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oluwakekz:
Hello. Please a kind advice is all I need .

Have being dating this lady since last year December 8months now. I met her at her sister's place that happens to be my mum's neighbour when she came for a visit. She just finish school and looking for a job. We were both looking for job for her even if it's far from her place (Ekiti) as I thought she should be productive to herself.

Thought I was lucky when she called weeks ago to inform me that a friend called her about one vacancy here in Lagos. I was so happy because I can't do long distance relationship (experience)

She came to my place this said Friday and stayed till Sunday. She left for that so called friend's place because we think it's not too safe to get to the interview venue late. She got the job and we thank God......

After two weeks of resumption, I saw this advice on nairaland that talk about 10 Questions To Ask Your Partner In Order To Build Trust "What do you find hard to talk about with me?" She said "nothing " I try talk to her to open up because I can't settle down with someone that will hide anything from me, then she said my ex got me this job. She has kept in contact with him. I ask her" we've being together for three days, you left my house for your ex house and passed the night there? You keep contact with him without telling me all this while? You guys have being seeing each other since you resumed (two weeks?) All she kept saying is am not cheating on you.....

I really love her and I'm confused right now. Please I need advice on what to do because am just tired right now.

What amuses and at the same time amazes me about this scenario is that, the immediate BF is in Lagos and the Ex-BF is also in Lagos. Okay now, if really she had nothing with the Ex-BF or they haven't bargained for sex before the job can be given to her, then I see no reason why she wouldn't open up to her immediate BF before taking a step further, knowing fully well that the offer was from her Ex...Even if the place is afar off, the immediate BF can make provisions for accommodation in a place close to the company where she's going for the interview. Charity begins at home, as I will always say, a girl that can't be faithful to a guy in a relationship, won't be faithful even in marriage. (Don't argue with me).