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If Marriage Is Just Prostitution, Then Why Doesn't The Theory Survive Simple Questions?

A lady recently argued that men should read about the "Theory of Marriage as Prostitution," claiming that men historically offered women money, resources, and provision in exchange for access to their bodies, time, emotions, labor, and companionship.

The argument sounded intellectual at first glance, but many people immediately spotted a major problem.

If every relationship between a man and a woman is simply a financial transaction for access to a woman's body, then what exactly separates marriage from prostitution?

This is where the theory starts developing cracks.

Marriage is a social, emotional, legal, cultural, and often spiritual partnership. Both parties invest something valuable. Men provide resources, protection, commitment, emotional support, and sacrifice. Women provide companionship, emotional support, care, commitment, sacrifice, and often contribute financially as well.

Reducing all of that to "men pay for access to women" oversimplifies human relationships to the point of absurdity.

Many men responded with sarcastic questions:

"If money automatically buys access to your body, then how much do you charge?"

The question may sound provocative, but it exposes the weakness of the argument.

Most women would rightly reject such an offer because they understand that relationships are about far more than money. Attraction, trust, values, compatibility, character, commitment, and emotional connection all matter.

Ironically, the moment those factors are acknowledged, the claim that marriage is merely prostitution begins to fall apart.

The bigger issue is that modern gender debates often try to reduce complex human relationships into simplistic formulas.

Some claim all men only want sex.

Others claim all women only want money.

Reality is far more complicated.

Healthy relationships are not business contracts disguised as romance. Neither are they charity projects.

The strongest marriages are partnerships where both people bring value, respect each other, and willingly invest in each other's lives.

Once relationships are viewed purely through the lens of transactions, everyone eventually starts looking like either a customer or a product.

Human beings are far more than that.

What do you think? Is marriage simply a transaction, or is it something much deeper than money and material provision?

Cc nlfpmod seun Dominique

airsaylongcome:
Looooooooooool! “AI-enhanced” my black bum. Show me your first draft

Clean your black b*m with it then.

airsaylongcome:
lol! You are switching between your alts. That’s not how the game is played.

Next time, write in your own words. Not the AI gibberish you prompted ChatGPT. There are better AI writing tools than ChatGPT. Invest in those. And maybe actually learn to write. It’s so much more interesting reading a human written article with all its flaws. Not the plastic you copy pasted as the original post.

You want to know the dead give away? The last line. Hundreds of thousands of articles being hawked for engagement end with “Wonder what” or “Curious what”

Dumb people think this is 100% AI generated. There is difference between enhanced and generated from AI.

free2ryhme:
Is this what we should concern ourselves at this material time

Go and become Nigerian president then.

airsaylongcome:
There’s NO MESSAGE there. It’s AI gibberish. No soul. No thoughts. Just words.

Curious what message you see there?

Hatters gonna hate. Write you own let it make front page.

sigmax:
We should build our own in Nigeria so that USA won't dictate how it's used ,like in the case of Fable 5 and unhinged military or research deployment.

We have YarnGPT in Nigeria

AntiChristian:
So the widow/widower/divorcee should do away with companionship, his bread winner (if the dead was her bread winner), and other marital duties for a year or decade that doesn't really matter?

Arguing with you will just stress me. The aforementioned can marry anytime they like and i gave example that it could be a year later or 10 years later. People have been doing it. A widow marries after a year some 2 years later, some 15 years later. So like how long doesn't matter but the person's choice.

AntiChristian:
"What is the culturally appropriate and emotionally healthy waiting period for widows or divorcees before they can openly seek and embrace new love and relationships?"

It could be a year, it could be a decade. It doesn't really matter.

Stephen0mozzy:
Hehe... We nor go dey excited keh.
By the way, the average AI user in Nigeria has atleast 5 accounts on each of the popular AI platform - I'm one of them 🤣

We like free tier gaan. As one usage limit finish, we switch to the other one.

