Marriage issue in Nigeria is increasing daily and it surprises me

vic17:
95 percent of Nigerian girls are money minded while the remaining 5 are devil minded

thank you, Nigeria today run on money , for respect, for fame, for power, for connection etc leave that (gunners160) talking there

gunners160:

This is maturity and not all those small boys wey never even leave there papa house

maturity! I like people like u, u have no experience that y u are talking like this, ok

gunners160:
sorry to ask, how old are you?
Secondly , people like you crash other peoples marriage because of to you everything is all about "break up , divorce , she is a LovePeddler etc ".
A marriage is not a child 's play and five years in marriage is not 2 years in marriage. what happens to the kid they have together? what happens to d issue of victimization they both have to face?
if all marriages are to go by ur philosophy, I bet almost all men would have been divorced by now.

if what u say is your solution them the man should be ready to bare more insult from the wife, not all women that your advice will work.

NOETHNICITY:
Bros. Which one is not money minded?
Pls don't decieve yourself with the things those tell you, about how they are not moved by money

if she truly love him why did she made that comment of regretting marrying him now are ex don rich, if u know women u we know what am saying

DaddyOpe:
I got married to my wife 5 years ago. Before we got married, she dated a guy. We all stayed in the same area. I live here because it is close to my place of work. Her ex lives in the area. He does building contractor. While they were dating, I met my wife. I was able to convince her to date me. And since the guy was always travelling, I was able to get close to her. I think I won her finally after we had sex. Because that first day, I scattered her brain. She later left the guy. I proposed, she accepted and we got married.

I will say, at that time I got married to my wife, her ex and I were on the same level financially. But, recently, the guy has turned to something else. He does building for people overseas. People said the guy's work is good and he is always getting contracts. My wife said he had a 2.1 in Civil Engineering. He started selling cement. He is now a dangote cement distributor. He built a duplex at the junction of my street. He has 3 cars in the compound (he recently bought 1 car during this lockdown that people are saying no money oo). I and my wife do not have any car. I am still a tenant. We have to pass front of his house every day.

During this lockdown, my office has being delaying salaries. It has not being easy. I have had quarrels with my wife in the past but yesterday was the worst. During the quarrel, she said she regrets marrying me. That if she had ignored me and married her ex, she would have being living comfortably. I almost beat her up. Then she told me that this her ex paid her school fees in 300 and 400 level when she almost pulled out of school for lack of finance. She regrets paying him back by leaving him to marry me.

Since then, I have not being myself. I just created this account to express myself.

guy my advice for you is to move away from there and get rich o, cos situation don change o wife don dey run small small

[/b][quote author=ITbomb post=89762511]This one strong o
Even me and [b]80% of women would feel regret

Just hustle up and move away from the hood.
When I married, I moved to another part of town and started afresh [/q[quote][/quote I pity this guy if he doesn't get rich soon cos the marriage problem he started

bigiyaro:
OP, you made your choice, live with whatever comes with it. Also you enticed and "snatched" her from her guy cos he was not stable then, what makes you think if someone comes with a juicy enticement, she won't leave you?
Again you are just a victim of circumstances, karma is just paying back your wife for dumping someone that shared with her his little resources.
lastly let her regret her regret its not your regret, its your ego that was just bruised.

the wife is money minded, guys should stop going for money minded girls

gunners160:
1. don't take it personal she said it out of anger and she was fustrated of which every woman in her shoes will feel dsame

2. She needs love and not nagging. Things are not getting well his your duty to give her the assurance she needs that things will change for the best

3. leave that area so that she won't and you also won't be envious of the guy's success so as to enable u focus on making yourself better

4. See what she says as a challenge and become best in what you do ,if possible start a business. You too can become rich .....

5. Lastly dont listen to those small kids who tells u to end ur marriage or d marriage is over. It is just starting u can make it rossy again

u are a fool, u never know women. The guy marriage is now having problem getting rich is the only solution not relocation pple dey talk for here

MansoryMX:
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Look at this fO0l’s comment

I swear this guy na fool, big fool . He never know women

Ningen:


While her EX was away working his ass off...
YOU where there ‘scattering’ his girl's kpetus.

