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He did not need to make me fall in love with him to get his papers. And if he feels differently then he can share the truth with me and i will still fulfill my end of the agreement.

Here's hoping he's that noble.

Then why does he care so much about how she "babies" her own children?

You must be kidding me.
aiding and abetting a criminal

I couldnt care less about this country, osisi

All I care about is that those who go thru this mode of getting papers should be upfront with the person and not have kids.

davidylan:
i hear ekiti people eat with their feet. maybe sistawoman knows from experience.

you this okoro loon, take your time o.

why does your mom even know your account number?

anyway

-loud people
-people that dont know the difference between your and you're
-fickle people esp women
-blonde weaves/blue contacts on black people
etc

sistawoman:
Something he said on the phone yesterday has me wondering and his behavior today has me wondering.

I went into this with both eyes open and will fulfill my end of the arrangment but will not be shitted on in the process. If it is not real then he needs to say so, so that i can date and do as i please. I will need time to heal and mend my heart but we really need to talk as we have been living and loving as husband and wife forreal.

Good to know. At least you are aware and I respect that.

Good thing you got your tubes tied too! It's not when when people do arranged married that I look down on, it's when they are deceitful about it from the beginning and also when a child is brought into the situation.

You'd think someone trying to get something wouldnt be misbehaving like an ungrateful child.

Btw I think you should know/learn these things about your husband first(hometown, background etc) instead of having to ask his family/friends.

k?

It's not about it being a hoax, it's about the fact that she might be taken for a ride

sistawoman:
I called Amos and asked him the city and he told me Akure i assumed that was in Ondo.

Ok. not to beat a dead horse to death but why was Anamabra mentioned before? Btw I think you should know/learn these things about your husband first(hometown, background etc) instead of having to ask his family/friends.

anyway have you been to this apartment?

mesmya:
sistawoman ,im most convinced that u copied this thing smwhere,maybe google

Im trying to give her the benefit of the doubt

Hopefully she wont tell me her husband's name starts with a "C"

Ok I feel better now. Ondo abi? Maybe he's missing his daily dose of dog meat?

Where did Anambra come from though?

Btw Sisi, I definitely agree with you. It's rather weird how FEMININE this man is acting. Anyway since he was "crying" on the phone, maybe now he can bring his ass home and have an ADULT discussion.

C'est Fini

davidylan:
all this spring wells of feminine advice shld get married first.

Dont be a jerk.

mesmya:
sistawoman is your hubby from akure,or anambra akure

Please ignore everything else except this question

If indeed he/documents say Akure. What STATE is that?

Oh. You mean Akure, the capital of Anambra! I get it npow!

sista, can you tell me where you are getting this info from? HiM or some documents?

So in other words David, you support his behavior. Let my wife and kids suffer while I walk off with our car to go and sulk elsewhere. To hell with how they manage without my presence.

Good to know.

mesmya. He claims to be Yoruba o from Anambra state.

debosky:
@ Karma

its not an excuse, but when you FEED a negative cycle, it gets stronger and more decidedly negative

if they are both hot headed in this situation it will only get WORSE, thats all I'm trying to point out.

No one is supporting the man, for one, we have not heard his side of the story. Secondly, sistawoman is our friend, if we see wrong in her actions, why not point it out.

I am not in support of the man staying out of his home for this long over a minor dispute, but it is a woman's glory to know how to calm her man down and vice versa. But if its all a case of being adversarial, then there is no point, no one wins.

Ive no problem pointing out where she was wrong. Like I said from the beginning, it's not the fact that she's sarcastic, it's the fact that the sarcasm was used in the midst of a "serious discussion" although apparently he's been just as sarcastic with her in regards to the same thing. I still think they should tak things out but the dude is acting like a female now, taking it too far.

and I still want her to get to the bottom of this Anambra Yoruba thing. It's making me uneasy.

What a surprise that you convinently ignored this part, David

The nasty voicemail and text messages this morning was me flying off the cuff at him because i woke up to him not being home and the truck gone. He left me a text message that he took the truck. Not only did he take the truck but he went in my dam purse took my keys to the truck and took off.
He did not leave the money for my driver this morning.
And if my son missed the bus I would have had no way to get him to school.

debosky:
likely inaccurate - you are only hearing sistawoman's side of the story. . . .only God knows what she said in the nasty voicemails and texts she sent. . . . . now thinking that softer messages will erase the hurt. The truth is that, its always more difficult to quench a fire when you start it and fuel it.

Her messages cant be used as an excuse debo. Did you read WHY she sent those voicemails and emails? Taking her mode of transportation AWAY so he can sulk like a child? If he's mad at his wife, FINE but why take it out on the children? is it cos they're not his?

sistawoman:
he picked the call this time but would not speak to me. I just spoke into a silent phone and asked that he please break the silence with me, come home and allow us to work this out. I reminded him of our wedding day and i could hear him crying.

