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Meyshia:
B.S! B.S!! B.S!!!

For this B.S, I'm tempted to copy and paste my 2021 B.S because there's little or no difference in both of them.

But here it goes...
Yesterday began like every other day, did school runs came back home to do one or two things then relax, because I supervised the clearing, heaping and planting done on my farm the day before and this resulted in severe pain on my right hip bone.

This made me decide that yesterday was going to be a rest day for me which it was, until I started having stomach cramps and my mind didn't go to contraction at all. I was just there wondering what I ate that could cause the discomfort.

By afternoon still battling the discomfort, I went to buy okro to make ila alasepo and amala dudu which I have been craving. On my way back I met my neighbour who has promised to do henna for me, I just sat at her place and complained about the hip bone pain alone cos I didn't give the stomach cramps much thought.

Got back home, made the ila alasepo and amala but by the time I finished cooking I knew this wasn't just stomach cramp and I need to see the Doc. I quickly made arrangements on how my older children will get home because I can't pick them myself. Fed them and they went out with their dad, with the promise to meet up with them.

By some minutes before 5, I walked in to the hospital to get checked. Doctor examined me and the next thing he said was 'where is your load?' you're 6 kinikan kinikan dilated, by 8pm your baby will be here. I'm like load bawo? Baby ke?🥺🥺🥺Load is still at home I'm not in labour and wasn't expecting to give birth today. Madam please call your husband to bring your bag. Naso I call my husband to bring my box.

Like play, like play my fellow Mamas ba se bere niyen o and true true by 8:21pm my baby girl made her grand entrance into this world.

When my neighbours heard that I've delivered, they couldn't believe it especially the one that did the henna for me and those that met me on my way to the hospital, because how do you explain that someone you were discussing with few hours ago don born.

Before 12pm today we're back at home. Mother and daughter are doing well, older siblings are happy to have a baby sister.

To all Mamas still waddling, I pray that your delivery will not be difficult and you'll hold your bundle of joy in your hands in due time.

I've finally HANGED MY BOOT. I no do again.

Ehn ehn, I want to ask a question ❓ ❓ ❓

How doctors dey take know time wey person go born?

You'll just hear, don't worry by so so time you go born and true true na that time person go born.

Meyshia:
Our latest bundle of Joy arrived yesterday 7/11/24. B.A and B.S coming soon.

Kunlexity:
BismilLah

First of all, we need to be reminded that we cannot obey ANYONE when it comes to any disobedience to ALLAH. What I mean is if your husband or parents request you to do something which goes against ALLAH and HIS MESSENGER, you must decline by reminding them about what ALLAH and HIS Messenger said. That's the command of ALLAH and HIS MESSENGER.

Abortion is forbidden in Islam whether it be in the earlier stages of pregnancy or otherwise. The extent of sin incurred varies according to the stage of pregnancy, so that less sin would be incurred if the abortion took place during the early stages, while it becomes increasingly haram (unlawful) as the pregnancy advances. When the pregnancy reaches 120 days old, abortion becomes totally forbidden and is deemed a form of murder that results in compensation becoming liable. This compensation is equal in value to 213 grams of gold, and it is given to the heir who did not participate in the abortion (i.e., brother/sister or grandparent(s), etc., according to the laws of inheritance).  
 
However, the only condition under which abortion is allowed is when there is an actual threat to the life of the mother confirmed by an official medical report that if the pregnancy advances any further, the mother may die.  
 
“While Islam permits preventing pregnancy for valid reasons, it does not allow doing violence to it once it occurs.  
Muslim jurists have agreed unanimously that after the fetus is completely formed and has been given a soul, abortion is haram. It is also a crime, the commission of which is prohibited to the Muslim because it constitutes an offense against a complete, living human being. Jurists insist that the payment of blood money (diya) becomes incumbent if the baby is aborted alive and then died, while a fine of lesser amount is to be paid if it is aborted dead.  
However, there is one exceptional situation. If, say the jurists, after the baby is completely formed, it is reliably shown that the continuation of the pregnancy would necessarily result in the death of the mother, then, in accordance with the general principle of the Shari`ah, that of choosing the lesser of two evils, abortion must be performed. The reason for this is that the mother is the origin of the fetus; moreover, her life is well-established, with duties and responsibilities, and she is also a pillar of the family. It would not be possible to sacrifice her life for the life of a fetus which has not yet acquired a personality and which has no responsibilities or obligations to fulfill.  
 
