ufuoma24:

Welli Y are u tellin me 2 get things your dad only dreams about? D fact that your a girl means nufin 2 me.

waterworks:

dear jugz,
please don't listen to all these nairalanders talking about blackmail, telling your father, and all that. PLEASE DONT DO IT!

here are the facts:
she might not necessarily be cheating yet she might just be approaching it.
she might not necessarily be cheating a supposedto hiding something else or trying to cover up something you and ure sis don't know about.
even if she is of course shes a woman and maybe she can't cope with the fact that her husband comes home only once a month ( i know she is not justified)

there are many things that can be going on the main fact is that you don't know. so your aim is too be sure before you act.
you already told your sis is she jnr or senior? if she senior i guess thats ok because she might be able to handle it. but if shes jnr i don't think that was such a good move as she might have doubts about her mother which mostly leads to disrespect. (although it depends on her age)
what you want to do is avoid any kind of huge family problem, blackmail, disrespect all those nigerian movie things its never worth it.

what u need to do is talk to your mom one on one or your sister instead. not you two together it may be like ure ganging up on her and shell have to play the mom card: shell deny and attack you for en tryin to confront her. it may lead to a breach in ure relationship.

an ambiguos question like mom, please i need to know what is going on or
is there anything you want to tell me involving you and uncle bla bla.
you may further proceed to ask exactly how u guys are related to him (in a very unsuspicious manner) but if you can't just confront her like that you may want to hint it to her that you know thre is somethng going on between them, and u know it is not your place to jude or condemn her but also that you see the future implications of her actions and it will do her well to see them too. if nothing or nothing serious is going on this might shame her into giving up the whole thing.

be mature - handle it quietly
be gentle- don't attck or use hurtful words
be accomodating- leave room for explanations
be understanding - show how much you care and leave a shoulder to cry on but be firm about you stand on the issue.

whatever you do don't tell your dad because you love him and it will only affect you in the longrun if you do. it might break up ure family and lead to disrespect of your father to your mother even in front of outsiders or you the children.
this ALWYS LEADS TO A DISFUNCTIONAL FAMILY.
P.S You CAN WARN THE GUY BEHIND YOUR MOMS BACK IF YOU THINK YOUR MOM IS TOO WEAK TO BACK OUT HERSELF. (not in public)

ufuoma24:

@Welli:Its senseless nd ill-mannerd girls like u that makes u female folk av little or no value in d eyes of men. D fact that u av a pair of boobs nd a hole dsnt mean u cn command anybodyz respct. Act ladylike 2 gain rspct. I wnt lkis your butt because your female. your type is a dime-a dozen.

buzyDiva:

Waterworks makes so much sense . . poster please go with that advice.

my apologies, 'it' uhm, i mean 'she' startd it.

i hp u get an "A".[b]idiot![/b]dogs run after cars abi despite dey're not in same level.that's to say u wil never recongnise a well mannered girl cus u re blind both in d eyes nd head.comand your respect ke!wats d use of gold to a pig?hiss.tell me d characters u consider "ladylike" nd i will shw hw much i posses them more dan any female u've come across in your few years on earth.if tellin u your point is whacky mks me unladylike den,im sorry . . i ve no regrets.i rather remain so

ufuoma24:

@Welli:A she-goat wil rmain a she-goat even if it wakes up any day nd starts crowing. your no more a lady than i am my dear welli or is it well? You probably av a well sized hole. Yeye pikin. Tshew

@Welli:A she-goat wil rmain a she-goat even if it wakes up any day nd starts crowing. your no more a lady than i am my dear welli or is it well? You probably av a well sized hole. Yeye pikin. Tshew

ufuoma24:

@welli: your father is my mentor in d he-goat kingdom

KOLIE-BUDZ:

Damn how u gon tell the hole naija about what your mom is doing?I know u got friends they will give u some advice,but don't go tellin the hole world about it girl,that aint right.

Oscar J:

i dey fine but could be better if u promise n actually stop this.

would u?

prince_onx:

I'll rather seck advise on this kind of issue here than from friends and people that know me and my mum!

welli:


that's very correct

engrdantee:

Sorry. what u hv to do is to send your Uncle's number to me engrdantee@yahoo.com, leave the rest for me.As for your mum. call her, talk to her. but in a way u wont blame her much because your dad is not there to satisfy her emotional feelings.she is not made of wood.y am against her is y your hegoat uncle. If i hv a gun i will just, your uncle