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Ginaz:
You're married now, your ex should respect that. What kind of mother is she? She's threatening the peace in your house using emotional blackmail to get her way.

I am a woman, I know lot of tactics used on men and one of the most foremost is emotional blackmail. She want the o.p to feel bad about driving her whenever she brings the kid to visit without the o.p permission.

O.p so far you take very good care of your children and spend quality time with them you should only have casual friendship with their mother cos things like this breaks home. Your wife seeing your ex in her matrimonial home will feel threatened and the hand of distrust will get hold of her heart and before you know it, fight fight everyday. No rest no peace.

Your ex will use the opportunity to rush in, then devil will be singing on top your family.

Next time, make arrangements for the kids, visiting times, holiday times and you can put location on where your ex will drop then so you go pick them, like your parents house.

Don't let devil destroy your homes o, some women sha. No waa. Kick her out joor, weenti lost for your house wen she day find come

Whenever she comes to your house again, shout at her, I mean a big loud shout. Involve the family and police. She means no good coming to your house believe me.

We actually made an arrangement on that to reduce her coming around. The kids attend a private school which the school bus drop them at her place and if there is need to pick the children for urgent iaaues we give her a call earlier of such need and the school bus drop them at my place. I did nt feel comfortable with her barging into my family compound and extent of attending parties with my siblings.

Axon:
Fathers of these days.

She is coming around because she feels the need to let her kids have some filial identity. Would you prefer she is always at a club doing drugs and getting gangbanged?... So you will prefer she takes your money and cuts you off totally, your kids will never get to see their parents together?

If you didn't consider her evil enough to have 2 kids with, then you should be able to deal with a bit of the inconvenience of she and your children being around than not.

I think we give her children free access to my family but nt actually coming when d kids are nt there bro

Viking007:
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Viking007:
are the children Yours?

yes

I have been legally married with 2 kids now

I had this troublesome relationship that lasted 8 years with 2 issues. After both parties try to fix it up with no avail. We decided to go separate ways. 8 years after separation I decided to remarry which was legally and performing all traditional rites. The issue now was that my ex keep using d excuses of the children that are with her to come to our family compound though we have warn her to stay a distance off my family and relationship and as the welfare of children has been taken care of and had no excuses of coming down since she has their custody.

She is bend of coming near me which I see as a threat to my new family cos of her devilish nature.

Kindly advise on what to do to keep her at distance from my new family. I have advise her to call so as to pick her kids for holiday instead of her coming to our family compound

ther is something bothering the child that needs to be spell out. He needs counselling spiritually and metally