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Judolisco:
d news is not about obi.... Na obi supporters dey make people abuse obi.... Wetin concern obi about dis news now?

Exactly! That was how I felt, each time any news describing how the present administration is terrible, some idiots will comment "Obi will never be president!" Others will start insulting Igbo's etc.

Harry00:
This lady too fine abeg I go like make she born my twins

Harry wetin dey worry u, wey I don dey plan how I go cum inside her

Judolisco:
Wish you and your family all the best.... Despite seeing health issues now in dis statement, some werey go still abuse am..... Dem Don swr for some people Sha.... Yet if they call them to take over his office, they'll take it without even thinking

But when it's about Obi you are permitted to twist it even when it's clearly written?

Yugoslavia247:
People wont watch video and they will comment like a wild dog on the lose


The part i like is where she spoke about people being forced to study a course just to get a degree. A waste.

That is why we have more students who dont love what they do. If you love whatever you do, you dont mind going to end of the earth to achieve it


We need more schools and we need to embrace diversity and knowledge.

A great nation tries to perfect all sphere of live.

A failed nation tries to perfect the so called important aspect of life


That is why we have A pandemic of sharing rice for every problem.
This nation believes that only food is the most important thing

One of the wisest comments on whatsapp

Myrrhis:
Must your children suffer because of what your wife did? Hmm!
Don't complain when it's time to reap what you sow.

Follow the threat you will understand better what I meant, I had responded to 2 other people

1Sharon:
🧢

Now what do you have to say?

motionarena:
Recovery what Funds?
Divorce the bitcch, she would do it again if he forgives.

Crazy how people forgive cheating
Once a partner cheats he/she has found something in the new relationship you do not offer
If caught he/she will find better ways to hide their tracks rather than changing.

Or even blame you for the cheating

1Sharon:
Did he remarry, yes or no?

No

jozee8:
A friend of mine is already dying slowly because he keeps thinking about his children.
Very weak as a man, and his wife or should I say knife is just after his life, we don advice the werey tire, yet him just want die there.

Omo with wetin I don know, Bleep family even the one I make! I will prefer to die a villain than to die in the lap of a woman, right now I have only one daughter she get to know the truth when she is grown!

nams77:
Put your self first, invest in your self but don't ignore your children pls.

This is what I mean, even by law children under 5 are preferred to be with their mum, there after you can start showing up gradually

maasoap:
True gospel, preach it. Right now, I'm saving up like never before despite the Tinubu's harshy economic policy. Everyone around me just has to bear it for a while

Abi oh, because even when you do, they will still say you didn't do, so is it not safer not to do, atleast you will be alive healthy to tell the true story to your kids. 50k just enter my acct now, I dey delete the credit alert and this will be my first test if I can really be selfish!

1Sharon:
More women are choosing to give up custody to the fathers, so no worry.

That is BLISS! my friend won custody of 3 out of 4 of his kids, he is one the most fulfilling/accomplished fathers I know(2 of the kids are in India about to graduate, and already making their own money legitimately with the help of their Dad, the last daddy's boy is in ss2 going to ss3 now), the only one that chose to stay with her mum, is rubbishing herself on tiktok, to the point videos were sent to her dad(it was heartbreaking).

Therefore many good men are ready to take FULL responsibilities and they are good at it.

1Sharon:
When all the hard work is done and they're no longer dependants shey?

I believe you are female, that is why you said that, I would like you to do some introspection, would you allow your brother live with a narcissistic woman for the rest of his life? pls before you answer do a lil google research on how draining and eventually NO SOLUTION in changing a narcissistic woman.
Have you seen divorced couples fighting over custody of children? it is dirtiest 'civil war' I know, my advice is always for the man to avoid the fight, Afterall study has shown that once narcissistic woman cannot find a victim they turn their own children, so sooner than later the children will experience what their father was trying to endure.

Farfalla:
Mr. Man, if you want to ignore your wife or walk out on her go right ahead. Na you sabi. But your children are your responsibility regardless of how you feel about their mother. You don't bring children into this world just to "ignore" them because you need to prove a point.

Your anger is valid but your children should not be punished as a result.

Maybe I didn't put it rightly, you can't success drag children with women in breakups, just let them grow to certain stage before asking for costudy, once you start dragging children with women they will use it as a bargaining tool

advanceDNA:
It's free to jump into conclusions.... So carry on with ur fallacy

Sorry if I was wrong...different experiences I guess

advanceDNA:
Sounds like made up story...

Anyway.....

