Themandator:


Has the uncle told him yet?

No!

Ishilove:
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You answered the first two, and avoided the last question.

That's you knowing what you should do but battling with your conscience.

Who can condemn who God has forgiven? While you flogging yourself, God is saying 'I love you and I will not remember your past iniquities'.

You realised your wrong, asked God for forgiveness and repented. Now you have to forgive yourself and let go. God has not condemned you so free yourself from the cage you have put yourself.

If you say you want to confess then also prepare yourself for the storm that will follow.

As for your husband, what's up with all these mental fuckery? Are you acting in any way that's making him suspect you?

No! l am not portraying any attitude to signify such life is going on.

eyinjuege:


You need to see a psychiatrist for some happy pills.

Your case is more than the cheating you did. You may truly be clinically depressed and may need help.

Even if your husband forgives you, the feelings may not go. Even if he sends you packing and divorces you, the feelings may still not go.

I know your fear is that of the native Dr. Nigerians fear our deities than even God, and would rather swear by the Holy Bible or the Noble Quran than Sango or Amadioha.

Am scared of my parents cos l know God has forgiven me and l know when he will ask me about it, that l will confess and that is my fear. My husband with parents will be disappointed with me forever cos they raised me well.

Koolmak:
First and foremost l must say you are a very good Christian with the kind of remorse you feel for your sin.

It was only Jesus that forgave that adulterous woman, Apostle Paul and your pastors won't even see anything wrong in your husband sending you out. So please stop telling them about it.

You just do yourself and your husband a very good favor by making a resolution to never fall into adultery again, you have suffered enough punishment for your sin already, don't impose more punishment on yourself by telling him about it.

Stop thinking about suicide, that will be your greatest mistake.

We are all flawed, me, your husband, the pastors and every nairalander and Seun too.

Try and gear up, listen to messages, listen to radio, watch movies, chat with friends and enjoy life.

Most of all be happy.

it was with a pastor in one of the pentecostal churches and he is still living in the sin of adultery. l still hate myself and curse that day for the act l committed.
Thx for your words, it means alot to me now.

Nuezha:


I suspect he is a good man and you're genuinely sorrowful. I also have no doubt that you're truly repentant. Nonetheless, come out of your prison. Things will eventually fall in place with time.

Thx for your words...

Ishilove:

Answer these questions:

Do you feel God has forgiven you?

Have you genuinely repented?

Are you ready for the ramifications? The ramifications include: Being sent packing and the shame it will bring your family. If you're not sent packing, your husband may never trust you again and will keep reminding you of your past mistake. He will hang it over your head like Shakespeare's sword of Damocles.

Please answer the above.

l feel has forgiven me, but l have not forgiven myself. l have changed from such life ever since then.

nelson16:
Your conscience is fascinating; it is alive. For me, the remorse you show should attract forgiveness. Nevertheless, pray for God's wisdom before taking any action.

thx

Nuezha:


I think you're giving him enough room to suspect you already. It seems to me that your confession won't shock him but will rather confirm his suspicion. Woman, sorry to ask, how old are you? (Give a range: above 25, above 35, etc)

it will shock him. Am even worried about him hating me including other women entirely..
Definitely, he will send me packing for that.

Nuezha:


I think you're giving him enough room to suspect you already. It seems to me that your confession won't shock him but will rather confirm his suspicion. Woman, sorry to ask, how old are you? (Give a range: above 25, above 35, etc)

l was 29, when l cheated on him but am 32 now.

angels09:

Who did you cheat with?
Did you open your kpekus for another joystick?
What prompted you to do the deed?

I don't want to go into details but l have no right to cheat on my spouse no matter what... l guess l was confused and l have learnt my lesson.

akpamuomenka:


Madam your confession shouldn't base on his threats but by your genuine repentance.
If you confess without genuine repentance, you'll cheat on him again and this time your heart will be so hardened that you won't even think of confessing any more.
Prepare to tell him how many times and men........

l did it once and since then, l have not been myself. l have a feeling of "your sins will surely find you out" and is hunting me now. ls been two years now but l don't have peace.

Nuezha:


I feel for you.

A healed wound would always leave behind a permanent scar. Please relax and deal with your feelings of guilt to heal the wound. Talk more to him on relevant, insensitive matters for the time being and give no room for suspicion. At the right time you can do the needful. Remember however, the scar won't go away, confession or not.

Thx alot

Ishilove:

Poster follow this advice.

God answers prayers, I'm a living proof.

l lost my three months preggy cos of my depreesion in Jan, 2016. Ever since, l have not been myself. l keep seeing myself as not worth living.
Each time l look at him, l have this guilty conscience that l have disappointed God and my parents. I cry in my lonely hours and it has made me to stay calm even in my right at home, l felt that l deserve everything that is happening to me.

Nuezha:


Serious!

Please consider the following before you think of confessing, because he will ask you.

Who did you cheat on him with? Better not be his family member, friend, business partner, a lowlife (his driver, gateman etc), your old timer, because these will make it hard (not impossible) for him to pardon you.

Where did you cheat? Better not be in his home.

When did you cheat? Better not be moments when he was sick or had any problem.

Why did you cheat? No reason is cogent enough if you're legally married to him.

Confession is good, but seeking counsel before confession is the best move.

l have asked a pastor and he said l shouldn't confess but am worried cos he told me on Sunday that his uncle who is a native doctor will know if l am cheating on him.

l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.