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fabulousdame: wat do u think?

What I think - ordinarily & Ceteris Paribus(all things being equal), age SHOULD determine maturity but unfortunately it doesn't and that is a pity.

In psychology, maturity is the ability to respond to
the environment in an appropriate manner. This
response is generally learned rather than instinctive.
Maturity also encompasses being aware of the
correct time and place to behave and knowing when
to act appropriately, according to the circumstances
and the culture of the society one lives in. Adult
development and maturity theories include the
'purpose in life' concept, in which maturity
emphasizes a clear comprehension of life's purpose,
directedness, and intentionality, which contributes to the feeling that life is meaningful.
The status of maturity is distinguished by the shift
away from reliance on guardianship/tutoring and the oversight of an adult in decision-making acts.
Maturity has different definitions across legal, social,
religious, political, sexual, emotional, and intellectual contexts. The age or qualities assigned for each of these contexts are tied to culturally-significant indicators of independence that often vary as a result of social sentiments. The concept of psychological maturity has implications across both legal and social contexts, while a combination of political activism and scientific evidence continue to reshape and qualify its definition. Because of these factors, the notion and definition of maturity is somewhat subjective.

Idrismusty97: Age can only denote experience not maturity.

True talk brother. Very true. And its with experience that your conclusion can be arrived at.

jonglexer: my 1st day on nairaland and 1st to comment...i am for greatness

You are welcome broda. I pray you won't b disapointed by NL. Brace up, 4 d journey is rough but then it cud b fun too.

zaimeg: We saw the message to unmarried women. I had to follow up on the author and she had something for the men.
Enjoy!

“Eketi, you’re busy talking about the ladies only, when we guys like are also suffering.” A friend of mine said this to me a couple of days ago, when I put up apost about spotting the signs of abuse in men. He said men are also on the lookout for wives and many are currently in a dilemma because they got hooked to the wrong lady. Well, gentlemen, this one is for you. I told him if a guy can’t cope with a lady, he should walk away. He then said some don’t know the signs to avoid,well here’s a few.

Since most women are incapable of physical abuse, some have resorted to other forms of abuse like economic, verbal, emotional, etc.

Young man, if you’re in a relationship or about to ask out a woman who is always talking about money, I advise you to think twice. Unless your surname ends with Trump, Gates, Dangote or Helu, or your father’s mother’s cousin’s son-in-law’s driver’s half-sister owns the Cetral Bank, you’re in for a rough ride, Mister. If her interests are always in what you bought for her, how much money you gave herthis month….she will bring you grief. This woman is a leech and will milk you to the last drop, then wring you, just in case there are some stray kobos left in your pockets, then she will dry you and dumpyou. Abeg, borrow my favourite letters for this kind of situation are: R. U. N!

Some women will so verbally abuse you, you’ll wish your mother’s womb could open again and you’ll crawl into that safe cocoon of innocence. She’s rude, sometimes vulgar, calls you all sorts of names, denigrates you, always compares you with your friends and calls it “keeping it real.”
I agree…..the real thing is she’ll keep on doing this and will never stop. And unless you can tame the shrew, pack ya kaya and move on!
If she always harps on a particular issue forever, repeating those words till they burrow inside your brain like itch-mites and you can recite
them by heart, it’s call nagging. Methinksyou should flee o! Else, one day, you’ll either wake up in police custody with a murder charge on your head or realise that you’re a recurrent member of Alcoholics Anonymous.

Please, in the name of all that’s sane and logical, don’t be with a woman who is still hung up on her ex. If a woman is always going on and on about how her ex, John was mean to her, cheated on her, didn’t treat her right, etc, bros, unless you’re her shrink and helping her work out her
emotional problems, I suggest you pack your luggage and board the next available flight. She is definitely a citizen of Yesterday, living in baggage House, on Regret street. You will wake up one day, and see a Dear John letter pinned to your pillow.

If a woman keeps telling you that all men are dogs, and how she hates all men except you, her darling boo, just know that network is bad and your matter is hanging. One day, very soon, you will make a mistake or slip up in a little issue. Then her verdict will be delivered and you will join the long list of men in her life who are hated canines.

