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Nairaland GeneralTrapped!! by justjames(op): 12:49am On Jun 17, 2012
So I have a big problem my friends and i need help. I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 20 years, and 15 of which we were in a romantic relationship. Her family is super wealthy, and her parents believed i would always marry her so they trained me and have basically raised me and given me an ivy league education to buying me my first car and house. Her dad even sent my three siblings through college. i live in the states and work as a medical doctor. i do love my girl and that is why we are engaged, but there is a problem. two years ago she got breast cancer and had to go through radiation and other forms of chemotherapy and it really ruined her looks. I dont know if am inlove with her or just feeling pity towards her now. her cancer is now on remission and after what she went through the first time i dont think i can bear to have such a life with a sick wife, am tired. I know her family have helped me and my parents and siblings financially but i dont want to feel obligated to marry her. I dont want to be a bad guy and marry her and then cheat on her. I have prayed on this and yet no answer, even went to the priest in my church and no useful answer. Please advice me, would i be wrong to walk away after almost 20 years of relationship. I am now 35, and she is 32. We are both surgeons, and have been cohabiting in one of her father's houses in the states, my family paid part of her bride price a few years back, but we haven't completed the last rite, and my mom says to hold off if my whole heart isnt in it. The doctor also says that the chemotherapy can hurt her chances of getting pregnant. I dont want to hurt her, but i dont want to feel trapped or like a horrible man. HELP ME- ADVICE ME PLEASE!!

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