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Aust0x:
Sorry about what you are going through! obviously from the unset your husband wasn't ready for the "married life". No be plug and play - its serious, deliberate, conscious hard work.
Kindly, contact yaba psychiatric hospital, there is a specialist female Dr/therapist who deals on family issue. Do contact her, before things go a-wire.
She has been in my office severally for ted talks, she is good.

Thanks. Please can I get her number ?

Graxie:
Your mother is the most selfish woman I have ever seen. Even with the insult from her in-law, she prefares you die there. You have your fault, you know the man you married yet you keep telling him about all your secrets, good for you. I will only advice you as a mother and and a married woman, leave that environment for now, go and deliver. Be sure you are sound with your baby before thinking about marriage. You people keep resigning your jobs because of husband, shame on you. Nwa anambra daalu iberibe, ime pere Anya na mmiri, ncha ana aba gi na anya. Ginidi ka ina ko, maka amu? oduduno gi ika la inalu the ego wa, ka idono na aza ezigbo Nwunye. Jisike. Negodu asa garakwukwo, oburu ike mbe ka iburu owegi ga kwuru. idi sure Na ibu nwa anambra? Ifuro Ndi isi zuru ezu, iwe ka noro na ebeahu na akoije uwa gi. Nne Biko kunie na ula, asingi manite Kita, jiri ire gi gua Eze gi.

I agree Nne... I am carrying my cross now

GHoJes:
There's is a thread for pregnant women in health section, please follow it, it will do you a lot of good.

Then to your marriage, you have entered a funny one, you have to grow thrice the pace you ordinarily would now. As it is you don't have the support of your family or husband's. It means you have to invest in building a support system for your self and child otherwise you will always remain down . Your biggest problem seem to be your husband flirty ways, that now should not be your problem anymore because the only way you know around it causes you heartache, drop the problem fast, take on your personal ones that we give you progress when you solve them, I mean change your approach because your old one is not working. Spend your energy on ways to ensure safe delivery, get a source of livelihood so that when you want to take a step forward nobody will remind you of your waste of education or that you need their money or help to live.

If you had money you wouldn't have wasted that time you did on your first pregnancy because you know your husband better than me that he wouldn't move you to hospital for any reason. If you are using your time to make or think of how to make money for your self, you won't notice when he video chat exes. Your attention now should be how can you legitimately help yourself since no one wants to.

Thank you. I thought of picking up my CV today but I remembered my job hunting experience the last time I was pregnant and how I was rejected coupled with the fake interviews everywhere... It wasn't funny at all. Nobody wants to employ a pregnant woman and husband wants this baby to stay... Says I shouldn't stress myself.
But if I should get a job now I am taking it

Amanee:
Did you not see any of these pictures before marriage?

I wish I did.... And some are married now. But he still keeps them. I am so ashamed.

emeijeh:
I am sorry to say this, but it's the blatant truth : YOU GOT MARRIED TO A GROWN UP BOY.
Real men don't put their wives through emotional trauma.

Funny but he will be 35!

AmericanDad:
Iseeksolution I know how you feel just be strong. Are you from Anambra?

Yes....married to Imo

zenithshipping:
Well, sorry for what you're going through in your marriage. Though, I don't believe it's because you guys met through facebook because I also met my wife through same platform and we are doing well. However, with the attitude you claimed your husband fuelled at you all the time, I can't say anything on that because there must be a reason for such behaviour but I think you should give him a break for now, you can go to your mum and stay with her pending the time your child will come to the world. Pls consider your condition at least for now. Am sure everything will be sorted out by then.

Thanks... I am glad it is working out for you.
My mum will make matters worse... She is always on his side.... Always... Maybe for her reputation... I don't even know.
As for my husband.... He even keeps pictures of his Ex(hard copies) ... Still in contact with some... It's crazy!

thorpido:
If the foundation is weak,it's hard to put a lot of things right later.
You have a husband who is ignorant and has character flaws.I really do not know how to advise to make him change now.

You were one of his many 'Facebook girls',I don't know how you can make him drop the rest now.

This is exactly what I tell myself.... God!

Dreal1247:
This should not be a public discussion. I can only direct you to Mountain of Fire And Miracles Ministries, MFM. Ask of the Happy Home department at the International Headquarters at Yaba. They specialise in issues like this. They won't force you to become a member. Please, don't wear trousers as a lady while going. Dress decently. You will thank me later.

Ironically, his parents are mountain of fire members. The father is a minister also... They have pushed me severally to ajagbandi to go for the 1 week dry fasting... I did that thrice.... Looking for a baby... When it came... And when I was about to travel.

sinaj:
Aunty take a break.

You guys need to separate (not divorce o!) at this junction and reevaluate your marriage.

I am so scared!

silentEXPLOSION:
stay strong

send your account number let me give you something

I don't know what to say!

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