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Hello.
I need serious help /advice. I think I am destroying myself because of an obsession with a girl that's with another man and it's obvious she didn't /doesn't love me(that's why she broke up with me).

I might sound so alarming but it's an emergency oo be I 'finish my life'

We dated during NYSC and after NYSC she broke up with me. I begged her to the extent that she blocked me on WhatsApp and even sms and phone calls. I call her mum. And informed her mum. Her spoke to her after 8 months of the' breakup' she unblocked me. And we started chatting again until she discovered I was teaching in a secondary school. She will then be giving polar answers like yes, Fine no etc. In short one word answers. I stopped calling or texting her for about 2 months until she called me asking me how I have been. I new there was something fishy. Then I started calling her again and she became worse. She will say she's busy that I should call back or she yawns as if she's asleep or about to fall asleep already. Then it dawns on me that I am now her EX. I became so sad it affected me the school I teach and even at home I started reacting aggressively to people around me. I became frustrated at school. That I had to tender my resignation. Later.



I became jobless and broke to negative point with a lot of bad debt.


I so much love this girl that the feeling of her with another man is Made me act abnormal ' I put out WhatsApp status for only her to see.

The truth is I know this girl is not in love with me. But my mind keeps making me obsessed with her.
I am desperate to let her go but I don't know how please help.



Please pardon my disjointed sentence and tenses
I sent it in a rush

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Tolax17:
Search for datingdrills for guys on nairaland

No thanks I have applied this thread in my life. This time around I am in for a serious relationship not as a player. God bless you.

duduade:
Nothing is wrong with both of you
You both simply have NOTHING in COMMON

Thanks I love this. kinda true though.

Good morning guys. This is such a great thread. I have made use of some of the drill in here successfully. However I feel the main purpose of this thread as been defeated. Some of the drills here are too teach guys how to end up as a player i.e a person who jumps from one ship to another. Love is far beyond some of what's been painted in here. Though we live in the 21st where it's somehow difficult to find true love but this ain't a reason to end up as a 'player'.

There was a quote here by the leader of this great thread that to maintain peace one has to be battle ready at all times. but this philosophy seems logical but it's not true in reality. you end up not fighting for what you hold dear(or it proves you don't even hold anything dearly).

Any body that practices some of the drills here is sure not ready for marriage...

please I need recommendations

Hello good evening.

Please I just realise I am very poor in the aspect of chatting with my girlfriend.
Most time our chatting goes thus
hey how you doing ? fine you too? fine too.
Daily I really do not know how to chat with her. and I am really tired to doing this.
please I need help to really chat better