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AirborneLacer:
I agree with the whole points but then who's a good man?

cloudyskyglind:
oh yes, I'm relieved! This one has got one extra.

A 29-year-old man, Anthony Ogbogu, has been arrested by the police for allegedly stabbing his neighbour, Jonathan Emeh, a.k.a Bakassi, to death during a fight in the Egbeda area of Lagos State.

It was gathered that the two men were neighbours living in the same compound.

Our correspondent learnt that on the fateful day, Anthony’s younger sister, Loveth, was taking her bath in the bathroom.

She was said to have blocked the passage leading to the male wing of the bathroom.

The deceased, Emeh, who equally wanted to use the bathroom, could not gain access into the male side because the entrance into the bathroom had been blocked by Loveth.

He, however, in annoyance forcefully opened the door of the bathroom which Loveth was in, leading to disagreement between the duo.

It was gathered that she later informed her elder brother, Anthony, who then had a fight the deceased.

The fight was later settled by community leaders and the two parties were said to have gone their separate ways.

It was however learnt that, Emeh, who was not satisfied with the settlement, in the evening of the same day traced Anthony to a beer parlour.

Our correspondent gathered that at the bar, the two men began another round of fight.

It was learnt that during the scuffle, Anthony picked a kitchen knife from the bar and stabbed Emeh at the back.

The deceased died at the hospital.

The case was reported to the Gowon Estate Police Station and the suspect was subsequently arrested.

Anthony was arraigned before an Ebute Meta Chief Magistrate’s Court on one count of murder.

The charge read, “That you, Anthony Ogbodu, on December 22, 2014, at about 9.40pm,at Egbeda, Lagos, in the Lagos Magisterial District, did unlawfully kill one Jonathan Emeh,, a.k.a.Bakassi, aged 30 years, by stabbing him with a kitchen knife on his back and thereby committed an offence punishable under Section 221 of the Criminal Law of Lagos State of Nigeria,2011”.

The defendant’s plea was not taken for the charge.

The police prosecutor, Cyriacus Osuji, applied for his remand in prison custody, pending legal advice from the Directorate of Public Prosecutions.

He said, “Our application is sequel to Section 264 of the Administration of Criminal Justice Law of Lagos State.”

The Chief Magistrate, Mrs. Badejo Okusanya, remanded him in prison pending legal advice from the DPP, adding that the police should duplicate the case file on time.

http://www.punchng.com/metro-plus/29-year-old-man-stabs-neighbour-to-death/

MisterLongman:
Not in every case........
You might not see it as good because you believe cheating is bad (I never said its good to cheat) but there are always some exceptional cases where the man is not happy with cheating on his spouse but is left with no choice.

cloudyskyglind:
Hurray!! This is a step up from the colossal 10 reasons.

diddydiva:
evidence pls

signor11:
She doesn't know me yet
Am just another guy down the road
Who wants to ask her out

Or am I to pre inform her I'd ask her out
A
if she knows I'd do then its no longer cool
Else she won't wait with the believe she'll get a date when she can chill out with the babes

Unless I already asked to see her that day and believe me she may still go out and see me later

I'd rather I asked her before that day or any other day
I can profess love to her the next vals day but asking a lady I've got my eyes on out that day may not work with me


Never tot of it before now and am finding it hard to let it since

How was your day

signor11:
BOSS ANY DAY WILL DO
it depends on what value 14th of feb hould to the guy in question. its easier to say so before that day than on that day
most cases the lady wont be sitting at home waiting for you to come sweep her off her feet she would go out with the babes
ladies do see that day like we do

buygala:
Me: *staring intently at my boxers* ...bae will you marry me?

bae-*sharply turns from bedroom wall* yes!! yes, yes, yes, yes, omg, yes babeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeehhhhhhhhhhhhh, awwwwwwwwwwww, yesssssssssssss

me: sori bae, i wasn't referring to you.. i was only rehearsing for our Valentine's day youth drama presentation in church

bae: e no go better for your ancestors' dead body ..... *aims for my head with a soaked panty and misses*

MisterLongman:
It depends on one's perspective.
In some instances, the so called good man might have pushed the wall by the woman in his life and therefore left with no choice but to resort to having another relationship.The man does not necessarily become evil in this kind of scenario.
Men cheats for reasons best known to them, which is either good or bad and not bad alone

diddydiva:
give me the location of the good man

I will gladly change where I am

bukatyne:
Women play the head how?