Unless they use regional pricing to lower rates for us, they should not think this excitement will translate to paying consumers sha 😌

I can relate to this. In 2023 when i first used AI i was very excited and it has come to stay.

Hey everyone,

I came across a viral post some times back where a woman listed strict “rules” women should follow to avoid looking cheap or too available when dating. The reactions were intense, and honestly, it opened up a bigger question about how people are approaching relationships today.

The original post sounded more like a strategy manual than a dating guide. It suggested things like not texting first too quickly, not picking calls on the first ring, avoiding instant replies, not oversharing too early, not using pet names too soon, and not asking for money or support in the early stages. The core idea was simple: men are always testing, so women must stay mysterious, controlled, and slightly distant to remain “valuable.”

Many people strongly disagreed with this approach. Some argued that love is not a game with rules and that anyone who needs a checklist for dating is already approaching relationships with the wrong mindset. Others said real connection does not need calculations, delays, or emotional withholding, and that genuine interest should not be treated like a weakness.

After thinking about it deeply, the truth seems to sit somewhere in the middle, but not in the way social media usually frames it.

Where the advice goes wrong is when it turns human connection into a performance. People are not identical, and relationships are not competitions. Assuming every man is “testing” or that every fast reply reduces value creates unnecessary pressure and paranoia. It also turns simple actions like showing interest or excitement into something shameful, which is not healthy.

It also misunderstands attraction by reducing it to scarcity and mystery alone. Real attraction is not built on confusion or emotional distance. It is built on clarity, comfort, mutual interest, and consistency over time. When people start overanalyzing every text or response time, they are no longer building connection, they are managing fear.

At the same time, some parts of the advice accidentally point to real truths, even if the reasoning behind them is off. It is true that losing your identity too quickly in someone else can be unattractive. It is also true that rushing into emotional attachment without knowing someone properly can lead to disappointment. It is healthy to maintain your own life, your own standards, and your own boundaries. It is also important to notice whether interest is mutual or one sided.

The problem is not the observations. The problem is turning those observations into rigid rules.

Real relationships do not operate like instructions. They operate through communication and emotional awareness. If you want to text someone, the real question is not “will I look desperate,” but rather “is this coming from genuine interest or anxiety.” If someone does not respond consistently, the issue is not whether you broke a rule, but whether the connection is actually balanced.

Healthy dating is not about playing hard to get. It is about being real while still being self aware. You can be interested without being obsessive. You can be available without being dependent. You can be expressive without losing your boundaries.

One uncomfortable truth many people avoid is this. If someone is genuinely interested in you, basic communication will not scare them away. If normal interest pushes someone away, the issue is usually not your behaviour, it is incompatibility or emotional mismatch.

On the other hand, constant game playing might attract people who enjoy chasing, but those same people often lose interest once the chase is over. That cycle is exciting at first but rarely stable in the long run.

At the end of the day, real compatibility does not need scripts. When two people genuinely connect, communication feels natural, not calculated. You are not counting hours before replying or analysing every word. You are simply engaging, learning, and building something gradually.

So the question is not really about rules versus no rules. It is about fear versus authenticity.

Are we dating to build something real, or are we trying to avoid rejection at all costs?

Would be interesting to know how others see this.

World’s First Human Bladder Transplant Successfully Performed in Historic Surgery

A major medical milestone has been achieved in the United States after surgeons at the University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA) successfully carried out the world's first human bladder transplant, opening a new chapter in organ transplantation and offering fresh hope to millions living with severe bladder disease.

The groundbreaking surgery was performed on May 4, 2025, at Ronald Reagan UCLA Medical Center by a team led by Dr. Nima Nassiri, a urologic transplant surgeon, alongside renowned urologist Dr. Inderbir Gill.

The recipient had previously lost most of his bladder during cancer treatment and later had both kidneys removed due to kidney cancer. He had been dependent on dialysis for seven years before receiving a donated kidney and bladder in a complex eight hour operation.

According to UCLA, the transplanted kidney began producing urine immediately after surgery, while the new bladder functioned successfully, eliminating the patient's need for dialysis.