Imam al-Ghazzali makes a clear distinction between contraception and abortion, saying that contraception is not like abortion. Abortion is a crime against an existing being. It follows from this that there are stages of existence. The first stages of existence are the settling of the semen in the womb and its mixing with the secretions of the woman. Then come the next gestational stage. Disturbing the pregnancy at this stage is a crime. When it develops further and becomes a lump, aborting it is a greater crime. When it acquires a soul and its creation is completed, the crime becomes more grievous. The crime reaches a maximum seriousness when it is committed after it (the fetus) is separated (from the mother) alive.”

Scholars based on QUR'AN and Sunnah has ruled as follows;

1. It is not permissible to abort a pregnancy at any stage unless there is a legitimate reason, and within very precise limits.  
2. If the pregnancy is in the first stage, which is a period of forty days, and aborting it serves a legitimate purpose or will ward off harm, then it is permissible to abort it. But aborting it at this stage for fear of the difficulty of raising children or of being unable to bear the costs of maintaining and educating them, or for fear for their future or because the couple feel that they have enough children etc this is not permissible. 
3. It is not permissible to abort a pregnancy when it is an ‘alaqah (clot) or mudghah (chewed lump of flesh) (which are the second and third periods of forty days each) until a trustworthy medical committee has decided that continuing the pregnancy poses a threat to the mother’s wellbeing, in that there is the fear that she will die if the pregnancy continues. It is permissible to abort it once all means of warding off that danger have been exhausted. 
4. After the third stage, and after four months have passed, it is not permissible to abort the pregnancy unless a group of trustworthy medical specialists decide that keeping the foetus in his mother’s womb will cause her death, and that should only be done after all means of keeping the foetus alive have been exhausted. A concession is made allowing abortion in this case so as to ward off the greater of two evils and to serve the greater of two interests. 
Al-Fataawa al-Jaami’ah, 3/1056.

From the above fatwa, we must fear Allah and avoid the abortion practice. Fear that you are taken the highest risk in life to die in a state of abortion or as a result of abortion.

ABORTION DUE TO RAPE

There follow some important points concerning the woman who has been raped:
1. The raped woman who did her utmost to resist these thugs and their ilk is not guilty of any sin, because she was forced into it, and the one who is forced to do something is not guilty of sin in the case of kufr, which is worse than zinaa (unlawful sexual activity), as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“except him who is forced thereto and whose heart is at rest with Faith…”
[al-Nahl 16:106].

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah has forgiven for my ummah for their mistakes, what they forget and what they are forced to do.” (Narrated by Ibn Maajah in al-Talaaq, 2033; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan Ibn Maajah, 1664).

The Muslim woman who has fallen prey to a rapist will be rewarded for bearing this calamity with patience, if she seeks reward with Allaah for the harm that has befallen her. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No stress or exhaustion befalls the Muslim, nor worry or distress, even a thorn which pricks him, but Allaah will expiate for his sins because of that.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim).

2. Young Muslim men should hasten to marry women such as these who have been tormented, so as to reduce their suffering and console them, to compensate them for the loss of the most precious thing that they possess, which is their virginity.

3. With regard to their having abortions – the basic principle concerning abortion is that it is haraam and is not allowed from the moment of conception when it becomes a new being and is “placed in a place of safety” [cf. al-Mursalaat 77:21], i.e., the womb, even if this being is the result of a haraam relationship such as zinaa. In the case of the Ghaamidi woman who had confessed to zina and thus the punishment of stoning became obligatory, the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told her to go away until after she had given birth, then after she had given birth, he told her to go away until the child was weaned.

4. There are some fuqahaa’ who think that it is permissible to have an abortion within the first forty days of pregnancy. Some of them even permit it until before the soul is breathed into the embryo. The stronger the excuse, the clearer the reason for the concession is, and if that is within the first forty days it is, this means that the concession is more appropriate.

