4real:

Goat i said maybe don't you know what maybe means. holy than thou rubbish.

Folarin, I was so disappointed when I checked your age and saw you are 28. If your reply had been from an under 18, I would not have bothered to respond. E ti e gbo na, even some under 18 on this forum discuss with so much intelligence and maturity. . . Lets try to write with integrity and stop calling people names. Being faceless on the internet is not a license for rascality neither is it a license to disrespect one another. lets stop writing like someone ti won fi teaspoon measure opolo fun. More so, ti a ba fi ti ojo-ori si, igi imu o jina si ori o. Its rather insulting to be telling a 28 year old to grow-up. So mind your language.

kasaliyaro:

Speak for yourself. . . I am not a dog. . . same for other decent men out there.

Don't get me wrong. . . Its our nature. . . I am not trying to single myself out or claim purity. Maybe you no be grassroot ajepaki -that na why you no understand me. Goats and dogs sleep with there mothers. . .do you? 

Now lets get down to the grammaticology of your earlier response:

4real:

maybe because we are dogs ah ah aha ah ah

Lets break your response down to 3 parts:

1 - maybe -(uncertain)

2 - because -(conclusive)

3 - we are dogs

Perhaps what you meant to write was "Maybe we are dogs. . ." that would have been a completely inconclusive opinion. The introduction of the word "Because" gives the 3rd part of your statement some conclusiveness (". . .because we are dogs" -i.e. you've concluded that all men are dogs. These two words "Maybe" and "Because", are used in the format above only when you are inconclusively using a statement of fact as a reason for a behaviour or pattern. e.g. ". . .maybe because I am black." 

Brush yourself up with any good book on English Language: Syntax and Semantics.

Abi you still dey find "grammaticology" for dikshaunary? d word nefa enter diko

Sincere apology if you feel offended by my writing I just could not find a better way to put things.

curiousNja:

The song sounds like a gospel song. I still like it, but he might as well be singing to God. I guess because I don't understand Yoruba.

Its a song dedicated to the love of his life, his one and only. . .  saying "By God's grace, nothing will seperate the two of them."

I'll classify the track "Olo Mi" as love. . . but the album is gospel.

As Jakumo said, Mr Banker is probarbly used to paying hookers after every act of sex. Rottweiler was asking if he is married or not. . . Being married or not is out of the question. Your friend needs someone who will treat her with dignity and respect not someone who treats her like a commercial sex worker.

Talking about token of love, he can buy her gifts,  but its got to be all the time and not just after every climax or in anticipation of great sex.

Desiree, if really she feels as embarrassed as you mentioned, let her insist he stops or she calls off the relationship.

gigitte:

@kasaliyaro
damn funny lol, i prefer phophetic visions and couplings, if only i could find the man who will envision tosin martins and i together!

Ok. . . Holy Michael! Mimo! Holy Gabriel! Mimo! Órùnmílá the father of Ágbamérégùn! Olòkun a só òrò di ayò! Your daughter don come again o! Wetin she go do to be with Tosin Martins? Ela woro! Oyogi, show her the way, Oba lu aiye! Jah! Holy! Holy!! Holy!!! Eyin omo ogun orun, e wa da iranse yin lohun. Mimo!

My dear, it is possible O! but it will cost you little and there are 2 things you must know:
   -your happiness with him is not guaranteed,
   -once we do it, there is no going back o!

But if you wait for your time, that man that will make you happy, the one who will treat you like the angel you are, the one who won't just sing "Olo Mi" but will also shower you with love and make you his queen, if you wait for your time, he will soon come. Eli Jah! Mimo!!

Edumare a duro ti e.

Mimo! Mimo!! Mimo!!!

gigitte:

i am ready to be his chick!

Why not consult IFA before you proceed. . . You can do it online; just go to the forum below. You can even use IFA to call his Eleda and bring him close to you.

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-9935.0.html

4real:

maybe because we are dogs ah ah aha ah ah

Speak for yourself. . . I am not a dog. . . same for other decent men out there.

LoverBwoy:

that is more like it, if i was your boyfriend i will be fond of u-too

Damn u look flexible

fit for italy via benin

HABA!!. . .

@Silky. . . 

silky:

I can see why Girl are those stiches on ya belly or "a treasure trail" as Makeda put it? sho

. . . If you can't help her, let her be. What has the stiches on her belly gotta do with this?

gigitte:

lol
this babe where did you do your hair, what is the name, can you upright that pic? thks!