I cannot see any role in that verse...

What do you understand by submission?

dre11:
Your prayers are answered

diddydiva:
soooooo true

but a good man no longer exist.

we have manageable men tho

temitemi1:
I am the Good Man

Jeromejnr:
There are many "good men that still cheat".

And that number 2- Is that possible.
It only takes one that fears God.

iceberylin:
Are you talking about your dad

iceberylin:
A Good man is impotent

prettythicksme:
Some good men are born as a cheater!

falconey:
I HAVE 11 Reasons why good men should cheat

Cheating in a relationship is, of course, not monopolized by either gender. Men cheat, women cheat, and according to studies, they have different reasons for doing so.

I don’t think we can necessarily just say “men cheat for this reason, and women cheat for this reason,” though. Each individual person and scenario brings about a reason or reasons of its own.
That being said though, I think we need to be careful of blanket statements like all men cheat or all women cheat. As a man, I can only speak on behalf of my own gender. I have never cheated and would never cheat — but when I say this to people they always ask how I can say I would never cheat?

There are plenty of reasons why a good man would never even have the thought cross his mind…

1. A good man appreciates what he has.

Obviously, this is a big reason. The more you appreciate your partner, the more valuable they are to you, and the less you are willing risk losing them or hurting them. When a good man truly loves and appreciates the woman in his life would never act in ways that put his relationship with her in jeopardy.

2. A good man has evolved beyond his primal urges.

We all have biological urges instilled in us by billions of years of evolution. The desire to reproduce, s*xual attraction, so on and so forth. This is often used as an excuse for cheating because “we are not built for monogamy.” While monogamy isn’t necessarily natural to humans, a good man understands that being natural is not the point.

Monogamy is a choice. It is a pledge to the person you love to commit yourself to them, and only them. A good man has the ability to resist his basic urges for the sake of a more important choice he has made for himself.

3. A good man values love over a fleeting experience.

When you are in a loving, committed relationship with someone, there are far more layers of fulfillment than just s*x. A relationship based solely on s*xual attraction is a flimsy one that could fall apart at the first challenge; but when two people genuinely love and respect each other, they can weather any storm.

Some people spend their lives searching for that kind of connection. Some find it quickly, some take longer, but when a good man does find it – the thought of throwing it all away for a few minutes of s*xual satisfaction doesn't just makes no sense to him

4. A good man has a conscience.

A simple reason, yes – but a strong one nonetheless. The constant guilt associated with cheating on a woman you love and then having to pretend everything is great when you are around her; I would imagine, is impossibly difficult.

5. A good man respects the woman in his life.

Cheating is disrespect. It is casting someone else’s feelings aside because of something temporary you want. But not just something you want; something you want at the expense of your girlfriend/wife, and your relationship. Cheating is lying to someone, it is breaking their trust, and those are not things you do to someone you respect.

6. A good man has grown past adding notches to his bedpost.

A man who is secure and confident in himself no longer has a need to validate his manhood or self-worth by proving he can ‘get the girl.’ Men who are insecure often times need to continue achieving conquests in order to feel like men. Anyone in this position would be better served to simply stay single and sew their wild oats before they choose to commit to someone exclusively.

7. A good man respects himself.

Integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching. I think some men stop themselves from cheating simply because they are afraid of getting caught – but good men would stay faithful even if it were guaranteed that nobody would find out if they weren’t. Why? Because he respects himself. He holds a certain standard for the way he lives his life and the character he has worked so hard to build and maintain.

8. A good man doesn’t take the easy way out.

Cheating is the easy way out. It’s the easy way out of a bad relationship. It’s the easy way to escape. It’s the easy way to avoid responsibility for a breakup by doing something stupid and having her end it instead. It is a way to avoid facing your problems rather than standing up and dealing with them like a grown adult.

Not all relationships are meant to last. Breakups happen every day and for all different reasons — but a good man will understand that and take it in stride. If he is in a relationship he knows isn’t going to work, or if the time comes he has fallen out of love and knows he shouldn’t be stringing his girlfriend on any longer, he will sit her down and have an adult conversation with her about his feelings. He will not start acting single while he is still in a relationship.

9. A good man values his reputation.

In an earlier point we discussed the concept of integrity and how a good man still wouldn’t cheat even if he was guaranteed to get away with it. The reality of it is though, that he is not guaranteed to get away with it. Some do, and some don’t – but the ones who don’t find themselves with a ruined reputation and behind the 8-ball when it comes to trustworthiness.