Experts say this achievement could transform treatment for patients suffering from non functioning bladders, chronic infections, severe pain, or those whose bladders have been removed due to cancer and other conditions.

Currently, patients with severe bladder damage often undergo reconstructive procedures using parts of the intestine to create a new urinary reservoir. While effective, such procedures can cause long term complications including infections, digestive problems, and internal bleeding.

Researchers believe bladder transplantation could provide a more natural solution and significantly improve quality of life for selected patients.

The surgery is the result of more than four years of research, multiple trial procedures, and extensive regulatory approvals. Until now, bladder transplantation was considered one of the most technically difficult procedures in medicine because of the bladder's complex blood vessel network.

While doctors caution that many questions remain about long term outcomes and organ rejection risks, the success of this first human procedure is already being hailed as one of the most important breakthroughs in modern urology.

For millions of patients worldwide living with severe bladder disease, what once seemed impossible has now become reality.

Source: https://www.uclahealth.org/news/release/first-human-bladder-transplant-performed-ucla


Cc nlfpmod seun Dominique

Nigerian Entrepreneur Raises $1.5 Million to Build West Africa's Largest Safety Footwear Company

While many graduates dream of landing jobs in tech, banking, or multinational corporations, one Nigerian graduate took a completely different path and turned it into a multimillion dollar success story.

Yinka Atunde, a Computer Science graduate of Babcock University, has raised $1.5 million in funding after building what is now regarded as West Africa's largest safety footwear manufacturing company, Yikodeen.

Ironically, the journey began because of an unexpected delay in the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) programme in 2015.

With nearly a year of uncertainty ahead of him, Atunde found himself asking a question that many young Nigerians struggle with:

"What do I really want to do with my life?"

Instead of pursuing a conventional technology career or seeking opportunities abroad, he made a surprising decision. He told his parents he wanted to learn how to make shoes.

That decision would change everything.

To master the craft, Atunde travelled to Italy, one of the world's shoemaking capitals, and later visited factories in China to understand large scale production. After returning to Nigeria, he took an even more unusual step by working as a factory employee in a local shoe manufacturing company so he could understand the industry from the ground up.

During his research, he discovered a major gap in Nigeria's industrial sector.

Almost all safety boots used by workers in oil and gas, manufacturing, construction, and heavy industries were being imported.

Rather than compete in the crowded fashion market, he chose the more difficult path of manufacturing industrial safety footwear locally.

The challenges were enormous.

Modern production equipment was expensive and beyond the reach of his startup. Instead of giving up, Atunde travelled across Nigeria searching for abandoned footwear factories. He eventually purchased decades old machines from more than fifteen defunct factories and worked with engineers to restore them to life.

The early years were filled with rejection.

Many large organisations doubted that a Nigerian company could produce safety boots capable of meeting international standards. Yet Yikodeen continued improving its products, investing in testing, certifications, and quality assurance.

The breakthrough finally came after years of persistence.

In 2022, the company secured approval to supply 10,000 pairs of safety footwear to the Nigerian Police, proving that locally manufactured products could compete with imported alternatives.

Today, Yikodeen supplies safety footwear to major organisations including Dangote Group, NLNG, Seplat, BUA, Saipem, and the Nigerian Army.

Following a $1.5 million investment from Aruwa Capital Management in 2025, the company significantly expanded its operations. Its modern facility in Ejigbo, Lagos, can now produce over 5,000 pairs of shoes every 24 hours and employs approximately 500 workers, with women accounting for more than 61 percent of its workforce.

Atunde says the company's mission goes beyond making boots.

He believes Nigeria can become a major manufacturer of industrial safety products and reduce dependence on imports by building globally competitive products locally.

His story is a powerful reminder that some of the biggest opportunities are often found in places others overlook.

A delayed NYSC programme could have been seen as a setback.

Instead, it became the starting point of one of Nigeria's most inspiring manufacturing success stories.