5. Undoubtedly the rape of a Muslim woman by an evil enemy is a strong reason for the Muslim woman and for her family to have an abortion. For she will hate this foetus, the result of this iniquitous attack, and she will want to get rid of it. So this concession is to be given because of necessity, especially in the first days of the pregnancy.

6. Nevertheless, there is nothing wrong with a Muslim woman who has suffered this disaster keeping the foetus without being forced to get rid of it. If it is decreed that it should remain in her womb for the usual term and she gives birth to it, then it will be a Muslim child, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Every newborn is born in a state of fitrah (the natural state of man, i.e., Islam).” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari). The fitrah is the religion of Tawheed, i.e., Islam. It has been stated in fiqh that if the parents have different religions, the child should follow the parent who has the best religion. This is in cases where the father is known, but what about the child who has no father? He is a Muslim child, no doubt, and the Muslim society is obliged to take care of his upbringing, to spend on him and to bring him up well. They should not leave the burden to his poor, suffering mother.

One of the basic principles of Islam is to relieve distress and hardship, so if a Muslim girl who is keen to remain chaste is exposed to bestial aggression and fears the effect that this may have on her reputation or her honour, or fears that she may be an outcast or that she may be subjected to harm such as being killed, or she fears that she may suffer psychological or nervous diseases, or that her sanity may be affected, or that shame may be brought upon her family for a matter in which she is not guilty of any sin, or that the child will not find any place of safety, then I say: that if this is the case, there is nothing wrong with her aborting the foetus before the soul is breathed into it, especially when it has become easy for a woman to find out if she is pregnant or not, with the advance of medical means of detecting pregnancy in the first week. The earlier the abortion is carried out, the more appropriate this concession is. And Allaah knows best.
May Allah keep guiding us all and protect us from such satanic influences on abortion.
Aameen.

Credit: Sheikh AbdurRazaq

Mamabella:
Good morning mamas. Please I have been having this stomach pain now fof like 2 days. And am finding it very difficult to poo. I would keep going go d toilet like I want to poo but nothing comes out .before pregnancy I had pile but now it's more out and more painful. Please I am just 26weeks. Should I be worried? D pain is not like am having cramps . It's just like My stomach is turning me painfully. And am having serious waist pain too . Please ur advice is needed. Thank you

wandeykul:
Good day mamas
Please I went through a terrible morning sickness to the extent that I became so so so so lean that I couldn't eat from July till last week. My gynecologist said I have low blood pressure too. Please none of my clothes fits me again, I'm even shy to go out presently. Please what can I do to atleast get back to my feet and look good ? I see other women looking fine during pregnancy, rocking their bumps in different nice outfits. ino understand this my own. Thanks

Movian:
I am team early June but I know I would steal early May

forzarush:
We give all glory, adoration and praise to Almighty Allah,the Lord of the worlds,Master of the day of judgement! We say Alhamdulillah!
Thank you God for the blessings of our LOs baking in the ovens at different stages. We thank you for all the newly delivered Mama's and the still belleful ones. We thank you for our various families and means of sustenance! Alhamdulillah,Ya Rabb!
We ask that you guide and guard us all through the different stages of our pregnancies! We ask oh Lord that you touch the hearts and minds of all beings we come in contact with to always look upon us with favour and empathy. We ask that you meet us at every point of our needs and lift our spirits at our lows. We ask Lord,that as many covet these blessings you have benefited us with,that you grant unto them oh Lord. The author and finisher of our faith,it is You who have known us before our existence,You alone know all our travails,we ask that you ease all our affairs and that at the end of nine months we shall all carry our babies in good health, rejoicing with all our families! Aameen Ya Rabbil Al Ameen. Thank you Lord for answered prayers!

Movian:
I can't wait to enter 2nd trimester cos morning sick has dealt with me

Lesbihornest:
BS

Sorry I didn't do this earlier. As a first time mom, everything still dey shock me and I am in the newborn trenches.

I gave birth at 39 weeks and 6 days. Just one day left to be 40 weeks.

I read that first babies always take their time. In fact I was ready to go for induction if she reaches 41 weeks.

I started purging a day before contractions started and by the next day night, I woke up to contractions. They were not painful, just uncomfortable and I couldn't sleep. I assumed that since I was not crying and wailing, that it is not labour. I went about my day.