Picture Done. . .

Jesu Kristi

Magarita, though you did not explain the reasons he gave for calling off the relationship in the first place. . . these will help us a lot in helping you.

As Angel has said, throw pride away. . . this is love we are talking about.  There is nothing bad in you experssing how you feel. You are doing yourself more harm caging your feelings. I'll suggest you follow your mind. If you are afraid of rejection, I'll suggest you start-up with phone calls finding out about his well-being. . . (Bagoma's plan). You can then make your next move based on his reactions in the Phone phase. . . staying completely away won't help you.

I was once in your shoes. . . we were seperated for one year just because of pride and listening to people's opinion. Of the Nine years we spent together, the best seven were the years spent after we came back.

People will tell you what they will do (what makes them happy). . . but they are not you! Only you know how you feel and what makes you happy. If your mind tells you go for him, go! . . .just proceed with caution.

hot-angel:

Thanks kasaliyaro (d hell does your name mean?)

I don't reall know, when I was little, my dad calls me Kasali (whatever the name means)anytime I do something silly. . . and my Mama calls me "Yaro kekere". . . Yaro in hausa I know means young man. When I was thinking of a screen name on nairaland, both names came to mind so I decided to go with Kasaliyaro. . .

u right. . . the AQ remix ko ki (conc) like the original.

@Seun. . . The song is "Mo Ni Fe Re" By Femi Fadeyi. -http://download.yousendit.com/2DFAB94159FEA940

@ Hot-Angel. . . Here is African Queen Remix -http://download.yousendit.com/13C12F654672A6F1

@Hot-Angel. . .Thank you o jare, Have you listened to African Queen Remixby Rukus? By the way, thats a luvly pic you got there -African Queen, Earth Angel or Hot Angel. . . you look good.

@Dauda

Angel, no mind Dauda o! He is one of those who beleive nothing good (of standard I meant) can come out of Nollywood. Listen to the track first. . .

Ah. . . I beg o! But na true now. . . Ma God deliver that nation. Anyway, I just uploaded the other song, you may get a copy in your yahoo mailbox.

here is the link:

http://download.yousendit.com/2DFAB94159FEA940

hot-angel:

If pikin no get brain, e no get brain no niye. No matter how u beat am, brain no go come.

Na lie. . . E get one pikin for Abeokuta. . .  E no get brain when dem born him. They put Agbon [Coconut] for his head. Now he is the President of Nigeria (3 times sef -dey contemplation another term).

both of you are not serious. . . E wa the one wey we dey talk sweet. . . wHERE I FIT GET THE CD I go cry o!

I won't want to compare Olo mi with African Queen. . . the reason being that yoruba language is by far richer than English. We have more words to express feelings more than English or any other language can offer. Both songs are in their standards superb. Another luvly yoruba love song is "Mo ni fe re" By Femi Fadeyi (Soundtrack to movie Igi Aruwe), Pls no ask me for the lyrics, I'm not as good as Hot_Angel. But if Oga Seun allows, I can upload the mp3.

try ke, She more than try. for someone who is not fluent in yoruba. Me sef wey I be yoruba boy no fit write like that -by just listening to a song. I beg WHERE i FIT GET THE CD?

Ok. . . now I see why I cannot attach the mp3 on this forum. . . max attachment size allowed is 200kb, the song is 5mb. This song drive everyone crazy at my friend's wedding last December. My friend at work (white dude) can sing it from beginning to end -just to tell you how often I play it.

Nice one hot angel, here is the full lyrics, I'm finding it difficult to upload the MP3 file from work. I'll try later when I get home.

@Tobi, Pls, where can I get the CD?



"Olo mi" By Tosin Martins.

Chorus
Olo mi, oni’temi Ore mi, ololufe
Oju kan o, sa lada ni
Lola Oluwa, ko sohun ti o ya wa
Olo mi, oni’temi Ore mi, ololufe
Oju kan o sa lada ni (lada tori eni)
L’ola Oluwa, ko sohun tio yawa


Verse
Morohun to’dun, Morenikeji mi
Giri giri lo n se mi
There’re butterflies in my belly
Kori Kosun Koje Komu
E ma bawi O
Oro ife laiye, bi adanwo ni
Iru omo ti mo fe, Won mbe lara re
Babi gb’oruko mi, O ba elewa mu
Mofe ba e d’arugbo, Mofe ba e dale
Iwo ni mo fe ma jiri
L’ojojumo  aiye mi