If a lady compares your relationship to that of Nneka, Sandra or Shade, just know that you’re in the Best Couples of All time Competition…..the only thing is you don’t know you’ve been registered as a contender. For this kind of woman, nothing you ever do with and for her is good enough, because one her friend’s will definitely be better. In my opinion, you would be better off Keeping Up with the Kardashians than with this woman (ifyou realise how much I hate that empty show, you’ll know this is a really last-resort kinda advice).

Ah, my brother have you met the NEVER DIVA? Like her name suggests, there are things she’ll never do because she believes they are a man’s, servant’s or a professional’s job. She NEVER calls you. She NEVER buys you any gifts. She’s NEVER emotionally available. She NEVER takes you out or even offers to pay for half the meal. She NEVER apologises. She is NEVER wrong. She NEVER compliments you. She’ll NEVER give up anything for you or the family. She’ll NEVER compromise. I can NEVER say this enough…..NEVER hook up with this kind of woman!

There’s this other sister whose favourite song is “Just as I am, without one plea…” The only thing is, she’s not singing it in the original gospel version. Like “Mount Zion which cannot be removeth,” her favourite mantra is “you met me like this and this is how I’ll always be!” and she’ll
never love you enough to compromise or change to make you happy. It doesn’t matter if you own a boutique…her skimpy clothes will stay. Don’t bother enrolling her in evening school; her broken grammar will do just fine. That you’re an accountant that can help her with financial advice on saving and investing makes no difference- her money is her own to throw away as she wishes. I can only ask; bros, whence goeth thou?

I am sure I have by no means exhausted the list; the above are the commonest I could think of. Don’t be like Macbeth whose wife pushed
him to commit heinous crimes.

Recently, I heard a popular song by KCee, a Nigerian artiste, in which he pleaded with a girl, saying “oya make we go limpopo…..let me be your maga tonight.” The Limpopo I know is a South Africanprovince and a maga is a fool.
So unless your name is Kcee and you’re a fool who likes visiting places in South Africa, then don’t let yourself be “mumutized” by any woman.

Source : http://rachaelzheart./2013/09/06/men-cry-too/

WOW!!!!!! I read this and I shivered. This is so on point. May God give wisdom, knowledge and understanding to the guys who fit the "When a man loves a woman...." description.

@zaimeg TNX for this. I as a person hav learnt from this even though I had to 'learn from experience' first.
Aside, do u spk Hausa?

BuHahahahahahaha or do you guys think I shudnt laf?

FOR THATGURLVIXEN

Vixen mi owon......ma binu si mi . Oro aso odun yen noni, o ye ko ti ye e nau

Thatgurlvixen

First Monday in December.......ThankGod4HisMercies.

Obinoscopy: Thanks, I intend having fun to the fullest .

we go con cheer yu up. when/what tym is d final sef?

And what/where are we moving on to if i may ask?

[quote author=ms_pee]No, I don't want chicken and chips. [/quote]Oya what/who do you want na

[quote author=ms_pee]I understand this c c nut thing, and it's making me happyyyyyyyyy. 2 big ripe coconuts [/quote]Ahaaa!So yu like c c nuts too or yu possess some two n wud like to offer

[quote author=ms_pee]No. Who is ***** or *******?[/quote] &

Shugamania: Missed ya too, jay. Yes u owe me, u ready to pay?

U be police? I carry coconut.

Yes am readyto pay all my dues diz wkd. how do you want it

i nor be police but i go still collect. i can picture d c c nuts. they r two and they r looking ripe n sweet so how/when do I get to utilise them

[quote author=ms_pee]Okay dear [/quote]izit rily okay? wt all diz tears or shud i call on **** or ******* to com n cheeeeeeer yu up

[quote author=ms_pee]What's C and C? [/quote]Chicken & Chips

Obinoscopy: Thanks sweet-tease. Thanks for the goodluck wishes and the kisses. I really need them . Wouldn't mind more kisses .

