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pls i need honest advise. my parents are separated. My father is a muslim n my mother a christian but the children are christians. My father is a very good man and has been there for us all thru out our lives. He supported us in every way possible, i remember when we were in school if he doesnt have money he wuld borrow just for us to ave all the essentiels we need for school in short he was a father who wld sacrifice anytin for his children. I remeber we use to be the envy of our neighbours then whose parent where nt too nice to them n other mothers envied my mum. But later they separated due to too many issues(nt a story for today).
I gt married first, to a man with a strong christian value but we couldnt get married in church just to compromise for my dad, we opted for the registry. My dad wanted nikai n my hubby wanted church so we meet half way n everyone was happy. My sis soon followed in the same pattern. Now my elder brother is getting married in 2 mnths time but his goin to church cos his fiance wants it so. I remember at a time his fiancee came to stay with me n we gt talking she said it has always been her dream to wrk down the aisle n i told her then that was also my dream but somtimes our dreams dnt come thru, i told her then since she decided to marry a guy who comes frm a muslim home she has to compromise. She said ok then but i guess she just said that to gt me to shut up cos later my borther said she insisted. Nw they are goin to church n my father told me he wnt be attending. I told my brother to just rethink the whole thing n go to a registry like us and later to the church for blessing, ow wld it look getting maried n ur father wld nt attend n it is nt as if he is dead, some1 who has been there for us all dis while dis same man wuld also be responsible for most of d wedn bills but he insisted that is the condition the wife's family gave him. Meanwhile my mum is nt helping matters cos she pushing him along. Right nw we dnt know ow our family members wld take it, if they will come or nt. Who do we call to represent my dad. Seriously nw am nt even looking forward to dat day cos i dnt knw ow it wld be.the wedn iv is out so no goin back. Ifeel my dad has has tried afterall he gave no hassles concerning who we married he allowed us to prctice our religion, marry whoever we wanted but all along he kept telling us he wnt go to church for any wedn n we all abided until nw. So NL want is ur opinion on dis.

sometimes when am mad at him, i ask myself why i married him maybe i should have married........ He would have treated me better. But then when he does somethings i say to myself i couldnt have had it better any where else. So i throw this to u NL do u ever feel u shld have married someone else instead of ur current spouse cos as for me am nt so sure.

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pls i need to get a cheap BB but i dont which one is better. Bold or Storm in terms of ruggedness, functions, durability and perhaps beauty. Thanks

@poster if the guy is as bad as u claim then i guess the signs must have been there before they got married but obviously your friend ignored it probably cos his rich. Well i guess she just has to find a way round it. Ie use condoms

i think i shld say this , if we are looking at the monetary aspect of taking care of the kids. Both parent are well suited to do this. My step mum is equally loaded. I stll think the woman shld have custody in this case becos no other woman can love and care for her children like she wuld and we all know that the father will only take them for another woman to care for. So wat are we saying here.

MRbrownJAY: many men abandon their kids for a reason or the other, that shouldnt be a death sentence or a reason to say that he IS a bad father FOREVER. maybe he was bad but now has changed, shouldnt he therefore have a right to custody over his children, if he is better suited than their mom to raise them in a safe/secure environment?

So if custody is given to their dad simply becos he has come to his senses. What happens to their mother who has toiled endlessly to bring them this far.

pls i need a three bedroom apartment in abeokuta in an area where the light is quite constant. A bungalow wuld nt be a bad idea

hi nairalanders,
I wuld like to know why men always find it easier to get custody of the children than women. Recently my stepmother had an issue like this. The man she was married to b4 my dad gave her a lot of tough time in that he was very neglectful didnt take care of her and the children, left her in his family house to go thru all sorts of humilation while he slept in hotels with girls. He decided to travel out of the country and thruout the time he was planning tthis, his wife and children where nt told meanwhile his family members knew only for him to come home a day to the time he was leaving to tell them. Can u beat that. Whenever he came home he stays in the hotel and comes just once to see them. He later married a white chick over there. When she culdnt take it again she left the family home and started staying alone. Years later she meet my dad n they got married and moved to our home (wit her 2 boys). Now yrs later their father want the children back and she has refused cos all the whle she single handedly raised them without support frm him. But people keep telling her she cant win the battle cos in nigeria here the children belong to the father. So what do u think any chances of her getting those boys.

i was in my 32nd week when i woke up one day to find my bed soaked. My water broke and there was no labour pain so my hubby rushed me to the hosp where i was placed on immediate bed rest and steroid injection to ripen the baby's lung. I had to go thru cs cos the water was completely drained and the baby was getting weak. After the baby was delivered he was kept in the incubator but i must tell u the next 48hrs was hellish for my family cos the baby was nt coping outside at all he couldnt breath on his own well. The doc told my hubby to be strong and dat they didnt see the baby surviving but as we all know man proposes God disposes he made it thru to every ones surprise. My advise is that husbands pls dont stress ur wife during pregnancy at all. I was under a lot of emotinal stress at the time so i want to believe that must ave triggered my son's early arrival.

i was in my 32nd week when i woke up one day to find my bed soaked. My water broke and there was no labour pain so my hubby rushed me to the hosp where i was placed on immediate bed rest and steroid injection to ripen the baby's lung. I had to go thru cs cos the water was completely drained and the baby was getting weak. After the baby was delivered he was kept in the incubator but i must tell u the next 48hrs was hellish for my family cos the baby was nt coping outside at all he couldnt breath on his own well. The doc told my hubby to be strong and dat they didnt see the baby surviving but as we all know man proposes God disposes he made it thru to every ones surprise. My advise is that husbands pls dont stress ur wife during pregnancy at all. I was under a lot of emotinal stress at the time so i want to believe that must ave triggered my son's early arrival.

for all those telling u to go to court, well its nt that easy cos no court will grant u custody of a new born when nothing is wrong wit the mother medically so i will advise u to be careful in dealing with the issue so as nt to lose them both

i dont know your exact location but i was told some few days ago that skye bank is recruiting. So u can try contacting people u know there to give u more info

i received wonderful text msgs frm my hubby and believe me it made mah day. So u see nt all women are materialistic. Though he's far away.