What stands out most to you about this story: the courage to leave tech, the persistence through years of rejection, or the decision to build locally when most people would have chosen imports?

https://africa.businessinsider.com/local/markets/meet-the-founder-who-took-a-detour-from-tech-and-raised-dollar15-million-to-build/lb1h207

The story is not really about shawarma.

The shawarma is simply the evidence. The real issue is what it revealed.

For four years, one person had quietly made it a habit to think of two people every time he bought food. He never saw generosity as a transaction. He never calculated whether he would get the same treatment in return. He simply shared because he cared.

Then one difficult week arrived. This is not a year, not even a month o, just a week and it revealed a lot about her.

When she bought food only for herself, turned her back, and ate alone, what hurt was not the shawarma. It was the realization that the spirit of the relationship might not have been as mutual as he believed. In a single moment, he discovered that what he saw as "us" may have been viewed as "you and me" all along.

This is why people are reacting so strongly to the story.

Most people are not imagining themselves missing a shawarma. They are imagining all the sacrifices they have made for others, only to discover that the same energy disappears the moment circumstances change.

One of the hardest lessons in life is realizing that some people appreciate your effort without ever intending to match it. They enjoy your generosity, your kindness, your loyalty, your support, and your consistency, but they never see those things as responsibilities they should reciprocate. To them, receiving becomes normal while giving remains optional.

The truth is that relationships are not built during seasons of abundance. Almost anyone can be loving when everything is going well. Character reveals itself when sacrifice becomes necessary, when convenience disappears, and when somebody must choose between their own comfort and showing up for another person.

A relationship does not become one sided overnight. It usually happens gradually, through hundreds of small moments that seem insignificant on their own. One person keeps giving. The other keeps receiving. One person keeps understanding. The other keeps expecting understanding. One person keeps making adjustments. The other keeps benefiting from them.

Eventually, a moment arrives that exposes the imbalance.

The shawarma was simply that moment.

Men can learn something from this. Consistency is admirable, but generosity should not blind you to reality. The goal is not to find someone who enjoys what you provide. The goal is to find someone who values you enough to stand beside you when you have little or nothing to provide.

Women can learn something from it too. The strongest relationships are not built on what someone can do for you. They are built on reciprocity, consideration, and the willingness to show up when circumstances are less than ideal. Sometimes the smallest gestures communicate the deepest loyalty.

At the end of the day, everybody wants to feel chosen, appreciated, and valued. Nobody wants to discover that their importance in a relationship was tied primarily to what they could offer.

The saddest relationships are not the ones where love ends.

They are the ones where one person eventually realizes they were investing in a partnership while the other was simply enjoying the benefits.

What do you think? Was this story really about shawarma, or was it about something much deeper?

I came across a story yesterday that touched me. This is an excerpt :

Years ago, while living abroad, I shared an apartment with people from different countries.

Two of my flatmates were young Polish students. They were only 19 years old, working part time jobs, struggling with bills, and trying to survive like every other student.

What caught my attention was not their relationship itself. It was their mindset.

Whenever there was a problem, they approached it together.

"We are short on rent this month."
"We are looking for extra shifts."
"We are saving for our own place."
"We are trying to manage our finances better."

Everything was "we."

There was no constant debate about who owed whom. There was no competition. There was no scoreboard. Just two people trying to build something together.

Years later, I noticed the same thing with another couple. The lady owned a car while the guy did not. Every morning she picked him up for work. They travelled together, planned together, and supported each other according to who was in a better position at the time.

Again, the mindset was simple:

"We."

Not "me."

Not "what can I collect?"
Not "what am I entitled to?"
Just "how do we make this work?"

Watching people from different backgrounds taught me something important.

The reality is that many relationship problems are not actually about money. They are about values.

People often blame poverty, but there are couples with very little money who are genuinely happy because they see themselves as partners.

At the same time, there are couples with money, cars, houses, and vacations who are miserable because every discussion feels like a negotiation.