Lol that's how those "Anambra Yorubas" do.

Sista, I am begging you. Before you go crazy, FIND OUT ABOUT YOUR HUSBAND. Something is rotten in the state of Denmark.

He's "angry" about you lying about not babyig yiur kids. He told you he's Yoruba and from Anambra. Abegi. Something is UP

The nasty voicemail and text messages this morning was me flying off the cuff at him because i woke up to him not being home and the truck gone. He left me a text message that he took the truck. Not only did he take the truck but he went in my dam purse took my keys to the truck and took off.
He did not leave the money for my driver this morning.
And if my son missed the bus I would have had no way to get him to school.

You know, the more I see here the MORE I am willing to bet your husband is using the whole "sarcasm incident" as a way to act up. To do whathe's been WANTING TO DO but now has an excuse to do so

Did you get to check what state he's from

swoosh:
The fact remains that every man is ever proud of a woman he married as a virgin. If a husband respects you when he married you a non-virgin, you can be sure he'D respect u thrice as much - or even more if he were your first man

Why do these men STILL cheat on their virgin wives with "whores" outside then?

Lmao tpia, who knows anymore. Im still crossing my fingers in regards to that

lidbb2:
I understand what happened.I'm giving my opinion on how a man would interprete it.(at least most men)

Speak for yourself and let the others do the same.

libdd, go calm down jo. It's like you dont even understand what happened

Their = two different girls that were in the same situation so yea HER attention. Same difference.

Also are you saying the men that didnt act like niggers over things like this arent "men"?

I wish you well sista.

I hope you just got the states confused

Yorubas are not from Anambra.

Unless he's half Igbo Half Yoruba?

The hell?

Why did I think he was Yoruba?

Alabajo sha

Didnt you say one time that he claimed to be a prince and that in Yoruba land men dont go down on women or some lame myth like that

sistawoman:
He hit me with his own bit of scarsicm yesterday too:

Me: But he (my 11 yr old) is my baby and I wanted to be sure he got home ok
Him: Oh yes he is your babbbeeee you have to babbbeeeee him.

What was that?

He also doesnt take your concerns seriously.

You both need to thrash the issues out and leave the sarcastic quips outside. Get it over with once and for all.

The irony of osisi's/oyinye's stories is that despite the man sending food OBVIOUSLY to gain their attention, they enjoyed the food WITH their dates and went home

If that's not enough to show the "Mr Man" that his plan didnt work, I don't know what is. If anything I found it funny. The woman is only a "prey" if she falls for the trick and tries to get with the man after the meal by seeming "impressed" by the gesture.

I still stand by the fact that osisi's dude is cool for letting it roll off his back and joining her in enjoying this amusing gesture. Still ened up showing that man that despite all that she's still with me anyway. "Ha Ha"

Blowing up and turning into a wannabe kingkong causing some public fight over something like that might be a turn on for teenagers but not me or any sane woman for that matter.

If a 3 yr old can hawk food, what's to say about a 6 yr old.

He probably thinks that's how you "toughen a child"

lmao shut

debosky:
wise words nalija, pick your battles wisely. Be creative and try to get to him somehow.

Honestly speaking he has overreacted, but it seems to have been 'brewing' off a set of other issues - the constant missing of the appointment and his feeling that she was babying the kids. Now combine those two (the man being a little upset here) with some misplaced sarcasm, likely at the end of a long day and you can see how this went wrong.

Is this the first time ever you've used sarcasm on him? In the light of him trying to figure out the truth about a situation, your attempt at sarcasm was received as both insulting and nonchalance towards a serious issue by him. Frankly, the comment was completely misplaced in that situation. I think you need to drop the adversarial thing a bit, though your attempts to reach him are commendable.

Isn't there someone you both know that he WILL listen to? Sounds like a stubborn, proud Ekiti man to me.

While I agree, the reason for the missed appointment IS cos of the kids. That should be a god enough reason for him not to be mad about it.

How does one "overbaby" a 6 yr old?

Sisikill:
On a serious note, that's a very good question and this talk about not wanting to disappoint him gives me pause.

I understand why she did it, obviously she didnt want to hear the "you need to stop babying them amd let them be tough" drivel so she figured it'D be easier to make something up. Unfortunately that didnt work out.

Like I said, next time don't even bother lying. If you want to baby your kids. so be it. Apparently your husband thinks he's in Nigeria where it's fijne for a 6 yr old to roam about. Someone should remind him that here their faces end up on milk cartons/Missing posters.

Stop calling him. Dont brong his brother into it either. Let him be. When you see him, explain why you felt to tell him that. If he still wants to sulk, na his own. At least no one will say you didnt try

Cant stand overgrown babies, personally.

Good thing I dont mingle with RichyBlack-ish people.