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chaircover: As women we should always be prepared. We hold down the home front and entertaining guests to the home is one of the activities that we should be good at. If you are well organized and have an open mind to your guests, then it isn't difficult. It only becomes difficult when you have already made up your mind not to entertain a particular person for whatever reason.

Would this wife have served her own mother who came to visit with chin chin for breakfast? Yes I understand that some people dont think straight and dont set out to be wicked, but how come it took her 4 hours to go get the loaf of bread? The 10am breakfast offer was too late to start with not to talk about 2pm.

Marriage is not just about giving good sexx and popping out kids every year. How will the husband feel if he comes back and finds that his friend wasn't offered anything tangible to eat all day? Many women dont have their husbands listening ear because they are just a thorn in the mans side and and always trying to prove a point and to make the man look stupid all the time. Even if a woman has issues with her husband, they should always have an united front and sort our their issues behind closed doors and not in front of guests.

When you see couples slugging it out and they come with one small silly excuse for their breaking up, you wonder why, but what it is is these constant funny funny small small issues that are leaving a bad taste in ones mouth that are all piling up and causing the big rift between the couple.

Everywoman should have the facilities to be able to cook at least one 20 minute meal if she is called upon at any time in an emergency. It is not hard to rustle up some spaghetti, dry pepper, maggi and sardine. No fresh ingredients are needed for this.

Using myself as an example, even though we dont drink, we always have an unopened bottle of Moet and red and white wine in our cuboard, I always have an unopened pack of good quality biscuits, packs of carton drinks for kids and crisps/sweets/chocolates for when kids visit unexpectedly or something for parents to take back to their kids. No kid comes to my house and leaves empty handed. I also order meatpies and freeze and reheat as required when I have guests who dont want a proper meal but just a snack.

We dont eat breakfast on weekdays, but any guest that sleeps over will have breakfast on a wednesday, even if it means me waking up to cook yam and place it in the cooler before going to work. Its not a permanent situation and I know that there are other areas in which I may inconvenience other people/people do things for me too at some point in my life. But then I hear stories of people who lock their kitchen and wonder why. No man is an island, no matter how rich you are.

With longer term guests, younger or older. I tell them upfront to feel free and to eat what they want and I just stock up the house for them. I will even buy things that we dont eat just to make them comfortable.

Anyway I derive great pleasure from knowing that my guests come to my house and leave satisfied, not just with food, my time and making sure your room has clean crisp sheets and other small small things to make you comfortable such as water/glass beside your bed etc to make sure that you have an enjoyable stay in my home.

WOW! Carefully laid out by a woman.......I am overwhelmed! I think @ this point I can rest my case.https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-happy023.gif

yellowpawpaw: This thread is very funny!
Both the first and second women fall hand.
Food? The least expensive thing u can offer a visitor is now a problem.
Nawao!
Unless they r not in my abode, I will spoil them with my generosity.
I've had uninvited, invited, hubby's friends, sleep overs and those that pop in to deliver message, u must feel that magic touch.
There r things I hv in my house that hubby is not aware of.(Secret from my momma). It pays to be a good host o!
Also, I hv my hubby's back to cover.
Am I a kid?

Well said ma'am. Well said.

Yield: Firstly, I’m not married. I’m single and the last thing on my mind right now is marriage. I’m probably the most welcoming person you will ever meet. Even if a friend comes over to my place, I will cook for her. Secondly, you do not have the right to tell anyone how to act in their home. If you go over to someone’s house and they offer you something to eat, show gratitude. Just saying “I don’t eat that” is rude and makes you an ingrate. I’m not sure why the woman asked if he wanted chin-chin, but even if he didn't want to eat that, he should’ve smiled and thanked her, but he thought he had a sense of entitlement in their home. Thirdly, we’re talking about breakfast here. If it was dinner and she had cooked for the whole family and didn’t cook for the guest, that would be a different story. Her husband had already left early for work that morning and gone about his own day. It is not their responsibility to feed this guy or approaching him in the morning with food, and that is the truth. I don’t know what sort of arrangement he made with the family, but since they were allowing him to stay in their home, I don’t think they would’ve had a problem with him making his own breakfast. I don’t think they would’ve had a problem with him making his own tea and eating bread or whatever. In my previous post, I wasn’t even saying he couldn’t eat any of their own food (I’m sure they never told him that either!), but the take-home I got from his post was that he “expected” her to be making food for him, which was the basis of my response. If a friend lets me stay over for two days, I would’nt expect him/her to be feeding me. You don’t go to someone else’s home and expect them to do jack. Knowing me, I probably would’ve offered him some good food to eat in the morning, but I’m not her. You can’t control what someone does, all you can control is your reaction. If you react negatively, depending on the individual he/she might just react negatively too or pull back from the situation, which was what the woman did and I don't blame her.

if am to be objective then I should say I flow wt you also.
only problem is the woman shudnt have played that kind of prank all the same. There us no harm in politely telling him(guest) that chin chin was all they had in the house and that he shud manage it and that wud hav left the ball entirely in the guest's court.