One person is calculating what they can get. The other is calculating what they can avoid giving. The relationship becomes a transaction instead of a partnership. This is why some relationships collapse even when both people are financially comfortable.

A relationship cannot survive long when two people are pulling in opposite directions. The strongest relationships are usually built by people who understand a simple truth:

Life is heavy. Nobody carries it alone forever. At different points, one person may contribute more money. Another time, one person may contribute more emotional support.

Sometimes one person is stronger. Sometimes the other is. The goal is not keeping score. The goal is moving forward together.

Social media has convinced many people that the purpose of a relationship is to find someone who will solve all their problems.

In reality, the healthiest relationships are often between two people who decide to face those problems as a team.

Perhaps the question we should ask before entering a relationship is not:

"What can this person do for me?"

Maybe the better question is:

"Can we build something together?"

Because at the end of the day, the difference between a transaction and a partnership is just one word.

"We."

Cc nlfpmod seun Dominique

MaxInDHouse:
The one and only true Christian group (Jehovah's Witnesses) will never allow such in our gathering!🙂

See who is talking. What about the other lapses.

Alot of women now a days are so entitled. You meet a lady today and she already expects you to start handling her bills.

WHEN MINISTRY BECOMES A MARKETPLACE

One of the greatest challenges facing modern Christianity is the growing tension between ministry and commercialization.

The gospel was never designed to be a product, and ministry was never intended to be driven primarily by profit. Yet, in many Christian gatherings today, it is becoming increasingly difficult to distinguish between genuine ministry and religious entertainment.

Music remains a powerful tool for worship, evangelism, and spiritual encouragement. Throughout Scripture, songs have carried messages of faith, repentance, hope, and devotion to God. However, concern arises when the focus gradually shifts from glorifying Christ to building personal brands, chasing popularity, and maximizing financial returns.

Many gifted gospel singers have remained faithful to their calling and continue to use their talents to draw people closer to God. At the same time, there are growing concerns about practices that place commercial interests above spiritual impact. Excessive performance fees, celebrity culture, and the constant repackaging of existing songs without deeper spiritual substance have caused many believers to question whether some ministries are still centered on Christ.

The issue is not whether gospel ministers should be supported financially. Scripture teaches that those who labor in ministry deserve support. The real question is one of priority and motive. Is the primary goal to preach Christ, or to build a profitable enterprise around His name?

Churches and Christian organizations therefore have a responsibility to exercise discernment when inviting ministers. The central consideration should not be fame, social media influence, or chart rankings, but whether the individual's ministry consistently points people to Christ and promotes spiritual growth.

Christian gatherings should leave people talking more about Jesus than about the performer on stage.

The gospel is a calling before it is a career, and Christ must remain the focus of every ministry.

Happy First Sunday in June 2026.

vislabraye:
As long as you make excuses for sleeping with married men and don't hold yourself accountable, it will continue. Most of you are too greedy.

Yea you made a fair point there.

I came across several stories recently that all pointed to the same issue.

One guy met a lady he had known years ago. They entered the same keke, chatted for a while, and when it was time to get down, she simply asked, "You go pay for me?" He paid for himself and left.

Another guy approached a lady he liked while she was buying yam. After some small talk, he asked for her number. Her response?

"Buy yam for me first."

The guy simply smiled and walked away.

Someone else shared how a lady stopped replying to his messages immediately after he refused to send money for her lunch.

Then there was another story that stood out.

A guy met a lady and, to his surprise, she paid ₦200 for him. The next day, he took her out on an expensive dinner.

Funny enough, that ₦200 gesture probably impressed him more than many people demanding thousands of naira ever could.

Reading all these stories made me realize something.The issue is not that men should never pay. The issue is not that women should never receive. The issue is expectation and entitlement.

Somehow, many people have developed the mindset that the moment a man says hello, he has automatically accepted financial responsibility.

You entered the bus yourself. You were already planning to go somewhere. You were already hungry before he appeared. Yet because he spoke to you, he is suddenly expected to pay?

