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Kpac:
Pushed out of my retirement just for your sake.
I have read your post, read between the lines and my submissions to you are not complicated.

You seem to be a passionate man, seem to be a cultural one too, a man who cherished the proper African family cultural values and glad you are. But without mincing word, its obvious and clear you have chosen a wife who is definitely lacking in these vitals. As sad as that is, as hard as you want this to work, as much as you don't want people to talk about your marriage failing.......i am sorry to let you know that is the most realistic new situation for you now.

Men are complicated, very complicated in most cases. A man is the only creature God created that will want a car that will not attract Armed robbers, a car that will not over speed, a car with high fuel economy and a car that will not cause envy in the neighborhood BUT at the same time will die to be able to buy a V12 Turbo, 800hp Sport Car with Lambo Doors. You want a very correct "African wife" who knows the value of breast feeding a baby, knows how to take absolute care of the entire home, able to train a child the proper way, be able to cook proper African dishes....However the same you will empty your savings running after a lady who pierced her nipples, had Ayamataga's nail fixed, with 6 nose rings and a 500k tik tok followers account. You go into the bathroom of these kind of ladies and the wide display of chemicals + formulas + liquid concussions + carrot + watermelon + guava + egg + everything else flavor soaps you see displayed will totally confuse you if our mother's didn't turn out as much beautiful with a just a Lux soap doing the same job.

From the days of Adam till now, a square peg will NEVER fit a round hole. We always get distracted as guys and constantly do this mistakes generation after generation.

The lady you have chosen, is beyond all doubts, not the kind for you. She is tired, exhausted and knows within herself she is not and might never be able to get to live that life that you expect. As a lady, as usual of most ladies, they are very honest with themselves. The men, the us, are usually the confused ones who are always deceiving ourselves. She cannot cope and she intends to keep everyone safe by refusing to come back to fit the round hole you have reserved for her square peg. You could go ahead and force her, bundle her back like your desperate in-laws have suggested, but it will end in either of 2 ways, she will still leave your house very violently or your baby's life may be sacrificed for your recklessness.

I am sorry but word truth doesn't have a short or long form, a full meaning or summary, an abbreviation or extension. The truth has always been the truth and in your case, you have chosen the wrong lady for a wife and she is not the one for you. Sadly.

Face the circumstance, let her be, leave her alone and take your 5 month old, innocent baby to your parent's home for proper upkeep for now. Get a very decent maid, if you can and if your parents permits, and let the maid leave with your parents to support them in the whole process of fending for that baby.

Allow the natural time for your heart to heal, face your work squarely, care for your baby the best you can and let the next 6 to 12 months decide what your next and best line of action will be.

As for your wife, in case you are wondering what becomes of her and how she will cope or whether she might still come back to beg or resume back her place as a wife.......Try to imagine a very beautiful and attractive bird caught and kept in a cage for 2 years and then one day returned back to the wild where it was captured and released from the cage. She will be perfectly and wonderfully fine.

Don't force things to go your way because of what people, neighbors and friends will say. You seem to be seriously concerned about this and that is rather unfortunate.

Cheers.

@OP....This is for you

A new member here and one who seek just one thing from this Nigerian social platform.

Myself

My name is Jumoke, i am a Nigerian, a Yoruba lady from Osun state. I am 27 years of age, of moderate height and of moderate complexion. I am a graduate of Business Administration from an esteemed University in Lagos State some few years back.
I reside in the Ajao Estate part of Lagos and work currently as a flight attendant and i am very multi talented in some number of skills which includes Fashion designs, Manicure and Pedicure, human resources management and helping people revive a dying or already dead business, etc

Profession

Despite the fact that i really love learning, adding new skills and improving my natural talents as a lady, i currently earn a living from being a professional Flight attendant. My other talents / skills have only being utilized by friends and families.

Personality

I am a lovely lady, i am pretty, i am modest, i am one with a consistently caring heart and i still have not lost any faith and hopes in true love despite the challenges true love currently face in our generation.

I am the 3rd child of 4 wonderful children, raised by wonderful parents of a home immersed in untainted morals and values. I was bought, bred and brought up in Lagos, though i do travel frequently due to my job requirements, there is still no where as great for me as being at home with my loved ones, friends, pals and having to enjoy our every moments as if we are rooting for a reality TV ! lol

I love cooking a whole lot, I don't drink, i don't smoke and have never been to a club, not a party person either, i do of course attend a few parties of very close friends and colleagues, but i am naturally a moderately reserved lady hence if its possible, i love staying indoors watching movies than being stuck in the world renowned Lagos Traffic. I am not a shy lady, but a jovial, playful and funny one.

The Man i want

I have had 3 boyfriends till date and since i broke up with my last some 8 months ago, i have not been in any relationship (serious or unserious) and its starting to be too boring for me at this stage.

My work hasn't made me feel it that much either but it seems nature at this time desires me to get a deserving man again.

It hasn't been easy meeting a good guy these days, its been so tough and i just have this faith i would find exactly what i want here on Nairaland. If some people had, then i would also.

I need a handsome, gentle, God fearing and respectful man, i want a man who believes totally in love, faithfulness and utmost commitments, a man who loves with all his heart, not a doubting man and definitely not a man who believes all ladies are cheats but rather a man who has the most wonderful heart, a thrilling spirit and one who has a good character.

I prefer a man between the ages of 28 and 35.

I hope for a man who is always happy, a man who has the brightest countenance and dreams, one who i would always want to be with cos he is just the definition of fun and a helper.

I hope I'm not sounding too wanting, i just want to express my desire in a simple way enough.

I am not asking for a perfect Man, not the most handsome one but a man who would mean the whole world to me, who would put a smile on my face every morning and i promise to give him all the attention, affection and love ever possible cos I'm a really good lady too.

I would be the happiest lady if i find that man after my heart via Nairaland and i promise to indicate it here on this thread, when i have found that special one........

Please send me an email at jumokeprints@gmail.com

Thanks Nairaland