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annice2014:
I always appreciate those proposal tips from "Runaway Bride" movie

They can be spell bounding......I hope to use them one day

I see fine man!

btw that was powerful words "I promise you it will be tough and at times one or both of us would want out but I also promise that if I don't ask you to be mine today, I'll regret it for the rest of my life"

Do you mean the one Ludacris calls
"A lady in the street but a freak in the bed....

...Always stays fly, keeps it so real
But behind closed do's she a nasty girl "

Where is the rest of the reasons?

oglalasioux:
Unfortunately that strong African family bond is the bedrock of corruption in Africa. Once a family member hits it big no one else in the family will want to work again. The breadwinner is then overwhelmed with demands till he/she illegally puts hand in the till.

There is a good part and there is a bad part. In the whites man's land we have heard cases where an old man died in his room for 5 years and no one knew or asked after him even his neighbours. So we all have our good part and our bad parts...

yomi007k:
I don't quite agree.


Whites think about their family and kids. They make plans even before their kids are born contrary to we blacks who leave everything to God including using our own brains.

Teaching one to be independent does not mean u don't care, it actually means u do care enough to show d person d truth becos Life aint easy n its usually d strong dt survive.

Between white n black society,which is more disintegrated? Where don't things work? Why do we always want to troop to whiteman's land?

Having a bunch of fake ppl showing u fake love wen d going is good doesn't mean u hav an integrated society.

The highest rate of disintegrated homes aka divorce and single families is in the white man's land.

Yea we have a bunch of fake love here and a bunch of fake love in white man's land too.

We all need someone to survive....

We troop to the white man's money to make money not to make families......There are rich, that has nothing to do with family....Remember they once trooped to our Africa for our money....

misspicy:
you don't get the point but I do


marriage is not an achievement,it is a choice

see what this 2colour wrote and understand
www.nairaland.com/2965073/queen-ella-mo-adenugba-discolored-babybump#43386014

I understand and agree entirely (marriage is a choice) but there is still a but in that his argument supporting his claim....check it

Staying single do not make you rich...Getting marrried does not make you poor....Riches is a mindset + his other arguments that are faulty

BoiledHead:
Abeg... Unless you are not in Nigeria. This same nairaland you write this is the same place people bash great women like Linda ikeji any other single Nigerian who is successful saying 'go and marry'. That's what my message is addressing.

Alright bro i get you....at the same time you cant flock Nigerians or Africans for our strong family culture. White who live their lives anyhow they are the same people who have disintegrated societies and families - who dont care about anyone but themselves.
Family thinking has its advantages and you cannot rant it away from us.

Dont get me wrongly..i see your point about our over sensitive nature about getting married and having family which effects a lot of things but every man but choose what please him or not regardless of the critical hands on him. And family is the strong hold of an African living and i dont think we should look down on it.

BoiledHead:
That's the point I'm saying. You guys see this age thing as a clock or countdown that if you don't marry u nothing.

Marriage does not determine your future. It does not make you matured or better. Who said my agenda will complete at 50? Let's assume it does who said I will/must marry? . Marriage is not by force. My message is stop making it look like a law or order. its not

No one cares, marriage or no marriage....so far as you arrive where you want to be....how you get their is your business - married or single. If singleness makes you happy why care what others think about your decision...people would always talk

Greene66:
He never said marriage is of no use. I thought you are matured? He said it's not worth the hype. Just like someone hyping Nokia and I say don't hype Nokia it's not as good. Does not mean I won't use Nokia or idont use Nokia.

And 50-point agenda depending on the agenda can be completed in 20 years. Even if it's 50 he completes it from his posts nothing mandates him to marry. He can just enjoy his wealth or leave it for his nephews or younger ones or he gets married. Read and understand

Point is stop hyping it.

Hey man! i don't even see the point of hyping singleness on the other hand. He has no solid base to argue this out...it is as much baseless. To every man his world he rules...

BoiledHead:
What are you saying what I'm I saying?

I'm not married. I dont even plan to. Not anytime soon. Perhaps when I have completed my 50-point agenda in life then I can go and find/buy a wife. An agenda that ensures my children and their children's children will never ever be poor. Until that is achieved i don't need a child or wife.

When you completed your 50 point agenda at 50 years you can then marry a young lass, give birth and leave them with money to replace you and love them.

By the way so you will still marry? I thought you said it was of no use? Marriage is an institution, only matured heads can carry it. It is not meant for everybody.

Are you married? Or are you getting confused and you want to convince us in your confusion?

This is amazing!

canalily:
eazy bro, buh see am naa8)the guy wan fly

na so

canalily:
This micho that kept hands like aeroplane

lwkm

The 4 years of seasonal movie starring dullardino & crew

Freegift75:
Keep your mouth shut! You stable man, why waiting for N5000 stipend before you could achieve your dream.

