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sincity:
Hi jugz, been following your threads, i feel sorry for u sha, only u, all these probs

But true be told, i'm thinking u are one of those attention seekers. Just want people to notice u.

Well keep at it u are doing a good job.

By the way how old is your mum for her to be cutting show on your popps

to think of it sef! who's d attention seeker? d one who puts up 2 innocent posts askin for opinions or the one who puts up a post with anoda persons id, just to attract the whole world to himself? sheesh!!!
guy, abeg cool down ooo!

hammers:
@JUGZ

just wanderig aroud nairaland
but i think this your id interests me
JUGZ
wetin be the size abeg

ur not serious.

and since when did just 2 mere issues become ALL THESE PROBLEMS! hey! dont pity me cos if i wanted to dwell in pity , i wouldn't talk abt this. so pls, my problems r mine alone, allow me deal wit them in peace. abeg, i dunno u from adam

na wa oooooooooo. special recognition for me alone. Mr sincity, i pray u dont av any issues at all. but hey mr man, is it a crime for one to post stuff botherin one online. last i checked, u dint own d forum, so pls!

jesusfreak:
story is so sad

i can imagine what u must be going tru.

d suggestions are quite okay but u must thread carefully, are u sure u want your dad to find out about ds?
and even after all the evidences, i still think u shld confront her with the facts. let her knwo that it wwill affect her marriage and in turn affect your own life as her children because if she gets separated from your dad, it wont be too good for u and your sis.

if u do ds, observe her again(make sure ure thorough because she might be sleeky this time around, making it difficult to catch her again) don't rish into telling your dad firts, ds shld be d last option.

good luck, remember to apply wisdom because whatever happens will directly have an effect on your life too

thanks a lot y'all

@ welli
d first part was in response to prince_onx's post
as much as i dont like him, i dont wanna b responsible for his death.

engrdantee:
Sorry. what u hv to do is to send your Uncle's number to me engrdantee@yahoo.com, leave the rest for me.As for your mum. call her, talk to her. but in a way u wont blame her much because your dad is not there to satisfy her emotional feelings.she is not made of wood.y am against her is y your hegoat uncle. If i hv a gun i will just, your uncle

haa! u wan kill d man?!

welli:
that's very correct

mm hmm! that's d essence of this whole post.

@ welli,
i dikwa egwu o.  well done, seems uv bn avin a fantastic afternoon

babyx:
@ Poster
I would advise that you keep certain issues you are having to yourself of tell real friends you have around you, in as much as you want to hv a second opinion on stuffs you are going through, NAIRALAND forums may not necessarily give you the answers that you want objective or subjective.

thanks, just thot i should pop it up here , so as to view other pple's opinions as well.

buzyDiva:
Waterworks makes so much sense . . poster please go with that advice.

yeah! thanks

[quote author=frank 3.16 link=topic=139458.msg2333223#msg2333223 date=1212584115]so which is really bothering u d most

your mother's assumed cheating or your boyfriend working out on u.
chose one for us to concentrate on

other wise you leave me thinking that all these are some kind of joke[/quote]cant one hav certain issues once in a while

waterworks:
dear jugz,
please don't listen to all these nairalanders talking about blackmail, telling your father, and all that. PLEASE DONT DO IT!

here are the facts:
she might not necessarily be cheating yet she might just be approaching it.
she might not necessarily be cheating a supposedto hiding something else or trying to cover up something you and ure sis don't know about.
even if she is of course shes a woman and maybe she can't cope with the fact that her husband comes home only once a month ( i know she is not justified)

there are many things that can be going on the main fact is that you don't know. so your aim is too be sure before you act.
you already told your sis is she jnr or senior? if she senior i guess thats ok because she might be able to handle it. but if shes jnr i don't think that was such a good move as she might have doubts about her mother which mostly leads to disrespect. (although it depends on her age)
what you want to do is avoid any kind of huge family problem, blackmail, disrespect all those nigerian movie things its never worth it.

what u need to do is talk to your mom one on one or your sister instead. not you two together it may be like ure ganging up on her and shell have to play the mom card: shell deny and attack you for en tryin to confront her. it may lead to a breach in ure relationship.

an ambiguos question like mom, please i need to know what is going on or
is there anything you want to tell me involving you and uncle bla bla.
you may further proceed to ask exactly how u guys are related to him (in a very unsuspicious manner) but if you can't just confront her like that you may want to hint it to her that you know thre is somethng going on between them, and u know it is not your place to jude or condemn her but also that you see the future implications of her actions and it will do her well to see them too. if nothing or nothing serious is going on this might shame her into giving up the whole thing.

be mature - handle it quietly
be gentle- don't attck or use hurtful words
be accomodating- leave room for explanations
be understanding - show how much you care and leave a shoulder to cry on but be firm about you stand on the issue.

whatever you do don't tell your dad because you love him and it will only affect you in the longrun if you do. it might break up ure family and lead to disrespect of your father to your mother even in front of outsiders or you the children.
this ALWYS LEADS TO A DISFUNCTIONAL FAMILY.
P.S You CAN WARN THE GUY BEHIND YOUR MOMS BACK IF YOU THINK YOUR MOM IS TOO WEAK TO BACK OUT HERSELF. (not in public)

thanks a whole lot!

