@OP

From the tone of your writing, it seems to me that your relationship is in a watershed moment. The best advice that I can offer is that you let him know about your state of mind. The first mistake most folks make in their relationships is to complain to, or seek advice from, outsiders---including your friends and family---while your partner is oblivious to your plight and will be the last to know. Interestingly, everyone on this thread know more about your feelings than your poor partner. You should be talking to him, not us! Communication is the key. He is not a wizard so there is no way he would know what you are thinking.

I do understand why you haven't approached him. I would guess that you are trying not to hurt his feelings, but there is no way his feelings wouldn't be ultimately hurt, because you are not happy and someday, you will project your dissatisfaction unto some innocent thing or person.

If there are any changes that he can make then let him know. My girlfriend once complained to me that she hated my fashion sense. She was so tired of seeing me in agbádá and sneakers that she offered to do all my shopping for me. I gladly obliged; in all honestly, I obliged after weeks of stubbornness. However, if there is nothing that he can do, then set him free. If you don't, both of you will end up hurt.

I refuse to comment.

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