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Hey guys, I think this is the best phase of my life. She finally put to bed a bouncing baby boy. I fairly supported her during the period of pregnancy, but thank God she and the baby are safe. Just want to say thanks to you guys for the positive responses. I am looking forward to making better plans for her and my child.. God bless

Thanks to everyone that has posted on this thread. God bless you all.
SenorFax, you are the best
dingbang. Thanks for your idea

I pray that other young people will learn from my mistake..
Avoid pre-marital sex at all cost and if u must, be wise to use protection..

I m grateful to the mods for pushing this to Front Page....

Lotechi:
. nobody forces anybody to get married these days. provided you have the money to Cater for your child. you are a man oooooo so stand your ground and besides she promised she would not get pregnant (verbal contract)and she went against the contract so she is supposed to be paying for damages.

Thanks

ameemu:
please my guy think before you do it.
you said she is a graduate and you are too, talk to your parents brace up for the future. get a job that can fetch you some money, while serving try to liaise with your LI and CLO. because
1)the unborn child might be the Only Child God has destined you with.
2)the unborn child might the source of happiness for you
3) I believed a child is a source of blessings from God
4) I believed God will open ways for you if you are ready to father the baby.
don't be afraid don't abort and do your best to keep the baby.
please note that REGRET might turn to happiness or sorrow in the future.

Thanks alot

Mariangeles:
You have to brace up, be a man and live up to your responsibility.
It might be hard now though but don't worry, it will definitely get better...Please, abortion is not the solution.
When your child comes, you will be amazed at how you'll fall in love with the child...people will be around to help you...

Thanks, God bless you

Sassychik:
Please stop endangering your health by worrying over the blessing God gave you. A child is a blessing and not a curse. 5-10 yrs from now, you'll look back and laugh at yourself for fretting over this same child and would thank God profusely for not allowing you do anything stupid.

What has happened, has happened and there's no need crying over spilled milk. The way forward now is to involve your parents who'll meet her parents on your behalf. Don't ever plan to confront her parents on your own. Be truthful about it and let them know how you feel about the mother. If your parents are not available, get one or two respectable adults in your family to go with you. Don't allow anyone pressure you into marrying someone you don't love. However, if the lady in question is of good character, be open-minded and consider dating her for some time to see if you guys are compatible enough to make a home for the child's sake, but if it doesn't work, take care of your child and both of you should move on stay friendly for the child's sake.

Lastly, please don't even consider an abortion or listen to twerps here saying you should. May God be with you!

Thanks for this piece. I m indeed grateful.
No abortion, will do as you have said

Getting a first class is quite easy. Hardwork matters but you also need to have a good brain

dingbang:
and please stay out of sex if can't handle It..

I will.. thanks alot

dingbang:
I mentioned you have to search on Google for adoption facilities in Nigeria. You will see good leads and then you do what you have to do.

Alright. Will give it a try. Thanks alot for your concern

dingbang:
nobody is compelling you to marry any body.. Do what I told u to do...

I m sorry can u pls tell me what to do??

I don't see what to do from your previous posts. Please

dingbang:
mchew... Oya wallow in ur confusion na.. I am offering help and you are here behaving like a sissy..

I am really sorry brother. The problem is I am not ready for marriage. I don't want any one to be hurt. I just want Peace.. I am only scared of being compelled to marry her

dingbang:
its alright brother.. The reason why many Nigerian girls are throwing away babies in the gutters is that they are not aware that there are facilities in place for adoption in Nigeria. Please Google is your best friend at this moment.

I have been searching for help. I m confused. I am trapped

Emekus92:
yes na

I wish I could but no where to run...

My heart bleeds.....

dingbang:
There is one thing about sex that people fail to realise especially young boys


At that moment of poking your preek inside, your senses, wisdom, thoughts, plans for the future and the world generally shuts down. The only thing you just feel is the warmth of her vagina and the eagerness to erupt inside her... Just after that, your senses reboots.. And then you realise how stupid you were...


I have been on that road brother... And I must tell you, at the end, avoid sex ... Even when the hormones are 100percent, just avoid it.

I wish I had known it would turn out this way
But I don't want to live in regrets. Only seeking for a solution.. I can't tell neither of my parents.. I m alone on this journey.

Emekus92:
u don't want the child

I just don't know what else to do bro...
I m more confused than before

Emekus92:
then it is either u pack out or force her to accept ur condition

Do you mean I should run?

Emekus92:
then it is either u pack out or force her to accept ur condition

The condition that I won't Marry her?

Emekus92:
It seems men don't come her way at all and since u have come she will force you to stay.

have u confirm the pregnancy urself?

telling her parents is not a good idea they might decide to take responsibility of taking care of the child and an agreement might come that when you settle down u will come and take them back by marriage. if you don't want to marry her then don't talk to her parents.

so it is either u force her to accept ur condition or u move away from her by travelling or pack out

Yes I have confirmed. She did the test n brought the results.
I don't want to marry

I am feeling a bit relieved that people still show care.
Please don't leave me..
Thanks as more helpful comments are made

Aspiregreat:
And you also thrusted intentionally? Since she want marriage and even wants to keep the baby let her be. you are automatically the father of the child but the choice is yours to be the husband.

I had no choice.. I never saw this coming.
Thanks for your advice. Only scared to be compelled to marriage

SenorFax:
Her parents should be in charge, you deal with those in charge, take the game from her court, place your cards carefully during discussion with her parent as long as you agree to the responsibility as a father (which is the first step).
Tell them what you did before she does (after full confirmation that she is really pregnant, girls are tricky)

Thanks for this.. yes the pregnancy is confirmed
I agree to the responsibility, but not marriage.
I am scared if I wouldn't be compelled to...

Emekus92:
Do she earn money or depends on her parents

She just graduated too.. about to start working

I can't eat, sleep.. This is the worst experience ever. Please help

SenorFax:
Yeah, tell them you are not ready, counterstrike and you'll be surprised.

Thanks but sorry what exactly do u mean by counterstrike

SenorFax:
Go see her parent, explain how it happened and what you have in mind, am sure agreements will be made to favour both parties at d end.

If you don't want marriage then She don become baby mama be that.

The deed is done, way out ni koko.

I really don't want marriage.. OH GOD

Aspiregreat:
Since you ain't ready to settle down, you should have used birth control pills /Contraceptives as common sense demands.

She really did this intentionally..

Emekus92:
Women ways of holding a man down (get him to impregnate you force him to allow u keep the baby then next is marriage) that is what u r into.

Oh God...

I am so confused at this time. I don't have a job, I just graduated preparing for nysc.. what steps do I take?? Please

Hector09:
Condom been finish for ur village

No sir. But she insisted on unprotected sex saying she wouldn't get pregnant

What do I do??