babyosisi: No way
I don't know if you are married or not but if you are, please do not do what you just described to guests in your home especially your husband's friends and relatives or else,I guarantee you will have a thread in this section asking for an intervention.
If unable to treat guest properly with the right etiquette ,tell them they cannot come
Be upfront
That is a more noble thing to do

If I call you and ask if I can stay overnight at your home and you accept,I expect you to serve me breakfast in the morning or tell me where I can get the breakfast stuff if you are leaving early
And you and I know that chin chin is not breakfast,it is a snack like peanuts
A cup of tea and two slices of bread won't make that family bankrupt.
If it was the last 2 slices of bread I had after the kids had eaten,I would give it to that guest and drink water.
That is the proper way to act in such circumstance
There are some things outsiders shouldn't hear and this is one
That someone came to your home and you treated them this shabbily including expecting them to go out in search of their own meals
Courtesy demands that you make provision for those meals,it is up to them to decline
That ,or you turn down requests from anyone visiting.

Again I think I flow with the bolded. Am so feeling you ma'am.
However, we all do not know if the woman had breakfast already or not as this wud hav assisted us understand the situation better. (maybe they were broke @ that point) and the husband didn't want to refuse the guest since it was an interview he was purportedly coming for.
We all reason differently......I guess that's it

babyosisi: Please don't mind them,some people just oppose stuff for opposition sake
Someone already gave a good answer
If you don't have the time or resources to entertain a guest properly especially when you knew they were coming,you either tell them so they are Prepared while coming or you ask them not to come
Simple
I absolutely do not have any respect for people who don't know how to entertain guests in their home
I am not talking about lavish entertainments but the basic stuff
It is inexcusable
Whenever you invite or accept a guest you should provide them with meals,proper meals,have a clean bedsheets and pillow slips on the bed and sweep and dust the room they will stay in.
That is what you sign on by allowing them to come
My hubby and I don't eat yam that much
I could go months without eating plantain
But when I invite guests overnight ,I buy yams,plantains,coffee and other things I don't have ordinarily because I don't know what they may prefer.
I usually ,like most Naija women have stew ,soup and cooked jollof in my fridge at almost anytime you come to my house and if there is a guest coming,I make sure you are provided for.
I show you where things are in the house so you can help yourself when I am away at work
I make out time to sit and chat with them and for the Nigerian guests drive them to stores for shopping
If I don't have that time to do all that I will decline your request to come at that time and tell you when you can come
Short and simple.
Some things are just inexcusable

Words of a learned person spoken from a true heart. https://www.4smileys.com/smileys/cool-smileys/smiley-with-glasses26.gif
I just can't fault this most especially as it is coming from a lady. Nice 1.

babyosisi: If you think this was bad
How about this true story
A friend had a baby and travelled with her new born to Nigeria
A couple she was friends with for a while came to see the baby about 10 am in the morning
They came empty handed
She served them 2 bottles of malt
The wife reached into her handbag and brought out bread and akara
Gave some to her husband and they proceeded to eat while drinking the malt.

So ghetto

https://www.4smileys.com/smileys/crazy-smileys/smilie_frech_009.gif. You must be a joker......very funny

[quote author=soul_glo]Please this is a totally innocent question. What do you expect to eat when you visit someone?[/quote]Nothing (*totally innocent reply*).

OP maybe she thought you would be there for a while so thought you would eat with them at lunch time or dinner depnding on what time of day you came. Visit again before you decide she does not like you or is a bad person.

I have to say that you have not bin completely objective with this comment (no offense meant). No matter what, if they were truly a happy family, then courtesy demands that a guest be served with either a drink or some water first(not 40mins after arrival) even if he stayed just two blocks away. Then if there had bin intentions of serving smtn else @ lunchtime or dinner, it wud be understood.
I'd lyk to say thoh that the major fault was from the husband for inviting sm1 to com spend tym wt you without planning to entertain him.
The wife on her own part was either @ war wt the husband or lacked initiative.

Ranch

Someone shud com n clarify this info abeg. Where is harlos?

chocopearl: Banty dear hope u re gud. Harlos is our muslim brother, u now know what he is celebrating ryt??

Are you saying that harlos would be hosting us for the forthcoming Eid-Ul-Kabir?

Rabbit

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*choco no choc(o) me o LOL *
*BTW I need to learn ur Lingua Franca o *

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But you just detected there was smtn fishy & so That gives me the impression that you are nau.

Yesses

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Youngest

Weather here differs based on region(North or South) and dint you already kno dat?

Pls help us fish it out jare b4 the whole room starts stinking

caribchic: Hey don't you know the invitation is always open to la isla?

*could've sworn i just saw his lordship*

I never knew, so what's the weather like over there?

*his lordship probably doing his regular supervision*

Last week, Nigeria celebrated her Independence.

Drew

caribchic: Do u know I totally forgot about that one?

So when do you get to visit Nigeria or when do we get invitation to the Caribbean ?