My mother finally convinced me to go to the hospital and when we arrived, they checked and said that I was at 3cm. That cervical check dey pain sha
I used FMC Jabi and they said they only admit into labour ward when it's 6cm. So I was admitted into general ward. The contractions kept coming and I started begging to be checked. Nobody took me seriously because I could still laugh and crack jokes.

Finally they checked again and said I was at 6cm. They immediately got me a wheel chair. I laboured for hours and when I got to 7cm, the doctor augmented the labour.

Once the drip started, I was finally relieved to enter 10cm and be ready to push.

To me, contractions are the worst. Pushing was a relief. I almost bite nurse ear when the contractions got intense.
I pushed maybe 5 times and I heard the doctor say my birth canal was too tight before giving me a lateral episiotomy. After the episiotomy, my baby slid out at once. I had a baby girl at 11pm. She weighed 3.8kg and she is perfect.

They spent hours suturing my episiotomy and finally I was taken to recovery.

It was a relatively easy pregnancy and easy birth but still, I rate the whole experience 3/10. Will not recommend and definitely not doing this again. I am still traumatised

Wishing all the preggy moms a successful birth

Crestaria:
Oh thanks sis. Means pregnancy is actually 10 months for the 40 weeks counted. And I usually give birth from 36/37 weeks, reason for my confusion.

Crestaria:
Hello mama! Waist pain no gree me see road. Hope you are good? Clock 18 weeks yesterday

Mamas. All this pregnancy apps are confusing. When is the beginning of second trimester? At what week?

kokaiye:
dis was what i said when i got here ooo... Awfully boring and extreme quite... Made my complains but nothing changed... So, i kuku just crawl back in my shell as well since everybody don dey form wetin i no understand... No BA not to talk of BS.... Rollcall sef, na by force dem dey do am. Anyways, welcome back and congratulations.

Authorsy:
Hello Adorable Papas and Mamas, please i need your help.

So, i just learned i'm pregnant. i actually learned early cause my period comes like clockwork so when i kept getting cramps but no period, i knew i had to take a test and lo and behold...

The issue is that i am not having symptoms. With my previous pregnancy (15 years ago), i was very sick that i remember wondering if i could do this. But this time around, i feel nothing.

i initially had sore breasts and nipples but then it vanished. i have continued to do urine test and it is still testing positive.

I decided to go and do a scan. i thought they were going to do transvaginal but the sonographer did a transabdominal and said he can see a gestational sac that measures 5 weeks and 1 day but no yolk sac or fetal pole detected. That i should come back in 4 weeks for viability scan.
Meanwhile my period tracking app (FLo) says i am 42 days (6 weeks pregnant)
i want to inform my significant other of the pregnancy but since they can't see a yolk sac or a fetal pole and i have no symptoms, i don't know if i am really pregnant and i wouldn't want to raise his hopes and dash them again.

Please guys i need your advice , i'm a bit confused. i don't know what is normal and what isn't.

Thanks in advance for your patience.

extroveee:
If you find it difficult to conceived i have a plant to show you to chew and u will conceive, as long as you did not remove your womb through abortion.

sugah:
BA! BA!! BA!!

My princess made her grand entrance this morning via elective C Section at 37weeks 4 days.
EDD: 2/1/2021
DOB: 16/12/2020

I'm so in love!!!

May God continue to make it smooth for the rest of December and January mothers.

Supernatural delivery of healthy mother and baby is all we ask of the Lord.
Congratulations dearest

sunbestie:

Lolz abeg leave a m oo all we wan hear na BA soon

sugah:
You are very welcome.
You are almost there and porting to December is very much allowed
Hope your bags are packed?

sunbestie:
To register now u will bring one basket of onions...lol. Welcome to team Dec for sharp sharp delivery.

FairyGodmother:
It depends on your body. Mine was removed on 37w2d. I fell into labor and gave birth on day 40 weeks. Baby will come at the right time. Safe delivery in advance

LOLOMMA:
It depends on your body.for me they put it overnight and by morning I put to bed.

sugah:
You come late you kon still miss road
Lemme show you road to your teamies @sunbestie