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genq:
See how you exposed yourself? In your so called 'trolling' you couldn't think of any other country to refer to other than 'London' which so happens to be where the family member your wife offended lives.
This said family member actually paid your rent during the first year of your marriage since you spent all your money on buying a car and doing your wedding (and this is why you unconsciously mentioned rent in your troll comment)
Clearly, your very rude wife didn't know he paid for the roof over your heads and thats why she had the guts to insult him. And you sat there as a vegetable because of what she's feeding your from between her legs.

this guy is a clown! I have never seen this kind of trolling before. I just hope you are not being real.

I created this thread seeking for genuine advice concerning my relationship. I have no idea who genq is. Pardon his post please. He trolled and I trolled him too. I’m no Dr oooo!!! Jesus. Some people are crazy. Na me even craze pass wey reply you sef

genq:
See how pathetic you are?

The first time you hit your wife was just a few months into your marriage and you guys ended up having a full blow out which family members had to resolve.

Her yoruba father left her calabar mother and no, they were not a happy family as you claim. Need I say more?

bros leave me na. I don’t know you. I’m edo and my lady is ibo. Free me abeg. I believe you are just trolling me.

NuttygalB:
Are you sure you are not the one operating both monikers?

seriously I’m not. I was surprised on the guys claim. From the write ups you’ll see he’s much more educated than I am. I have no idea who he is. But I’m still surprised if he did it intentionally or if he’s been real. If he is, I pity the persons information he’s gonna leak out on here if he wants to go nasty like he said. It’s none of my business.

yettymuse:
this people giving fresh advice una no see say matter don strip? who ask you

Lol, I’m reeling in laughter here. That nigga came here mistaking my identity. I politely told him I have no idea what he’s talking about which is true. He replied telling me not to push him to go nasty. Like what the fvck! I don’t know him, he’s seriously mistaking me or maybe he intentionally wanted to troll me. I had to give him a doze of what he came for. Played along and had my fun too. Been patiently waiting for him to reply me that I don’t know what I’m saying, then I’ll tell em he doesn’t know what he’s saying too. I never been to London. I made all those crap up. Which I believe he’s doing too. Lol. Sorry for the derailing.

Rubbiish:
Meaning there are some truth in what he said??
The lady in question is your wife? See how u are already going mad because of her & u came here to open a thread whether to continue with her?

U are a failed case & a pathetic weak man!
I already spotted u are a weakling from your first post. Only a weak would condone those attitude from a woman & still come online to seek advise?? Weak things everywhere....

Lol, I’m reeling in laughter here. That nigga came here mistaking my identity. I politely told him I have no idea what he’s talking about which is true. He replied telling me not to push him to go nasty. Like what the fvck! I don’t know him, he’s seriously mistaking me or maybe he intentionally wanted to troll me. I had to give him a doze of what he came for. Played along and had my fun too. Been patiently waiting for him to reply me that I don’t know what I’m saying, then I’ll tell em he doesn’t know what he’s saying too. I never been to London. I made all those crap up. Which I believe he’s doing too. Lol. Sorry for the derailing.

OmoAlata1:
I fear London men. I don’t know why women deal with them.

Lol, I’m reeling in laughter here. That nigga came here mistaking my identity. I politely told him I have no idea what he’s talking about which is true. He replied telling me not to push him to go nasty. Like what the fvck! I don’t know him, he’s seriously mistaking me or maybe he intentionally wanted to troll me. I had to give him a doze of what he came for. Played along and had my fun too. Been patiently waiting for him to reply me that I don’t know what I’m saying, then I’ll tell em he doesn’t know what he’s saying too. I never been to London. I made all those crap up. Which I believe he’s doing too. Lol. Sorry for the derailing.

genq:
Oh yes Dr. I am talking to you. Seems you wanna push me to get nasty but I refuse to reveal your identity on this site. You are loved by many but your wife is merely tolerated because of your strange obsession with her.
Wish you all the best and hope you get good advice on this site. I'm out!

