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Haven't written a love letter before and haven't receive any ,so does not know how most love letters go. But these days with the advent of phone and sms , do people still write love letters . Any ways , the boy tried , he didn't allow his limitations to limit him. If the girl recieves the letter , there will only be 3 possible responses . No, yes or no response at all. My girlfriend at youth service , i still remember what she said to me , the day i made my intentions clear to her, that she like men who are bold enough to say what they want.as the song goes ,if you love somebody , ,walk up to her and tell her say you luv am

I believe that there are two things to aim for in life . 1. To get what you want and 2. After that to want what you get, after you have gotten it . It seems to me that i met more people at the night club where i normally hang out ,but i go there because my house is isolated , so i go there to see other people,not much of a drinker infact took my first bottle of beer during my convocation party. Not looking for friends in as much as am looking for a friend. Wouldn't mind a female friend but it seems to me that they are for a season.

How do you make friends,i mean friends that stick closer than brothers. I mean same sex friends not homo, friends who would influence ur life positively , i was shy growing up, through secondary school and university , was friendly with everybody but my close friends i can count in one hand and usually we became friends because they kept coming near . I usually prefer my own company and the company of my books and never learnt the rudiments of friendship,but all this changed at youth service . Now after youth service , i got a job in a new state , don't know anybody apart from my fellow worker who are mostly secondary school leavers. And calls me manager . So i feel i can't look for that from them, tried females , which i think it is relatively more easier to girl friends but you end up spending ur money which i don't want . Where is the best place to look , is it from the church or from the club, where i usually club or from my fellow arsenal supporters where we watch arsenal play or among my customers . Who knows how to make goods ,teach me i want to learn . I don't like this feeling of loneliness all about me.

Where i am now,i feel so lonely,making friends have never been my strong points since am an introvert and used to be very shy and had a bad case of inferiority complex as a result of up bringing.been in ikom for like 4 months now. Met a girl ,who i thought would take away some of these loneliness but discovered she is looking for a mugu or do i say sugardaddy.it is begining to seen to me that all this talks of love is for when you have money especially with nigeria n girls. Some of them will think much of you if you cant provide money for credit ,hair do, cream , some of their numerous expenses .

Well ,i am waiting for the first one to ask me out,if she meets my taste ,nothing spoil . But if i no fancy am ,she is on her own.

Call her and trash the issue out . As she said try to communicate ur feelings to her and take it from there. Nothing tried ,nothing gained.

There is nothing bad about it,but in this nigeria , how will he carry on with the relationship,if he is not buoyant ,especially if entangles with these give me,give me , ladies . Well i  suppose it will depend on your being lucky enough, to find a woman who will agree to stick with you even though u are jobless. Goodluck or do i say jonathan

@spoilt ,we are waiting for ur own memoirs but on your own thread ,to avoid confusion as many people are begining to tell their stories.

I will go for good relationship because 1. It will offer an opportunity for personal growth and developement .2. It will help you to mature and learn to look at the world through ur partners eye. 3. Relationships help to focus ur life and energy,good relationships ,i mean. What is good sex ? I mean 1 hour ,it is over and you are on your own and further more you can buy good sex and sometimes you even feel remorse later. But good relationship takes time to be built ,just like good friendship it may not last forever but its memory lives forever.

Guy,how old are you,i believe at a certain point in ur life,you need to accept urself as you are and be confident of urself. But you must love this girl for this his message to affect you so. Why don't you ask her what she is doing around you ,if she doesn't feel you. On another thought ,why don't you post ur picture for the forumites ,to tell you whether you are : beautiful ,ugly or beaugly.period.

@POSTER, define ur no strings  attached, is it friends with benefits ? Any ways , i hereby submit my applicition.

BTW , where are you at ,will like to get to know you ,you sound reasonable.

@nellaluv, you mean i should wait to see if the girl will call before i call  her after our first meeting.

My advice would be ,be urself, be confident walk upto the chick in question ,tell her ur name ,ask for her's  in return . Don't panic just pick it from there. You would be surprised at the outcomes once the initial barrier has been broken. Try been friends first. Though personal ,i don't like games, i usually  state my goals on the second meeting ,if not on the first.even when the say no,we usually end up friends. So i think why not start from friends ,we may end up ,lovers.