She cheated on her ex with YOU.
She left him for YOU.
YOU ended in TEARS.

Lmao. Finito.


Sha, please don't leave her.
Everyone in her shoe will regret marrying YOU.

Hustle and make money.
Then relocate faraway to someplace else.

good advice the only solution is him getting rich to solve this problem in the marriage, cos the lady is full of regret

psucc:
You snatched somebody's wife "because her ex do travel".

If I tell you that you jettisoned another girl for her, yöu may disagree but true.

Now, the girl (your wife) will live in eternal regrets so long as she continue to see the guy.

To break free, you need to relocate from that area asap.

relocation we not solve the problems, u know no women, let him relocate the damage have been done, marriage done they get problem, the only solution is him getting rich only

When I said Nigeria is like a money working nation almost everything work on Money including women . Your go leave u if that guy come back for her so be very prepared

Your wife is now saying bye bye, so get ready for the unexpected

Yeye topic,
Just trying to get attention

martineverest:
absolutely terrible... Taiwanese and Hong Kongese can never accept china...

yes they can not accept China but what China is saying is one country two system which British do not want because it will give China great power that is y they are causing trouble in Hong Kong. By the way China never granted Taiwan independence it was the west led by British how can a foreign power make decision in another country

Babatunde40:
Hong Kong and Taiwan want to be independent from China but mainland China won't accept. China is a terrible country

Meanwhile, see how their lawmakers look fit

shut up, read the history of Hong Kong u will know British is the cause of this

Macphenson:
Britain always creating disaster all round the world for the wicked and selfish reasons.

Imagine enslaving a country without their consent and permission.

u are very right Britain is the main cause of this look at mauca that protugal handed to China nothing like this they have freedom and sound relationship with China.but look ta Hong Kong, not only Hong Kong look at British former colony they have issue even french colony are doing better than British ones.
Nigeria will be like this until we are able to get out of British control

[quote author=listowell post=89555420]
So women benefit from unstable marriages. The men should walk away, joor. How come women still accuse guys of not wanting them to have money? Now you have said the reason eh.[/quote I am not saying women should not have money in marriage I am saying marriages whereby the woman is the whole bread winner result to something else more often

UjuJoan2:


I agree . . . I will never respect any man I have to feed. I just won't be able to.

I imagine it may look unfair as that would mean men have no room for failure, or they will never find love. But that's just the reality.

Being the superior gender is not an easy feat!

u said it all u won't respect a man u feed
Pls tell me y

tunmiluabi:
My story is quite long, please run through with patience.

I married my wife about 11 years ago. By the way I am 46 years old. Before I married my wife, I was not doing well neither was my wife. She was working with a multinational company, earning an equivalent of N40,000. I had a small graphic design business after trying many times to find a good job. I looked for jobs and contracts without any respite. But At this this time, my wife's support was good and I did appreciate every bit of it. At lest we survived on the low...

As time went on, I got a job in one international corporate training company as a Statistics and Business Analysis Instructor, was earning about 90,000 naira. During the times before I got my job, we had accumulated debt and my new job provided us an opportunity to pay them up.

We decided we were going to save part of her salary every month for servicing the debt and save the rest for a rainy day. I was supposed to pay the rent and all other domestic bills, light, kids school fees etc.. Some time she helped with food/groceries. After sometime, she advised we move to a bigger apartment. We still had a daughter by then. I obliged and we did.

To cut the story short, after four years of working, the company folded up because of government policies and we were all laid off. This meant we had to prepare for the hard life ahead. It was hectic and devastating. Me being me, I took it with all sense of grace and hope things will be fine. But the more I thought about this the worse things got. One day out of curiosity I asked my wife if it would be nice to have another child and she advised it was not the best time. I understood and agreed. I then advised my wife if we could start a business and with some savings we had, maybe I could use it to enhance my former business, maybe things might be better this time. She did not show any interest. This time I discovered changes in my wife.

One day she asked me if she could use part of them money to do a course, honestly I was shocked but asked why she did not oblige to my own request. She said "its my money I can use it for whatever I want". My wife however did the course.