Am also wishing yu gud luck but most importantly hav fun

[quote author=sweet-tease]I go beat you oo I gave you biscuit bt you didn't collect, nw you are here yarning okpata.
I go giv you bucket cry inside now *evil grin*

Good afternoon shuga!

Goodluck obino [/quote] maybe she prefers C&C

[quote author=ms_pee]I have.
If I haven't, then why is no one asking after me?
Why is no one caring about/talking to me? [/quote]Hehehehe . oya disappear agn and dis tym ppl will ask of yu most esp me

Shugamania: Goooodddd morninnnnnngggggggggggggggg!!!!!

Shugadarl hav i missd yu?sup wt yu?just remembered IOU so ..........

Werin yu carry

[quote author=sweet-tease]Good morning! Nothng much, just plotting *don't ask me about it* hav missed you too. My friend is doing okay! Great, start paying

Pele, hope you are rested now. Goodmorning how was your nyt?

Yes! It does! am sure you do

Am doing okay. Good morning! How was your nyt?[/quote]tell me abt it nau abi wud u prefer2 whisper it or code it ? Time2Pay. watch out.

luxanne: Aww dear am good, missed ya too

Abi, the nigerian coping technique, suffering and smiling, Lol.
Been working on something dear, not to worry, y'all will get to know aborrit when am done

How's you and how have you been?

ok, patiently waiting if you say so.lemme kno if/when my physical/emotional/psychological/.......al etc will b needed.

bin bizy kinda but am always better than d day before . so wats cooking dis wkd.

[quote author=ms_pee]Thanks dear. I have been on break. I have seen it. Seen mine?[/quote]all dis una *coughs (2ce)* . anyway dint c nfyn. just ff d instructions laid out using d best option u r most comfortable wt

[quote author=ms_pee]Alright then, I'm buying this...for a while tho.
I shouldn't be smiling now *covers face*[/quote]dats my sweerie. its always good to give friends enefit of doubts n yu just did, dat makes yu sweet.......sweeter than even . so oya gist me nau werin dey shele to you *whispers* i kept sometn for you outside

[quote author=ms_pee]I mean off here. You're telling me something different now[/quote]you wudnt believe dat ive actually not attended to anytn off here 4 a while now. am on pc coz i,ll nid to reload OS on my device.ma binu.will explain every to you in due course of time. oya smile for me nau.

[quote author=ms_pee]You are doing it. It's getting to me... Well, I'm still very angry and will remain like this for sometime. I don't like being side-lined[/quote]but yu know i aint bin around lyk dat.bin somwhat engaged ni nau. o ye ko ti ye e nau.

[quote author=ms_pee]I have been neglected by everybody, including you. And I'm not happy about it.


Good morning.[/quote]aaawwww!!!!!!!!!!!!!!sweerie mi.why wud i dodat nau?oya ma binu dear.ive bin to d sun noni for serious training.but am bck(almost bck actually) with loads of goodies for you. oya give me a hug first nau

To all d homies n d chics in d house, i greet you all. how was d day? hope ur all kool.

ms_pee mi owon> i hav missd you badly.............. ki lo nshele nau? you nor c me n you nor ask of me

[quote author=sweet-tease]Sweetheart mi let haters keep hating, you know what it does for us just let them keep thinkn they are working against us. How was your day?

Goodevening everyone![/quote]hello sweets. wusup wt u?missed you gan howz ur friend nau?i remember i owe her. and everyone i owe, i pay my debts this wkd.

Beync: Lol.

ST how body?

Gudnight house

G'nyt Benyc. Sai dai safe ko?

dre11: Thanks Jbluv55, can you now give us the reason why we can't quote someones reply?

UWC dre11 but it seems obvious to me dat Anuoluwap doesn't hav any valid reasons against quoting,so don't you think we shud ignore him till he has?

Anuoluwap: Lol, I'm laughing now, guess what? I just achieved my aim, didn't I?

why not check my last post agn coz ur "LOL" seems its for nothing,or were you "LOL" @ ursef?

Anuoluwap: No, can you just continue without quoting?

Yes,but can you explain what u hav against quoting?