....virgin or no virgin...that one not concern me
Be sure u connect sexually with your woman ....if she doesn't show crazy flaming desire for you...but just spreads legs once in a while u approach...na one chance be that...
If you dey regularly hear..." don't worry u will enjoy it when we marry" .......werey japa!! .. ur egungun don nearly reach express.

...check her kindness & sacrifice level towards you, others around, her folks and your folks ....woman wey no fit buy ordinary bread when she dey come visit u....cut am off....woman wey nor dey ask about your folks, na werey.....only give me, give me, give me...transport fare to visit u seff..na u go pay...

.too much money nor dey let true color show. ..baba...u must form total broke or job loss before u marry woman....u gats check ur woman team playing spirit.......werey too much for street... All they married for now is to never pay bill...their team work contribution na to spread legs...

At the end of the day....if u end up with one wèrèy wey dey make u miserable ....no over think am..no let anybody blackmail u with "marriage is not for kids" so u must be suffering and managing ur wife's dirty, wicked & insensitive behavior....oga ade ...lè wèrèy sí gbó....if she nor gree comot....oga...leave am for house comot...

Your last advice is valid but everything you said before then only serves as a proof that you are not married yet

Successtube:
I never thought I’d find myself contemplating divorce just two years into my marriage. As a bachelor, I’d look at couples splitting up and wonder how they ended up there. Didn’t they date and get to know each other first? Didn’t they see the signs? And yet, here I am, standing on the brink of making the same decision. I dated my wife for a year and three months before we got married, and I thought I knew her. But I was wrong. She lied and pretended to be someone she wasn’t. Now, I’m starting to see who she truly is, and it’s tearing me apart.

Immediately after our wedding, I noticed changes in her that hadn’t been there before. One month in, we were not having sex like any newly married couple would. Every time I tried to be intimate, she’d have some excuse—a headache, feeling tired, or being stressed from work. I tried to be patient, thinking it was just a phase. But it didn’t end. When I finally asked her what was wrong, she bluntly told me she didn’t like sex. I was shocked. How could she not like sex? We had been intimate enough times while dating for me to believe otherwise.

“How can we have children if we don’t have sex?” I asked, trying to keep my frustration in check. Her response was indifferent, almost as if it didn’t matter. From then on, she’d sometimes only have sex with me during her ovulation period, like it was a chore to check off her list. It went on like this for over eight months, and I felt more and more disconnected. I felt unwanted, unloved. Every attempt to bridge the gap between us only seemed to widen it.

But the cracks didn’t just stop there. Through a relative of mine, I managed to get her a job that paid her 300,000 Naira monthly. She seemed happy, and I was glad I could help. Then, fate dealt me a blow—I lost my job. After months of searching, I managed to find another one, but it paid only 120,000 Naira a month. I couldn’t afford to stay home, so I took it, thinking it would just be temporary until I found something better.

My 120,000 Naira salary barely covers our expenses. I take care of the rent, food, bills, and still fuel my car to get to work. The one that hit me hardest was when our rent increased to 700,000 Naira around the same time my car’s engine gave out, needing another 500,000 Naira to repair. I felt the walls closing in on me. I was struggling, juggling all these financial burdens alone. I turned to my wife, thinking she’d step up and help. After all, she was earning more than double what I was. But all she could offer was 50,000 Naira.

I was speechless. She looked at me and said it was a man's duty to cater to his family, and she could only "assist." Her words felt like a slap. Here I was, drowning under the weight of our expenses, and she was holding back. I had to sell one of the lands I’d bought back in my bachelor days to cover the bills. I never thought I’d be in a position where I had to sell my hard-earned property just to survive while my wife, who I had helped get a better-paying job, stood by and watched.

The emptiness gnawed at me until I reached out to someone who had once filled a different kind of void in my life—my ex. We had broken up years ago because of distance when she moved to London for her studies. But we never really ended things on bad terms. There was always a "what if" lingering between us. Now, in my loneliness, that "what if" turned into late-night conversations, laughter, and the kind of warmth I hadn’t felt in a long time. I sneak out every now and then to be with her. I know it’s wrong. I know cheating is not the answer, but I felt like I was drowning, and she was the only one who could save me. With her, I felt alive again, seen, and heard. Things quickly escalated, and before I knew it, I was back in her arms. It felt like a betrayal of my marriage vows, but at the same time, it felt like the only way to reclaim a part of myself that had been lost.

I never imagined I’d be contemplating divorce, but here I am. I want to marry my ex. I want a fresh start, a chance to feel loved again. I don’t know if I can continue in a marriage where I feel more like a burden than a partner. Maybe it’s time to face the harsh truth: some people change, and some people never really were who they claimed to be. Maybe it’s time for me to choose my own happiness, to take a leap and start over.