To cut the story short, 3 years down the line, my wife stopped having sex with me and this continued for a long time. I became like "shit in her eyes". I lost a bit of confidence though. she would wake me with insults and barrage of dirty words. Because of our child, I agreed to stay a home and try to work online and seek clients and jobs from old client. It was not bad but not promising.

Fortunately for us, my wife got a promotion and her salary was increased to about 170,000. This actually brought out the worst in my wife. Her calmness disappeared and all decorum was buried. We would quarrel everyday and not talk for weeks. She became really mean and controlled everything at home. Please note, she is not a bad woman but can't explain the reasons up till date. I was with no option but to query her sincerity as a wife and that continued for a long time. Our sex life became zero, she would tell me having sex would make her pregnant and was not ready for a second child. Her stories kept on changing and became even worse, rather than coming home she would pass by her mom and be there till late in the night before coming home.

After about 3 years of trying to get something to do, I finally got a place on the island sometime in February 2018, where I would be paid a stipend of 50,000. In addition, I would use my free time to design, print and sell business cards to small companies. The overall income was small but enough for some immediate obligations at home. But to be fair, that was the best I could get since I have not had money in a long time. Unfortunately my wages were not consistent due to challenges the company was facing. But I used the Business card printing to augment wherever possible.

Later in 2018 around September, I discovered that my wife had been having an illicit engagement. She had a male fried and I finally got to know about it and confronted her. She did not deny it, she begged and I forgave her. Anyway, I had made up my mind to forgive because of the kid and I never told anyone till date. Moreover, since we were not making love that was of course enough reason for the drastic measure, I told myself. To be sincere I had lost feeling for my wife and sex was difficult. We finally started having sex but I had little to offer her. I would pretend and even have to watch Indecency to be able to have sex with her. I was dead inside. At least my wife was still with me. That was my solace. I guess trust was broken. She however continued with her escapades. The quarrels increased and got worse. There and then name calling became our breakfast and dinner. She advised that since I would never look at her the same and bringing little or nothing to the table that I was free to go. The quarrels went on for quite some time, my wife will go very violent on me some of the times. I am marshal artist with black belt and I have great restraint - for me, fighting and going violent on her was never on the table. One day I thought there was a need to move out and I did indicated to her that I was not comfortable living with her anymore.. That wherever I am, I will see how I can take care of the kids.

She did not care and things became difficult for me. I felt maybe I could stay for sometime, It might be a difficult condition but still not impossible. This became my Achilles heels. There and then I knew my relationship had broken and irreparable. I accepted there was nothing I could, but to be patient and tried to convince myself about our situations and believed our situation was bad, but God’s willing we would overcome. The fight even got worse and became very violent and physical, I would normally just take the beating or hold her hands to avoid any injuries.

The quarrels was beginning to be in the glare of my Kids and since it was not abating, there was little I could do to change the situation. I finally made up my mind on the 19th of May 2019 to move out, but actually moved out on the 30th of May, 2019. Before then on the 26th of May, 2019, I discovered my wife was again engaging in the illicit affair. She would claim she was going to church only to be found at a different location. Honestly I can’t blame her, I blame myself and the situation that caused the demise of our once cherished marriage. At this point in time I realised I had lost and had no fight in me anymore. My kids are still very young. Everyday quarrels, lack of sincere engagement, denials upon denials and her fear of facing her “DEMON” with little chance of her understanding the consequence of her actions - I was left with no choice but to stop FIGHTING. I had no fight left in me. The ultimate decision was to leave. I did not inform her parent about the issue because I had indicated to her I did not want them to look at her differently.

God so good, I got a 500,000 Naira job through a friend in an oil company with a 3bedroon in Lekki fully paid up for 3years by the company. By the way, I am Data Analyst but never practiced for a long time. I studied Computer engineering but for a long time grace did not smile on me. I take care of my kid and I really don't hate her and I am at peace with everything. She still has her job and doing well.

Please note that she did not tell me to leave, I left on my own volition. I could not share the same bed with my wife anymore she apparently could not muster enough strength to stop all iniquities for a conversation that will help see things through. Rather she is turning to blame it on me. We have however resolved to part on a friendly note for the sake of our child.