Being labeled as a cheater is not just about your romantic life, it permeates your entire character and makes people look at you differently. If you would turn your back and betray the person you ‘love,’ how are people with lesser connections with you supposed to take your word for anything?

10. A good man will never turn his back on a friend.

In a happy, healthy relationship – you are not only lovers, but friends. Best friends. You are each others support systems, teammates, and confidants. A good man will never betray a friend, let alone a best friend.

11. A good man doesn’t even have time to cheat.

You might be thinking to yourself — that’s not a very good reason…am I saying that if he was less busy or had more time he would be hanging out at the bar trying to pick up women? Absolutely not — if he was less busy or had more time he would be using that time to find new ways to love the woman he already has.

That’s why a good man doesn’t have the time to cheat, because the time he does have is dedicated to the woman he loves. The woman he has committed himself to. The woman who he spends his life trying to make happy. The woman he sees as an extension of himself. The woman he has tied his emotions to. Hurting her would be hurting himself — and that is something no good man would choose to do.

Cheating is not an accident. It is not something you slip and fall into. It is not an immediate event that nobody saw coming. It requires the same process that any seduction would — an initial meeting, flirting, maybe some exchanging of information, an invitation, an acceptance of said invitation, and then finally the act itself.

bukatyne:
What is the role of a wife as stated explicitly in the Bible

carefreewannabe:
From your write up it seems that it takes only one person to make a marriage work.

Afrobasic:
To me, I think it is because of the gradual distortion of gender roles.

I mean back then, males complemented females and vice versa. like two electrons, one with a spin up and the other with a spin down. Sharing the same space is always going to be easy because for one, they complement each other and also they need each other.

If you left your wife, you know what you were going to miss (in terms of the roles she was playing in the/your family). Same for the woman.

But these days people just get married for marriage sake. Women don't complement men no more and vice versa. We base our marriages on the every fleeting feeling we termed as love or on the beautiful/handsome idea which comes always with an expiration date.

I mean, these days, what do you need a woman for?(other than sex)
What does a woman need a man for?

Y'all go to work 9 - 6. When you both come back it's straight to bed, no bonding via the wife's cooking. No sense of excitement in coming back to meet your wife, because there's nothing tangible to be excited about.

she comes back from work and transfers aggression gotten from her place of work to an already tired you. And you begin to ponder on smacking her across the room or just walking out. Using the electron analogy, it's almost like two electrons both spin up sharing the same space (because you both are playing the same role), they are always bound to obey Pauli's exclusion principle (divorce in the case of real human).

My point is, these days, our all wise and all knowing generation has managed to smash out so many 'moral' codes that has held humanity for ages *in a sense* Without thinking of the consequences what so ever. Men don't need women and women do not need men in this era we live. You might as well marry you fellow (same sex) friend if you need a wife cause you both would be playing the same roles.

cococandy:
ok I get you. It is the women's fault because they change. The men don't. As usual.

ireneidiva:
Our mothers were managing and had no where else to go. Girls of these generation can comfortably build their own houses.

cococandy:
Why emphasis on the mothers?.

Did they marry themselves?
Why does it have to be only the attitude of the mothers that make or break the marriage.

Can the attitude of the father not also cause the marriage to stand or dissolve? Or don't you think fathers have responsibilities to be of good conduct too?

It takes two to tango sis/bro.

free2ryhme:
This NA cannot de. feat BH in 50 years, they are so corrupt and indiscipline, thank God for the like of Captain Sagir Koli who exposed how Ekiti election was rigged.I have always said the Nigerian Army were out to ridicule GMB, to all shouting perjury, forgery ery ery........please read below.

But why is it difficult for Buhari to produce the original copy of the certificate?

He did. As I speak to you, I don’t know where my original certificate is because we gave the original to the Military Board. They took it from us when we applied to join the Army. You give the original copy of credential to the board. They take it and keep it in your file, that’s what happened. How many years ago? 50 years. And Nigeria with our (poor) record-keeping and filing things into an archive -if we have an archive at all; an archive inhabited by rats and cockroaches. I think it’s an insult. I take it as a personal insult.

crackhaus:
And if eventually Nigeria does have more divorces, will that make the institution of marriage better and more respectable?