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CimonJorr:
@Just Moi...

Let's say, for example, that I was built like Arnold Schwazzennegger.. and that I had a death wish, then yes, I'd subscribe to your recommendation of walking up to the guy and chancing the **** out of him..

But alas, I am not.. and besides, we live in a civilized society.. if the guy had said "HELL NO! ! !" or something along those lines, then I'd have let them be.. as it was, guys have a certain way they interact with themselves, and there was no harm done in communicating my mindset with the guy.. [that's why guys find it easier to get along with themselves than babes do..].. And as it went, the guy was not adverse to my approach.. [hell, it would have been better than walking up to the girl and asking her, trying to disrespect his presence.. or don't you think so ]

As it went, there was no prior interaction with the girl.. no communication, no talking, no asking and being rebuffed.. nothing..

So, on what basis would she have to "act the fool..."...

And I'm sure guys in the Nairaland forum can bear me out.. Girls are very prone to this kind of behaviour... [I'm sure a survey of guys who have experienced similar incidents would be quite revealing.. Seun, are you willing to take up the gauntlet.. ]

The bottom line is, what right does a girl have to "act the fool"?? .. [to quote a favourite rapper of mine.. Ludacris.. ]

Duh!!!!
You are totally missing the point. Go back and re-read my post. I didn't advise going to fight the boyfriend, I actually suggested that it would be better you approached single and unattached girls, that way you would need to obtain only one person's consent. This is because, if you asked the guy first, the girl may think she is being relegated to the background, and if you don't ask the guy, he might feel insulted. Result: ask only single and unattached people. This should be simple enough to understand unless the problem is that you just want to hear what you want to hear and choose not to understand

Seun:
Parole officer? What does this have to do with the Visa Lottery?

("In criminal justice systems, parole is the supervised release of a prisoner before the completion of their sentence. Wikipedia"

visa lottery winners do not have to report to a parole officer.

After the papers are processed, what a lottery winner receives is a permanent resident card, entitling said person to live in the States. To maintain your status as a resident, it means that you must live in the United States for at least six months out of every year. Immigration officers at the airport can tell if you have been out of the country for more than six months out of the year. If this is the case, then technically (it is hardly invoked, usually it is just brought to the persons attention and continued behavior along that line may affect a citizenship application filed in the future) your permanent resident status may be invoked.

This may be what the poster meant.

Playing advocate here.

Walking up to a strange guy and asking permission to dance with his girlfriend, seems a little wierd to me.

Come to think of it, who should you ask permission - the guy or his girlfriend - and in what order? If you don't ask the guy's permission, then you just might have to get ready to, "throw them 'bows". Having said that, the girl is an adult as well and might have felt insulted that she was not being consulted in the matter. Maybe that was what precipitated her outburst and aggressive behavior.

All in all, I think it would have been better to do this with a couple with whom you are already friends, if not, look for single and unattached girls and let them have the say so.

Hello People, this is my first day here, so I'm still learning my way around the site

jogego:
... For my people, yoruba, most fathers don't accept it anymore, because they'd tell you, am not selling my daughter. But of course you still bring the yam, bible and other stuff.

For the Ibos, they would collect it. In fact, I have a couple of ibo friends who refused to marry ibo girls because they said they couldnt afford the dowry. As we speak, I have a yoruba guy who is getting married to an Ibo girl and the dowry thing is nearly killing his family.

Jogego seems to be generalizing a bit. I believe that some yoruba's as well as igbo's collect dowry and some igbo's and yoruba's do not collect dowry. Collection of dowry is prevalent where the family is impoverished.  Generally, where  the family is very well off, the father would most likely not be interested in collecting dowry from some 'young boy' that is just starting out.

As far as women paying dowry to men, I see no problem with that, just as long as the men agree to take the women's last names