Dr Gilbert, I have all evidence of your lustful chat with my woman, if you dare me or provoke me, I’ll send them to your wife and kids. Just dare me and see! What an ingrate, after all I did for you? You came to London because of me, you had no where to stay and I housed you and fed you for years. I paid the first rent for the house you and your family are living currently, remember? You went to Nigeria and started saying all sorts of evils and trash against me. I know what your problem is, jealousy, you can never get my woman and can never dine with me. If not for your beautiful kids, I would have gotten your wife fired and sent packing to Nigeria. Ingrate!

Dr Gilbert, I have all evidence of your lustful chat with my woman, if you dare me or provoke me, I’ll send them to your wife and kids. Just dare me and see! What an ingrate, after all I did for you? You came to London because of me, you had no where to stay and I housed you and fed you for years. I paid the first rent for the house you and your family are living currently, remember? You went to Nigeria and started saying all sorts of evils and trash against me. I know what your problem is, jealousy, you can never get my woman and can never dine with me. If not for your beautiful kids, I would have gotten your wife fired and sent packing to Nigeria. Ingrate!

genq:
Oh yes Dr. I am talking to you. Seems you wanna push me to get nasty but I refuse to reveal your identity on this site. You are loved by many but your wife is merely tolerated because of your strange obsession with her.
Wish you all the best and hope you get good advice on this site. I'm out!

you can never have my woman. Even the car you bought for her to lure her is rotting away in my house in Nigeria. When we get back to that Nigeria we will hunt you and disgrace you. Don’t joke with me

genq:
Oh yes Dr. I am talking to you. Seems you wanna push me to get nasty but I refuse to reveal your identity on this site. You are loved by many but your wife is merely tolerated because of your strange obsession with her.
Wish you all the best and hope you get good advice on this site. I'm out!

oh now I know where this young man is coming from!! Dr Gilbert, THIS IS YOUR LAST WARNING. Stop stalking me and my woman on every social media. Not after I caught in right inside her house at 10pm while your wife and kids are left suffering in London. LEAVE ME ALONE.

genq:
Oh yes Dr. I am talking to you. Seems you wanna push me to get nasty but I refuse to reveal your identity on this site. You are loved by many but your wife is merely tolerated because of your strange obsession with her.
Wish you all the best and hope you get good advice on this site. I'm out!

i still don’t understand what you saying! You are certainly mistaking me for someone else. Dr. Of what? Certainly won’t be writing this poorly if I was a doctor or Dr.

chii8:
Two cholerics want to meet in holy matrimony.....ok
My opinion: after the wedding, you will eventually get over her beauty
She can never change.
Will you be comfortable if later in life,she emotionally or verbally abuses your friends or family?
You dated for 4years but you will be surprised if you cannot be able to survive the first six months after wedding
You saw the red sign but you can as well choose to act now or not.
I feel you're not really in love, you are just deeply attracted to her beauty.
Have you ever considered her parent's relationship?
Thanks

certainly not because of her beauty. Have dated ladies more beautiful and endowed than her. Her parents lived a happy life. She always recount sweet memories of her late dad. Her mom is a sweet woman too!

OmoAlata1:


Josh we are waiting o

not sure he or she wanted to post that in this thread!

genq:
Dr. I know exactly who you are.

I threw a bait and you fell hook line and sinker!

Is this post is about your short, egocentric, fair complexioned wife who has no friends because of her disgustingly prideful attitude?

Have you twisted the story slightly to hide ur identity? Claiming that you've  been dating for 4 years when in fact you are married with a child.

Is the reason for ur latest fight because she snooped on ur phone and found that you've been flirting around?

Is it true that your mother has decided to be careful with her ever since the day you took her home and she ordered your father to switch on the fan "because she is hot".. I mean why won't she have such boldnes when you literally lick her a**!

Is it true that the relationship with one of your closest family members has been strained because she continuously disrespected him and you turned a blind eye?

Is it true that you are madly in LUST with her especially because of her skin tone and 'beauty' and thats why you continously post corny epistles online celebrating her whilst secretly wishing her attitude will change for the better?