Don't make the same mistake I made. Study your partner thoroughly before to married, don't rush!

Thank you, your story really helped me, I am also contemplating divorce right now, and my story is similar to yours, I invested heavily in my wife's business yet she looked into my eyes and said "YOUR MONEY IS NOT IN MY SHOP" I dated her for 5 years married her and had a kid, yet this happened, my friend in London I just spoke to is having similar problem, your advice won't work, and yes people change even in science it is believed that every 7 years you are no longer the same person you used to be seven years earlier.

My own advice is that MEN BE SELFISH(put yourself first and sometimes yourself alone, ignore wife ignore children they all will be fine even without you) I know it is hard for good men to take this advice, even me I am struggling to take my own advice.


For those who keeps quoting me because I said "ignore children" even by law once the children are too young they are preferred to be in the custody of the woman, you cannot successfully drag children with Narcissists woman, she will rub you in the mud.

SpaceX:
I believe we can live forever, I'm currently working on it. My startup is going global. RIP to her!! God knows best. Invest in my startup now.

I believe that too, God bless your endeavor

Every thing will be free

EreluRoz:
Who want to marry you won't stress you
Stop dating small boys that are still testing the efficacy of their penis

Wisdom!

This is nonsense its like saying you can become an engineer in just 3 months

franchasofficia:
Yoruba people's best oh, na so them hype MKO Abiola. They will always worship criminals that amassed wealth through corruption and criminality but will turn around and accuse Igbos of loving money but check all Yoruba political leaders, they have one or two allegation of; drug trafficking, money laundering, wire wire fraud, money ritual or public fund looting.


Rich without enterprise, no known business except being a politician and covering up with one yeye civil service job that doesn't pay much but they still splash money.


What was Tinubu's known businesses and companies before he became Lagos state Governor? Wire wire fraud, drug trafficking and lies of being Mobil Oil Accountant that Mobil and Co ended up denying him. Make I hear say any Yoruba person print poster say him wan contest President of Nigeria after this disaster called Tinubu

100%

It's going to be moribund very soon, let me prepare to buy off their assets, if it will not be stolen or sold before I get there

Kickkick:
Very pathetic and shameful. Instead of swinging in support on how to deal with the fraudster, you see them shaming and blaming me.

once I finished my projects I am living the country, I can't live with people like this

After reading through the comments I really feel sorry not for the person scammed but for Nigerians and the future of Nigeria, somebody was scammed and you people are blaming the victim. Nobody is even helping, it's about Justice! And nothing, this is the reason politicians and religious leaders rape you people terribly because they know you will shame the victims (which you are one of) instead of demanding justice! Spits on you all.

RickyJesus:
Just hear your dumbass.

Why the insult?

MadamVanessa:



I am not justifying the action of the preacher by preaching in such an early hour. But again, Christianity is not respected at all, because of how meek christians seems to be.

I am telling you boldly, If it was the culture of Muslims to be preaching as christians preach on streets or corners, nobody would dare try this with any Muslim, even if he preaches by 1:00am , nobody will have the guts to confront the Muslim preacher. You dare not, because the trouble you're looking for, the Muslim folks will give you overdose.

Sometimes I just wish Christians could be more radical. It's no longer funny.

I will shut up any body that disturb me irrespective

CyrusVI:
The abuse isnt necessary

I have come to realize that logical Christians tend to see religious extremists as dullards while the Atheists think both of them have lower IQ


History, Tech and Nature have being fair enough to us.

There are poor Theists and rich Theists, same way there are poor Atheists and rich Atheists

There are also highly intelligent Scientists/inventors that are Theists, We have such who are Atheists too

So, if u think you are any better than anyone just cause they think or believe differently, trust me, you're the dullest in the world

Why do you polarize it, I am neither Theist of Athiest, I am irreligious and yes I think people like me are better thinkers than the other 2

SmartPolician:
Keep your silly advice to yourself.

If you want to contribute to a public discussion, make a reasonable contribution.

You need to read more still my advice

Righthussle:
I don't like that Ibiyomie guy at all.

I almost hate him! But I am very sure I dislike him a lot, even before knowing him

SmartPolician:
Political leadership and religion are two different fields of human endeavour.

Don't mix the two up. It's our fault we aren't holding our leaders accountable, so don't pin your bad leadership on religious leaders.

America has some of the world's best leaders and some of the world's richest preachers.

you need to read more, you sound myopic, just an advice