My reason for posting this is because most us sit behind the desk and computers and do not understood the demons everyone is battling. On a bad day, the best husbands are MONSTER, while the best wives are DEVILS. When we make judgment as males or female. We should not forget about our female child/children, same goes for the male child. I don't know what my wife tells people about what happened but I really don't care and I have made up my mind never to defend myself.

Thanks for reading.

Tunmi

relationship is from marriage in relationship a ladies can cater for the needs in a long time not in marriage, what cause it is the moment she was the bread winner a Ur family she wanted some dominate, that y no matter what pls be financially stable then Ur wife to avoid insult . This is Nigeria, money dictate every thing and marriage is not excluded .
If u think I am saying rubbish take a private study in a marriage were the wife is far financially stable then the husband that marriage also faces issue. In one were the husband is more financially stable then the wife the little bit stable . So intending husband take this advice

Fatal domestic violence

marvin906:






your stupidity is too obvious

who is this one na

Sometimes I wonder if the yorubas are sane pole for voting the disgrace to the black race in office

Ethiopia shoot down plane!



Can Nigeria shoot down kite talk of plane do we even have air defense missile that protect Nigerian skies

Top1gun:
Wait O are Igbos cursed that you see giant Yoruba before your were born n in your dream all tru your life or who how many times have you seen Yoruba compare themselves to the failure your represent ?

Na wa O n it is you people that complain Yoruba can not do without mentioning your tribe. What sort of foolishness is this for God's sake ?

what is this mad man saying, English you can't even type.

northvietnam:
IPOB propaganda machines at work ... there’s no outbreak anywhere in our state . Please gentle men and ladies , do disregard this fake news from the Enemies of the North/Nigeria


God bless Bauchi state
God bless Northern Nigeria
God bless Mohamed Buhari (OUR DARLING DADDY)
God bless Federal republic of Nigeria...

God bless all of us @ (Dealers of Dead meat and Cadavers of all kinds)

We Rise

God bless

look at this Naman

jaxxy:


U don’t have to be a dictator to be a good leader, look at India, Indonesia, mexico etc.. The us has fairly good relationships with them and they are no puppets. It has nothing to do with puppets bt rather good governance.

Drop the lame excuse.

this nation have no resources and they are hard to put a puppet their look and India now do u think us can impose a puppet in india, No so they follow along

kelvindj98:

Stop spewing American propanganda in Nigeria, they won't give u visa. Venezuela was doing fine and had socialist programs that benefited the entire country.
It was after they refused to give the US access of their oil market that the US under Obama placed heavy sanctions on them that ruined their economy.
The US have been trying to topple the government since just like it's trying to do in Iran, another oil rich country.
Better stop watching US media for foreign news, it's all western propaganda.

pls tell them o African need to wise up

jaxxy:


Does the country belong to u? Is it ur father’s property?? If the people say we don’t have want u must u remain there by force? U were even told give a timeline to conduct fresh elections and u behaving like an idiot so who is to blame?

If u are a good leader u shudnt be afraid to go to the people for ur mandate they so called gave u.

when u talk of a sovereign state it speak of independence how will westerner order a country to conduct election because the country is not in their control look is their mean to impose a puppet in the country that y maduro is trying to stop. U African are really blind look at Libya, Bolivia, Iraq

franchasng:
Maduro lost the election and refused to hand over....US is not yet interested in removing him from power......once they are, Maduro is a gunner



He has impoverished his people, and forced millions of them to compulsory exile and refugee camps amidst huge reserve of crude oil and natural gas. Maduro has no reason to remain as Venezuelan President, he should leave or be forced to.


I am in full support of the opposition leader Juan Guaidó, that guy got guts....he got guts like Nnamdi Kanu, and love men with guts, who challenge the failed authority

election was not conducted firstly and even if election was conducted their will be fraud by the western. They will impose their puppet,

jaxxy:
Maduro is an irresponsible leader as far I i know. He has also refused to conduct fresh elections as agreed previously. He will be kicked out for his obstinate and stupid behaviour.

u are mad, will u conduct election when u know western element will do anything to stop Ur win even if he conduct election their will be fraud done by the opposition backup by the west