Chorus
Olo mi, sweetheart oni’temi
Ore mi, ololufe
Oju kan o, sa lada ni (lada tori eni)
Lola Oluwa, ko sohun ti o ya wa
Eh! Olo mi, oni’temi Ore mi, ololufe
Oju kan o sa lada ni (lada tori eni)
L’ola Oluwa, ko sohun tio yawa



Verse 2
I’ve found a good thing
Favor from above
I’ve got that feeling
That’s in a touch of love
After so long, ebun ife wa miri
Now that you’re here,
I see the difference so clear
You are the spark that brightens up my world
I’m gonna give this all I know
To keep you as my own.
Ntori, mo fe ba e darugbo, eh!
Mo fe ba e dale
Iwo ni fo ma ji’ri
Lojojumo Aiye mi


Instrumentals

Chorus
Olo mi, sweetheart oni’temi
Ore mi, ololufe
Oju kan o, sa lada ni (lada tori eni)
Lola Oluwa, ko sohun ti o ya wa
Eh! Olo mi, oni’temi Ore mi, ololufe
Oju kan o sa lada ni (lada tori eni se)
L’ola Oluwa, Ife wa o ni daru


Solo: Kosohun tio ya wa,
Laiye, Kosohun tio ya wa, 2x

Solo: Ekuro lala ba ku ewa,ye!
Laiye Kosohun tio ya wa,

Solo: Oju mi, oju re ni babi
Laiye Kosohun tio ya wa,

Solo: I’m gonna love you girl, love you girl
Laiye Kosohun tio ya wa

Solo: From the depths of my soul,
Laiye Kosohun tio ya wa,

Solo: And from the bottom of my heart,
Laiye Kosohuntio ya wa,

Solo: You are the jewel of my heart
Laiye Kosohun tio ya wa,

Laiye laiye, Laiye Laiye Laiye Laiye
Till fade

@Folababa, nice one

be it a prayer or a quote, AMEN be my answer.

People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care.

Bright2:

. . .afterall de woman  has been sold as wholesale, she's no more 4 retail. Have u forgotten de promise?4 better 4worse. There are alot of retailers on de way,so go 4 those ones,u can even buy whole sale from there. 

I no know say women don become commodity like garri and Lux soap wey men dey buy /dozen or retail. Na wa o!


@SexyKay, don't you think its only fair to do unto others as you want them to do unto you? Should your wife have an affair in future (God forbid), how will you feel? Alwz remember: What goes around comes around. Someday, you fit climb make you no come down successfully (MAGUN).

. . . and for those of you who think its one of those things, it starts with a simple slap; when and where it ends, no one knows. Here is the story of a victim of domestic voilence:

Victoria and Stankov got married in Austria a few months after leaving Nigeria. But five years after their marriage, tragedy struck. Victoria's dream and aspirations were killed, and in their stead emerged a gory story that qualifies for a place among the best of the popular Alfred Hitchcock series "Hammer House of Horror", if filmed.

In 1991, in the height of a family quarrel, Stankov strangled Victoria, and presuming her to be dead, fled the family apartment located at Untere Wunkau 70, Parndorf, Austria. Stankov was subsequently arrested, convicted by an Austrian court and sentenced to seven years imprisonment, and has since been released to continue his normal life.

But for Victoria, today, 20 years since she departed Nigeria for Austria, instead of a successful family life, she is lying as a "vegetable" in a nursing home in Muhlgasse, Frauenkirchen, Burgenland Province, a suburb more than 40 kilometres from the Austrian capital, Vienna. She has not only lost her memory and speech, but she is also lying in a condition of total paralysis since the past 15 years.

Full Story: http://naijanet.com/news/source/2006/mar/31/1005.html

I didn't miss the place. . .  If the pics came from Ghana or from Nigeria, Russia, Turkey, UK or wherever, of what importance is that to you or to Nairalanders

O4real:

@kasaliyaro
Can U b fair to us by telling us the place where you took these pix! U had both partial and total eclipse 4 crying out loud.

Seem like someone here has problems understanding simple english. Or he was too eager to see the pics he missed my text.

kasaliyaro:

Here are pics sent to me.

Thank you o Yewande, help me ask O4Real. . . abi Where in the above did I mention I took the pictures myself? We didn't see nothing here in the US. The pics all came from different sources. All I did was pick the best ones from the ones I received and shared with nairalanders.