You are free to deny what we both know

im lost! Where is all this coming from? Seems you wanted to post this reply on another thread!

genq:
OP please expand on this issue so we can better advise you. What causes the fights? You are almost 40 and have been together 4 years, why havent you guys married yet? any financial issues or infidelity?

From the little I see here it seems this is a purely lustful relationship.

Also she’s a student and wants us to get married even now but I told her to wait till when she’s done with school. Her home and school is like 10min drive from me. So we do see almost everyday.

genq:
OP please expand on this issue so we can better advise you. What causes the fights? You are almost 40 and have been together 4 years, why havent you guys married yet? any financial issues or infidelity?

From the little I see here it seems this is a purely lustful relationship.

no financial issues and no infidelity. If these were the case I wouldn’t have been here to seek advice.

Oyindidi:
Keep the savage reply. You're about making a mistake. This is my 11th year and I am not able to make him wash his cloth once. You can't change her.

im not being savage please, y’all adviced I leave the said lady, But the way the lady I quoted up there posted her reply. It’s not supposed to be like that. What has calling me and my lady useless and demonic got to do with she advising me? I bet you Oyindidi can’t take that. It’s not necessary. I’m human like y’all and not what she should be venting her anger on. I came here to learn something and which I’m learning.

OmoAlata1:
Sweetie it is called tough love. You and her have no business being in a relationship at all not to even talk of marriage. Have you for once thought of those innocent kids you are planning to birth? Do you think they will be happy in that toxic environment? Please think of those children that are yet to be born and go search for your own true wife while she go search for her own true husband.

Or else if you continue this into marriage, you are going to breed more abusers and abuse receivers into our environment. We, as citizen, are tired of domestic violence stories. We want to reduce it, not expand it.

you see how matured you sound now? Your first post sounded bitter and frustrated. You don’t give advice abusing and bullying those your advising. Don’t be like that your first post in real life please.

yettymuse:
I don't even know what else to type cos you've summed it up!

no you shouldn’t support her bitter words please. She could have made her point without terming my relationship DEMONIC. Calling me and my lady USELESS. She sounds frustrated, bitter and seems like a lady approaching 50 without a man in her life.

ArinzeRaph:
how old are you?

approaching 40.

OmoAlata1:
Both of you are very useless people. I pity the innocent children that you two will bring into this toxic environment. You will end up raising boys that when they become men, they’ll think it is ok to beat women and you will raise girls that when they too become women, they’ll think it is ok for a man to turn them into his punching bag bc it is love.

You both have serious ego problems. I am taking you as the type of man who likes his ego to be stroked all the time so you can feel like a man and when she doesn’t, you will beat it into her. She also seems like the type of women that like to be beaten bc it means love and good sex.

For the sake of the innocent children that you two are planning to selfishly bring into your toxic relationship , do those innocent kids a favor and part ways. You are not compatible at all on any level. But if you both insist you must continue on with your demonic toxic relationship, please please please, do not bring innocent children into it, just so they can suffer and have a misconstrue mind of what relationship is. We are tired of self parents breeding abusive men and low self esteem women that think abuse is ok.

ahh, aunty, did I or my lady offend you? Demonic relationship ni? I only asked for an advice, but this is too much, I don’t need advice again. you just destroyed my day. Using pliers to crush my balIs is better than what you just did.

MrBrownJay1:
a man goes to the shop to buy a pair of shoes, tries it and it doesnt fit, but regardless buys the pair shoe, then will complain for the entire time that the shoes dont fit. lol!

you already know you guys are NOT compatible but have the audacity to think of continuing dating, and possibly marrying, this babe.

ok bro, safe journey o!

thanks for contributing

MrBrownJay1:
a man goes to the shop to buy a pair of shoes, tries it and it doesnt fit, but regardless buys the pair shoe, then will complain for the entire time that the shoes dont fit. lol!

you already know you guys are NOT compatible but have the audacity to think of continuing dating, and possibly marrying, this babe.

ok bro, safe journey o!

lol, bro you need to see us when these arguements aren’t happening. We become the best couple every other couple desires to be. At times I feel maybe it’s because I can’t control my hot temper, while in reality she’s the one turning me into something else. I’m not justifying my reasons for hitting, I always feel bad afterwards. I want to stop it, but if she can change too.