Wake up

Lol! Your mumuism is epic and needs ransom....I bet you have never managed anything before & even if you did you were a heroic failure in it.... Get sense you no go gree....I am a man who can raise a million naira worth of company out of N5 and don't need anyone's money to do that...An Igbo man waits for no man...Grow up...this has nothing to do with APC or PDP...infact they are the same thing to me...

When a man's mouth is faster than his brain his dementia has developed even if he doesn't know it @JuniorPortland

Very unstable man! He is not even sure what he wants ....I bet he will still change this promise...

[b] I don't think that nairalanders or graduates here are that selfish. Obviously there are instances when such responses of, "how did you apply and all that.." exist but which does not equate or supersede the number of good a lot of youths/nairalanders are doing on this platform.

First of all such selfish responses are sometimes meant to be a joke or the responders way of saying I have never been to such interview or a want in words of what to reply.

Secondly there are several threads that has been opened on this forum hy not only working class but by fellow job seekers who wants to assist others as well, and these are done by giving selfless time and devotion to other peoples concern.

Apart from looking for jobs this forum has taught a lot of people on how to manage career, employment and other business affairs. This remains handy when some finally gets job offers. Sometimes it turns boring when someone repeatedly ask things that has been overly hammered. I won't say it wrong to ask but I sure bet that honest queries always has someone kind in nairaland to help.


What we see and what affects us are guided by where we turn the glasses we put on. @juniorportland [/b]

op one question: are you married?

cutebobo:
Nowadays many people will come out shouting that 'my marriage is this my marriage is that' shortly after their marriage and you keep wondering what happened. I think I have some of the reasons.

Handsomeness or Beauty
This is the problem of some Nigeria girls but the guys are not also exempted. They are like, 'if I want to get marry, I will a tall guy, slim, fresh guy, dark, light, eloquent english, pink lips, big breast ( for guys),. Its good to have the image of want you for your life but I must tell you, few years after wedding, all this beauty will fade away. Its not as if the partner will loose the beauty or handsomeness but then, you will focus your mind on important issues like feeding, taking care of children and so on than facial look.

Faulty Courting
Courting should be like a training ground or should I say where what you really want for your family life is decided before marriage but unfortunately Nigerians see it as merry time. Moving from Kfc to Shoprite. If you see something wrong in your spouse to be, correct him or her then if he/she refuses, cancel the relationship so as to avoid 'you know me like this ooo before we get marry issue'

Two parallel lines
I know of some families where the husband will be a gentle going man while the wife is really tough then you keep wondering how it happened. Issues like this also break marriages. If you are the kind of guy that does not like trouble, please don't date a troublesome lady and thinking that you can bear it now. What you can bear now my not be so years later after marriage. Love may be blind but marriage is the tool that will open it. Choose carefully my brothers and sisters.

Respect
Respect is equivalent to love. You can't tell me you love a guy you want to get married to and you can't give him the respect he deserves even if you are age mates. This is where most Nigerians ladies are missing it. Some ladies don't want to marry men older than them by few years because they don't want to be controlled by any man. A lady who does not respect you as her boyfriend will surely not respect your family and that's it.

Don't let your parent or church choose your future husband for you
I have heard of some cases where some churches will tell you to marry your church member. For what reason my fellow nairalanders? Don't ever do that because when you finally face challenges in that marriage, all they can do is advise both of you. Finally, don't let your parent dictate the tribe to marry to you. You owe your life and not your parent's life

#still your boy CUTEBOBO

VickyRotex:
Thank You, I appreciate the compliment.

It's deserving & u r welcome!

VickyRotex:
But the repercussion is bitter

Nice one Op!

Ur pictures are always inspiring - ur dp and then this....makes me wanna follow you

Wow! Anyone who doesn't see good in what the op wrote has cotton stacked in his brains, and rafter in his eyes.

Who is Ena Ofugara? You are the bomb! Well done babyhrt!


A leader who doesn't take responsibility is not a follower he is merely a child @JuniorPortland

ok we haff hear ....so?

Na so....My mom is also flawless why is she not on front page

Others build prisons as reformatory homes but Nigerian prisons are built to raise thieves by police thieves

tiamiyukunle69:
that's a good question though

Before somebody scams us with big names ni

cute smiles you got on that dp man....na photographer selfie stick u use?

What is the difference between School farm Initiative Project and Agricultural Science that we read in school? Don't get it twisted Wike is still my man, am just asking.

My guy, Teempakguy, come and get some inspiration

Talk is cheap

Na so e dey easy for their mouth - change! change! Very soon e go bi choi! choi!