It is that logic has never made sense to me.

The truth is that generosity and entitlement are not the same thing. When someone voluntarily spends money on you, it feels kind. When someone expects it from you, it feels manipulative. Most men do not mind spending on women they genuinely like. In fact, many enjoy it. What they dislike is feeling like an ATM before they have even learned your surname.

The same applies in reverse. Many women appreciate generous men. What they dislike is a man who believes every naira spent should earn him access, affection, or intimacy. Both attitudes can cause problem ans make the other person feel used.

One of the most attractive qualities in any adult is the ability to stand on their own. Pay your transport fare. Buy your food. Handle your basic responsibilities. If someone helps you beyond that, appreciate it. If they don't, move on.

The funniest part is that some people who loudly demand "provider behavior" from strangers have never demonstrated "partner behavior" themselves.

A relationship is not a sponsorship program. It is not a fundraising campaign. It is not a transaction. It is a partnership.

The lady who paid ₦200 didn't spend much money, but she demonstrated something valuable: reciprocity. She showed she was capable of contributing rather than simply consuming. In today's dating culture, that quality is becoming increasingly rare.

The lessons are simple:
1. Generosity is attractive.
2. Gratitude is attractive.
3. Reciprocity is attractive.
4. Entitlement is not attractive whether it comes from a man or a woman.

Cc nlfpmod seun Dominique

Wealthyonos:
Life is full of surprises. That's my own definition

Yea. Life is just unpredictable.

LIFE DOESN’T FOLLOW YOUR LOGIC… AND THAT’S THE HARDEST TRUTH TO ACCEPT

Look around carefully.

Life is full of contradictions that don’t make sense… at least not the way we were taught to expect.

There are good women in the shadows, playing roles society condemns… and there are people living “perfect” relationships who are anything but decent behind closed doors.

There are loyal partners being cheated on, not because they lacked value, but because life doesn’t reward goodness as neatly as we think.

You’ll see lazy people with money, and hardworking people struggling to survive.
You’ll meet generous people who are broke, and stingy ones sitting on wealth.

You’ll find innocent people behind bars… and real criminals walking freely in broad daylight. Some people can’t afford food, yet their health is solid.
Others have access to everything, yet live from hospital to hospital.

So what exactly is the formula?

There isn’t one.

This is the uncomfortable truth nobody really prepares you for.

Life is not a straight equation of “do good, get good.” It’s a mix of choices, chance, timing, systems, privilege, and sometimes pure randomness.

Once you understand that, something shifts. You stop over-romanticizing fairness. You stop assuming outcomes always reflect effort or character. You stop breaking your head trying to “figure it all out.”

Instead, you become more aware. More intentional. You focus on your lane… not because it guarantees anything, but because it’s the only part you truly control.

Most importantly… You remember to LIVE. Not just chase, not just plan, not just endure… but actually live. This is because one day, whether things went exactly how you wanted or not, you will still have to LEAVE.

When that time comes, the real question won’t be:

“Did life follow the rules?”

It will be:

“Did I actually experience it?”

Cc nlfpmod seun myndd44

Omo, these calculations make it scary. So our sleep can sum up to 20 something years, mehn.

Kazim88:
OP you are not actually social smart. You might be smart in other aspect but when it comes to social interaction as pertain to women, you don't get it.

When she collected your number and said hi, she has done 80% of the job for you as a sign of appreciation, all you need to do is ask her out and close the deal.

You see, Women know for a certain that men that give them actually want something in return else why not give your family members or friends. Why give to a full stranger?
So either the man is bold and skilled to ask the thing they want or timid and fraudulent to ask and pretends.
They avoid pretenders and Bill them more.

This girl in particular, assumed you were timid to ask for number and decided to help you, and also helped you start the conversation and you failed to continue and still blame her.

What??

Were you waiting for her to chat you up, ask you "how was your day?"

You need to man up and do the need full.

If you need advice on how to go about it, I can help with approach such issue.