[quote author=sista-jay link=topic=139440.msg2332782#msg2332782 date=1212577450]@ jugz

Jeez, im so SORRY my sista, i meant WOMAN.[/quote]its ok, i undastand, dint include my gender initially

[quote author=sista-jay link=topic=139440.msg2332733#msg2332733 date=1212576315]All you have now is a suspicious mind, try and have concrete proof first and then take it from there. If it's true she is having an affair, give here an ultimatum, either she stops seeing this other man or you'll have no choice but to tell your father. You are man enough to do this.[/quote]i agree with u, dats y i said my sis n i av a plan wit which to catch her red-handed b4 i can tell my bro or confront her abt this issue. thanks for your reply.
N:B-- its WOMAN enough, am a chic n not a guy

tboy1:
Nah when you said you wanted to discuss with your older bro, i thought you might be very young.
Anyways like i said, your mum will not confess to you because this same thing happened to my Ex, that was even worse because the mom used to come overseas to meet the man, sometimes they would even be on the same plane from nigeria. Her Dad was suspecting and paid some ridiculous amount to private investigators and he confronted her with all what he found out and she later confessed
By the way - The man and the woman are still married till today.
Tell your bro and your Dad

thanks, but i think i'll just settle for tellin my bro.

FMK:
Guys becareful with familly problems this is not your business do you think your advices can help to catch what ? to catch who ? sit down and talk with who ? the mum is so old that she know what is doing if the daughter is 24 years old then mum must be 48 years old do you think a woman of 48 years old can beastly act and judge her proper life ? why the daughter is investigating her ? if so then is not the first time that happen .

and d moral of your own story is?

pls pls pls!!! different strokes for different folks

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tboy1:
How old are you?

am 24, why dyu ask?

hi all,

just wanted to find out your opinion on something.

recently, i was havin an slight arguement wit my boyfriend ^{which is normal for every growin relationship}, i then noticed that he just wanted to walk out on me without resolvin the issue we had on ground, n i dint want that because i wanted us to sort evrythin out there n then. Ithen said to him 'Segun, if u walk out of my house without sortin this thing out, just know that your walkin out on everything we have and share'

he just said to me 'watch me' n then opened the gate n left.

i didnt say that to threaten him, but just so he could see that it was important for us to sort out our differences without waitin for it to grow into somfin else. Now am confused about that whole scenario because i dint expect him to walk away.

please all, what do i do, before i take d wrong decision? thanks

manchibabe:
this is the time to blackmail your mum, if she is guilty she will give u watever u want nd if she is nt she will tell u d truth as well if u threaten her that you're going to spill d beeans

dont wannaa blackmail her cos, at the end of d day it may not be to my advantage , am thinkin of speakin to my elda bro abt this but he is servin at adamawa n wont b home till septemba so i just hav to handle things d best way i can. of which, sincerely blackamil isnt one of them

thanks all, but truth is i dont wanna eva tell my dad cos he has a high BP n i love him soooo much n dont wanna lose him yet. I and my younger sister have come up with a plan with which we'll use to catch her red handed because, we dont wanna stick to all we know for now, cos there cld be more to this than meets the eye.

lobinoxebe:
you too cheat on your sisters, and give them belle

hey mister man! if uv gat nfin to say, plss kindly pass n dont mess up my thread

hi nairalanders,


[b]am gonna make dis very summarised cos its a very serious n delicate issue.
av gat a very serious issue bugging me, The thing is, i think my mum is cheating on my dad wit one of my so-called uncles. i started suspecting them a few months back n i decided to set traps n investigate her alone, reason being that i've neva really liked dat my uncle anyway. anyway, my dad lives n works in kano but comes home every month
That silly uncle of mine recently had issues wit his wife n they r temporarily separated n he's always comin to my house n callin my mum on the phone, n my mum neva picks his call in my prescence, n weneva he comes, my mum wld tell me that she's tryna help him sort out his issues with his wife.
i kept this all to myself simply becos i really trusted n loved my mum (am afraid now am too hurt to even call her my mum) n it was really weighin me down, till thankfully my younger sis came home from school on saturday. last night , i called my sis n narated everything to her ,but she refused to belive, there n then i told her to be vigilant when my mum gets bk.
my mum got bk by 8.30pm last nite, she was gistin wit d both of us in our room, until suddenly her fone started ringin n since she knew who it was dat was callin she quickly ran to her room n recieved d call, i was followin her just to eavesdrop on d phonecall ( i was curious to know who was calling) but unfortunately for me, a call came in on my phone n i had to pik it.

soon after d call, she told us dat she had to rush out dat a customer was waitin for her at her shop ^{at 8.45pm!}!(she's a fashion designer) n she rushed in to take her bath, while she was bathing i stole her phone n checkd her last recieved call, n lo n behold, it was dat stupid uncle of mine.
while i was goin thru her phone, he called again n i went to giv her d phone in d bathroom, wen she saw it was him n i was there, she dropped d call. after she finished takin her bath, he called again to tell her that he was comin to d hse.

he came to d hse abt 3mins later, n they started talkin until he left abt an hour later

my question now is if she didnt have anything to hide, why did she tell us dat it was a customer that was callin n why did she neva go back to her shop llast nite to go and meet the so-called customer that was waiting for her at her shop.

pls all, i need your opinions.[/b]