₦airaland Forum

Oluromantic:
Well you know any religious belief in a place like Nigeria always tie wrapper more than that of other places. Fornication and adultery is bad...that I know. Some have done worse and got born again, and their flourishing. Many are not even born again and they're still flourishing in fact more than born again folks...(that doesn't make it right though)

However I believe spirits and demons exist, some in human form and they don't look any different in fact they look more attractive. And to avoid being their scape goat, one should avoid intimacy with them let alone sex...you sure know a demon don't have any good to offer, it has to be something bad. And they can't be differentiated from other humans in appearance

Aside that, every other sex is just fun which may be sin to God and when u quit in apology to God, he'll forgive you...and not that everybody you have sex with is a destiny-destroying demon. But one shdnt overlook the law of karma, curses of a person who sacrificed all he/she has in loves name after agreeing you'll both marry then you absconded, such curses be like superglue...e dey gum well well.

A funny intro. �

You have actually given some meaningful points.�

I don't know if it's a myth, but I have heard so much of some ideologies in Christianity saying, 'Pre-marital sex is an exchange of glory and the destruction of destinies of parties involved .'
How true is this in the first place? If true, who gives the glory and who takes?
It will surprise you to know some practically go by warning in a speech of, 'don't give yourself to that guy/lady, he/she only aims at destroying your life and destiny .'
Is this whole saying by some Christians true about Pre-marital sex and fornication?

Just in a deep thought, wondering how lawyers who claim to be a born again Christian would survive the legal practice without actively lying as against Christianity (Rev.21:8, 1 Timothy 1:10.)
Yet he needs to defend his client in an obvious criminal case.
Lawyers with integrity, how do you cope in the legal practice without trampling on your Christian belief?

very funny.

Read the write up just now in my quest for place to acquire interior design skills.
OP could you please help with info about the possible training centers or schools in Nigeria.
Thanks for the wonderful piece.�

Estherfabian:
Virgin guy with no bedmatic skills? I'll gladly turn him down

In jeopardy or detriment of other good qualities and outstanding characters he may likely have including money ?

muller101:
There is nothing like a VIRGIN MAN. saint is the appropriate word.

With due respect sir,
In English the word "virgin" has absolutely zero gender requirements. Virgins are virgins, male or female.
It simply means anyone that has not had sexual intercourse. It is quite normal to refer to a male having lost his virginity, or referring to a male virgin.
I wonder how the word 'saint' would be the right word in this context of discussion. The word saint is kind of ambiguous, the word 'virgin guy' is specific.

Thanks.

chukzyfcbb:
Op let me be honest with you, this question was asked in a Facebook page called IGBOIST some days ago.

That page has over 100,000 members who poured in their comments. Now guess what, over 80% of the girls said No!

The comments and revelations surprised the guys in the page, that they began to label them girls hoes......Girls were just typing No, No

You can visit that page on Facebook and read the comments if you doubt me.


So to be honest for every 2girls who would say yes, there are 8 girls who would happily say No.


Girls are always fantasizing about their wedding night even if they are in a No Sex relationship. They usually expect the men to blow their brains out on that day. Them Virgin / Celibate girls have starved themselves of sex all these years, so you can imagine how much they look forward to sex on the D-day (Wedding Night)


So yes , Most ladies won't like you for it however that shouldn't be a yardstick for you to fool around.

Hmm..
what hope does the virgin guys determined not to compromise have then, if about 80-90% will say no to marrying him.
may be out of so much stress & strain luckily find one after a tough ultimate search.
Thanks for the comment though.

muller101:
There is nothing like a VIRGIN MAN. saint is the appropriate word.

saint? I am sure you don't mean it.

Euphoria19:
One mans food is another mans poison,dated a virgin before,dude was clueless as to where to put it how to put it and where to touch what to do,under all the frustrations and me trying to be a teacher he went totally soft when nothing has even happened.
Wouldn't want to experience that again to be honest

hmm...

frankfab:
According to a recent study, i was estimated that about 96% of Nigerian women dislike Virgin men because they think they would be unskillful in za oza rum.

which I think my ex is one, in fact, she voiced at a point that she wished I wasn't a virgin.
that got me thinking.

I am curious as my experience with my ex girlfriend has driven me into curiosity.
I was actually a virgin when i met her 4years ago, we got dating and we had marriage in view so, a long period of the relationship was filled with the love euphoria but sex free.
Now at the time we both agreed to make it happen(sex), her in-patience & complaints about my being clueless each time I make attempt kept killing my morale.
To cut the long story short, we could not successfully have sex all through the time spent together. The sad part of it was that she announced she was no longer interested in the relationship few month after and we broke up.
I felt bad and depressed then, though now I am healed of the wound.
I am still curious, are there matured girls out there who won't mind dating or marry a virgin guy at all.

why do you ladies dread marrying a virgin guy?

You should not be surprised, ladies are bound to have admirers and toasters till they die. , that you discovered guys still come hunting for her is not enough reason for you to start considering a break up. You should only be worried when you have evidences, I mean concrete evidences to prove she's actually cheating on you. I advice you reconsider her if you truly Love ya woman.

Really appreciate the comments they are of value to me. but then, I have this fear in me, the fear of its reoccurrence now that she knows what sex is, cos obviously we will be going back to our different stations in pursue of our carrier, will she not go hunting for sex at my absence? the fear of fertility after this abortion also bothers me. what do you guys think.

...its so complicated, she made this confession just this Sunday after her parent invited me to come and legally declare my interest for their daughter.
She didn't just open up without pressure, i had several dreams pertaining to us in which I decided to relate one of it to my pastor, then he told me the dream indicates that she has a hidden secret that she needs to make a confession of, i tried asking her for a complete 5months (though on phone call) she told me she is afraid she might not be able to open up till our wedding is close, prolly the fear of me leaving her.
But with much plead after i met her parent, she eventually opened up. Now I feel she has done something worse than breaking my heart.

Petroking:
forgive her ... Its only right to do so.. She opened up to you for christ sake.. without pressure .. So give her the benefit of doubt

thanks, i wish i could forgive her, but she betrayed my love and trust for her.

Its actually a Godly and a Christian relationship with my fiancee, we have dated for three years now, though a distance relationship, we have never had sex.
she came around in this festive period and then she opened up a secret, it hurts me so bad to hear this from her, she told me that while I was away, she attended a compound party and then she had a taste of an alcohol which a guy served her, she became influenced and then it happened between them. she realized she was pregnant after 3month. she was mad at herself and she could only settle for an abortion.
Now she's begging me to have a space in my heart to forgive her. I need matured advice please, I am so bittered in heart, what should the innocent me do.