Bro, i think you are the one that don't know anything about social interaction. I didn’t ask of her number because i don't have any interest. She asked for my number and said hi, i replied hello. It left for her to reply or not. Not every man is like you that is always after sex.

ayoncox:
So you don't know that if you help a lady, you don enter life subscription be that

Atleast she should do it with sense na not make it obvious that you are an almajiri.

safarifarms:
She said Hi just to confirm that she's connected to her helper.

Omo that girl get me ooooo. The way she collected the number you will think she had something very important to say or a very big appreciation for me. Only for her to turn me to emergency bill payer. She didn’t even make attempt for us to be acquaintance.

brightDdon:
You successfully made me laugh out this morning...

Thanks anyways

i guess its because you can also relate to it.

Choi, this life will humble you.

On Saturday , I saw a random lady who needed help with food. Feeling generous, I sent her ₦3,000. She thanked me and then politely asked for my WhatsApp number.

I thought, "Aww, maybe she just wants to appreciate me properly." I gave her my number.

She sent:

"Hi."

I replied:

"Hello."

Silence eas what later followed.

No conversation.No friendship vibes.No getting to know each other. No "How was your day?" Nothing.

Yesterday being Tuesday, she suddenly reappeared from the land of the living.

I thought maybe she wanted to continue the conversation.

My sister came straight to the point:

"Please help me with ₦6,000 to fill my gas."

At that moment, I realized that I was not a friend. I was not a brother. I was not a potential acquaintance. I was simply a government intervention programme.

Apparently, the first ₦3,000 qualified me for automatic enrollment into the next phase of assistance.

This life you different lessons. Sometimes, the moment you help someone once, they don't see it as kindness. They see it as capacity to bill you continuously.

Diamond098454:
Married men are desperate they can do anything to have a girl except they don't want you

I can see you are typing this from experience.

I am not surprised. Nigerian ladies are something else.

marlow1962:
You're a side chick and an emotional support body. No responsible man will leave his wife and kids for no side chick.

In as much as a man might have one or two outside, spends on them, it still doesn't mean he will destroy his empire for you, just because you call him sweet daddy.

Now it's left for you to see a modest man, upgrade his lifestyle to a glamorous one, spend and take care of him, then leave to your husband's house.

Abi na one sided relationship una dy play for that Abuja?

It's one sided oooo. It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a Nigerian girl to upgrade a man.

WatchYourSix:
Why are women so skilful in not taking responsibility for their action….
I mean… How will you allow your greed drive you to be sleeping with a sugar daddy, a Man U know is married then turn round to blame the man for giving you money and upgrading you??

On top small matter seff….Thats how this babe came around cook small food, but salt no reach….but some how ended up blaming me because she said i was talking about salt and high blood pressure…….. Gosh!!

That's how they are unfortunately. They evade blames and are professional blameshifters.

A Nigerian lady has sparked intense debate on social media after criticizing what she described as a growing pattern of emotionally and financially manipulative relationships involving some married men in Abuja.

In a viral post, the woman alleged that certain married men deliberately pursue young female corps members and junior workers who are still struggling to establish themselves financially in the city.

According to her, the process often begins innocently.

A young woman managing life on a modest income and paying rent within her means suddenly meets an older, financially comfortable man. The man begins providing support, introduces her to a more expensive lifestyle, upgrades her accommodation, and gradually becomes a major part of her daily life.

The lady claimed that in some cases, these men discourage the women from pursuing relationships with other men while encouraging loyalty and emotional commitment despite being legally married themselves.

Her biggest criticism, however, came from what she described as the ending of such relationships.

According to her, after months or even years of financial support and emotional investment, some of these men eventually decide to return fully to their marriages, sometimes citing religious transformation, family responsibilities, or a desire to focus on their wives.

The women involved, she argued, are often left to deal with the emotional and financial consequences of a lifestyle they may no longer be able to sustain independently.


Nairalanders, what do you think?

Source :
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1M4J4e74t7/

Cc seun nlfpmod mndd44 Dominique