beautiful thing to love and be love in return...

Dedicating this space to my sweetheart,my friend,my dad my everything who died november 1 2009.......we love you but God love you more

Ya, Love is a beautiful thing. R.I.P to the dead

divinehand2003:
Don't mind the ladies. All they know is that guys have phallus that has a life of its own, period.

Hmmmmm, another insight. Thanks

rexkexmilan:
OP, I concur with your Post.

Imagine a scenario where You are chasing a Girl and she will be playing hard to get, She doesn't even care if she's shredding your heart to pieces .
Damn !!!

True Talk, thanks for your comment!

Girls need to realize: We guys don't care if you talk to other guys. We don't care if you're friends with other guys. But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it makes us mad.

It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there. We don't care if a guy calls; OR TEXT you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned. Nothing is that important at 2 a.m. That it can't wait till the morning.

Also, when we tell you you're pretty/ beautiful/gorgeous/cute/ stunning, we freaking mean it. Don't tell us... READ MORE http://www.intimategist.com/?p=105

Congratulations to you