Stainlessq:
The next time u quarrel, give her space. Don't talk to her for sometime, don't apologise, don't beg, don't even visit, then watch her reaction. if she is still the same , then u can't solve it. she thinks you can't do without her but she can do without you. Don't be surprise, she is in love with another guy whom she kneels to beg at the slightest provocation. that girl do not truly love you coz if she does she will do anything to make you happy including apologising for her mistakes. Either u run or u marry her and watch your life force cut into two. that bad habit will equally get to the kids.

thanks a lot. Learnt from this!

pyyxxaro:
Am just here to read comments, because my own won turn me to water yam oh

lol. Water yam ke! Can you explain more please

Olalan:
You and your girl have personality issues. Won't advise you marry a woman who would bring out the beast in you, t guess her beauty is blurring your sense of reasoning that you guys aren't compatible

I’m speechless

Good morning everyone, kinda long writings but please ensure to read and understand.

Been dating this beautiful stubborn lady for close to four years now. Sure there’s up and downs in the relationship but we always find our way around it.

The issue is, she’s unapologetic, she hardly gets remorseful. She hardly say “I’m sorry”. When things go wrong from her end, even when she’s at fault she always has a way to twist it and make it seem I’m the one at fault. Most times she knows she’s at fault but she’ll ridicule me and make it seem as if I’m saying trash. She sees nothing wrong in most of her wrong acts, I’m always the one at fault.

Immediately I’m at fault, I hardly wait three seconds to apologize. I do it immediately and let peace rein.

When we have issues, let’s say we gone into little or even a very heated argument, it doesn’t stop me from caring, or checking on her, after quarrels, few hours later I pick up my phone, call her or visit her and talk as if nothing happened before, but she can keep malice on this same issue for close to 3 to 4 days. Giving me cold answers whenever we talking during those period. Until I playfully tease her, maybe a hot romance or sex, will calm her down and brighten her up. At times I deliberately give her the space to get over it on her own.

But when there’s no issues between us, it seems as if we are in heaven on earth. Too much sweetness! Despite all these we don’t threaten breakup. The love we have for each other goes deep by the day.

But the issue here is I’m very HOT TEMPERED! On few occasions I end up beating her!! Other times slap her. But she doesn’t just sit or stand for me to slap her, she do retaliate.

I fear if we end up together and she continues being stubborn!! I’m really trying hard to always calm myself down when pushed to the limit. I’m the most caring and sweetest guy ever when it comes to handling my woman, (she praises me with this, so are other ladies I was involved with) even my close pals sometimes tells me they want to become a girl so they can date me and enjoy the treats I give my woman!

And again the only issue is when the fuse in my head burns, I just can’t take it. Not as if I do get my woman angry, I don’t even dare it, but when she’s the one at fault and she doesn’t see this and still claim rights over me, this is what burns my fuse. I just can’t control it, to make it worse, she’ll say words that will hurt me and make me seem less a man! At times she say she’s right because she’s a lady. Or when she’s wrong, she’ll carefully wait for me to say something bad to her and then turn the table around. I WAS AT FAULT.


I need help, I really love this girl and want a life time with her, several times I promised never to lay my hands on her, I end up doing it again. Because of this I’m scared of getting married, to her especially!


The physical abuse with my woman started at the very year we started dating. And it didn’t happen on every argument we had, it happened maybe once or twice in a year, it just happens when I can’t take it from her, I respect my woman a lot, and I also demand respect from her, I carefully pick things I say just not to annoy her.

In all this, we are still good, she just can’t get enough of me, she always want to be around me and if she could wrap herself around me and hung there while I’m going about my daily activities, she’ll.

I’m planning on settling down with her soon, VERY SOON, but how can I solve this? I seem not to be able to help myself, there are few times I expected her to say she can’t marry an abusive husband and bow out. Instead she keep asking me to reassure her I’ll marry her.

we aren’t living together yet, when we get married and live together, I fear for us. I need help.