istoctober:


l lost my three months preggy cos of my depreesion in Jan, 2016. Ever since, l have not been myself. l keep seeing myself as not worth living.
Each time l look at him, l have this guilty conscience that l have disappointed God and my parents. I cry in my lonely hours and it has made me to stay calm even in my right at home, l felt that l deserve everything that is happening to me.

istoctober:


l lost my three months preggy cos of my depreesion in Jan, 2016. Ever since, l have not been myself. l keep seeing myself as not worth living.
Each time l look at him, l have this guilty conscience that l have disappointed God and my parents. I cry in my lonely hours and it has made me to stay calm even in my right at home, l felt that l deserve everything that is happening to me.

istoctober:


l lost my three months preggy cos of my depreesion in Jan, 2016. Ever since, l have not been myself. l keep seeing myself as not worth living.
Each time l look at him, l have this guilty conscience that l have disappointed God and my parents. I cry in my lonely hours and it has made me to stay calm even in my right at home, l felt that l deserve everything that is happening to me.

istoctober:


it will shock him. Am even worried about him hating me including other women entirely..
Definitely, he will send me packing for that.

felixomor:

It is well with you in Jesus name.
Amen.
I thank God that there are still people like you who are Willing to take responsibility for their actions. Some other people will blame others.

Firstly you should know that your inner peace is more expensive than anything on this planet.
Sometimes, the troubling of this inner peace is a signal that you have to settle things.

You may be surprised, that when you eventually tell your husband, he may already be aware.
You may then blame yourself for killing your inner peace unnecessarily all this while.

Secondly, if you allow the guilt to persist, it may continue to hurt you. Especially on occasions when your husband shows you love.

So just open up.
Do it once and for all.
And give your husband a way to assure him, it will never happen again.
By reducing all avenues to cheating in the future.

But first confess to Godand
Pray that God puts forgiveness in his heart.
Have a plan to take care of yourself and kids in case he tells you to move out.
But dont use this as leverage to break free.
By God's grace I pray he will not tell you to move out.

Finally, develop a good relationship with God and study God's word.
This is the only way you will get real peace.
No man, not even my advice can give you this.

I pray God heals you, your marriage in Jesus name.
Amen

istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.

istoctober:


l have asked a pastor and he said l shouldn't confess but am worried cos he told me on Sunday that his uncle who is a native doctor will know if l am cheating on him.

Themandator:


Has the uncle told him yet?

istoctober:


No!

Ishilove:

My brother, they will come and preach but behind closed doors they are committing. God is surely a merciful God

Ishilove:

My brother, they will come and preach but behind closed doors they are committing. God is surely a merciful God

taryour:
i really do not understand why majority of the comments on This thread are advising the op Not to confess to her husband, He is your husband damn it Not your boyfriend, you both ate bound together as one since you made vows.
if you decide Not to tell him and he later fines out, wouldn't that be worse, He would never ever believe you cheated just once, as a matter of fact he might never ever trust you again. You have committed a great offense now face the consequences of your action and do unto others What you want done onto you.

you have even disrespected him more by telling pastors before telling him, asking God for forgiveness and them confessing to your husband next would have done it all. no pastor has à say in Whatever happens in your home.

please confess to your husband and let your conscience be free. you don't have to do it to His face if you cant bear to look him in the eye, or fear of him getting violent. yea he Will send you parking but if he truly loves you and he is yours he Will forgive you and take you back. let him forgive you and accept you back as His woman whom he truly loves because he loves and wants you as His wife and Not because ppl begged him to forgive and accept you back..

but if at the end he doesn't accept you back, then that's the consequences of your actions, face it. at least your mind is free and you leave in peace. i Cant believe à passer told u not to confess. it is well. Do not let him find out himself, He is your husband Not your boyfriend and you cheated while you were married and Not before marriage. Best of luck

Nuezha:


Serious!

Please consider the following before you think of confessing, because he will ask you.

Who did you cheat on him with? Better not be his family member, friend, business partner, a lowlife (his driver, gateman etc), your old timer, because these will make it hard (not impossible) for him to pardon you.

Where did you cheat? Better not be in his home.

When did you cheat? Better not be moments when he was sick or had any problem.

Why did you cheat? No reason is cogent enough if you're legally married to him.

Confession is good, but seeking counsel before confession is the best move.

Added: Some praised and some condemned my choice of word "lowlife". I can understand. I wish you will all be there to hear the man speak after hearing the wife's confession, and she actually cheated with his husband's driver. '1stoctober' has apparently heard her husband woice through me and she's better prepared.

Nuezha:


Serious!

Please consider the following before you think of confessing, because he will ask you.

Who did you cheat on him with? Better not be his family member, friend, business partner, a lowlife (his driver, gateman etc), your old timer, because these will make it hard (not impossible) for him to pardon you.

Where did you cheat? Better not be in his home.

When did you cheat? Better not be moments when he was sick or had any problem.

Why did you cheat? No reason is cogent enough if you're legally married to him.

Confession is good, but seeking counsel before confession is the best move.

Added: Some praised and some condemned my choice of word "lowlife". I can understand. I wish you will all be there to hear the man speak after hearing the wife's confession, and she actually cheated with his husband's driver. '1stoctober' has apparently heard her husband woice through me and she's better prepared.

istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out.

istoctober:


l did it once and since then, l have not been myself. l have a feeling of "your sins will surely find you out" and is hunting me now. ls been two years now but l don't have peace.