@uhonmora, Thank you Sir for the compliment.

@Nairaland users,
Let us remind ourselves that marriage is commanded by God; and whatever God ordains, He will surely maintain.

Cakes are sweet but have you try tasting the ingredients one by one? Some are sweet while some are not palatable at all. Take the unpalatable ingredients out of it, no chef can make a cake out of what is left. Its a mixture of the good, the bad and the ugly that makes the cake.

See our bitter and sweet experiences as the ingredients, God as the chef and marriage as the cake. The beginning may not always be sweet but with God, the end result is always sweet.

Nobody wants to eat Bitter-leaf but we love the soup. It requires patience, hard work and a good chef to transform the leaf into the soup.

We worry about everything but never pray about anything. What peace we often forfeit, what needless pain we bear all because we do not carry everything to God in prayer.

For you all considering divorce, before you throw in the towel, do you know that:

- Remarrriages have a higher failure rate than first marriages. We think if we just change partners, our problems will be solved. Not so!

- Men, women and children all do better on in intact, successful first marriages - on all the measures: health, wealth, satisfaction and success. Work things out and you'll all be better off in the long run.

- Marriages, like everything else, go through slumps - down times. And things often get better on their own with time. Research points out that many who reported that their marriages were at the bottom of the scale on marital satisfaction, when asked again five years later, reported being at the top on marital happiness. When asked what changed, many had no idea. It seems that keeping your vows - hanging in through the "for worse" times, can get you to the promised land. Get married, stay married. People going through unhappy periods in their marriage fantasize about getting out of their marriage and falling in love with someone new. It leads to much more happiness - in the long run, if you can fall back in love with the person with whom you have children, extended family and a history -someone who will enjoy the grandkids with you.

- You can get past affairs, betrayals, disappointment, boredom and burnout and come out better and stronger than before.

- Perhaps you're in a remarriage and are struggling to avoid divorcing for the second, third or fourth time. Take a basic marriage counseling course. The skills and information that work for first marriages, will also work for you. This will also work for couples on the brink of divorce - couples in the deep end of the ocean who feel they've fallen out of love. You CAN learn new ways to interact - and by so doing, can fall in love again.

Divorce will never make you happy. At all cost avoid it.

"Divorce causes a decrease in wealth that is larger than just splitting a couple’s assets in half. By the same token, married people see an increase in wealth that is more than just adding the assets of two single people. On the other hand, divorce can devastate your wealth. Divorce drops a person's wealth by an average of 77%. If you really want to increase your wealth, get married and stay married." - Jay Zagorsky, Ohio State, Journal of Sociology, Jan 2006

@Chief2B, Nawah, Dupsybaby , et al
In as much as the clause in marital vow reads ", till death do us part." and not ", till divorce do us part." and the vow was not taken under duress or influence of some substance, I take going contrary to this promise as a lack of credibility and integrity on your part. When you give your word, be a man and stand by it. Do your best to make it work.

No one promised you marriage is a bed of roses,  its got its own "thorns in the flesh" and "Crosses" -of different sizes, to be carried. Do we quit bacause we think a cross is too big to carry? Think about this: If Christ had dropped the cross -because it was too heavy or because of the hardness of our hearts and our un-repentant nature, what hope will we have today of reconciling with our Father?

We all love gold don't we,  we all want our relationships/ lives to sparkle like pure gold yet none of us is ready to go through the fire -the purification stage; we all want the end result. God has His ways of molding/strengthning us and preparing us for greater responsibilities. Your spouse may be what God is using,  don't dodge your probleams,  deal with them. God never gives you a cross He knows you cannot carry.

Also imagine God taking this words out of His dictionary: Love, forgiveness, patience, long-suffering, resignation, forbearance, perseverance, and the likes; then we are all doomed. God never gives up on us till death takes us from this earth. Take these words, add prayer and "effective" communication (not just talking) and you will never regret keeping your family.

@Chief2B,  Habits are not formed overnight. Its either:

1- These traits existed in Wife #1 & #2 but you ignored or failed to address them during courtship  (Love was blind but marriage now opened your eyes), OR

2- These women changed after marriage. Mind you "Change" is the result of our reactions to situations around us. Search yourself, OR

3- YOU changed somewhere along the line.

Chief2B:

, The first marriage ended when I can home early from work and found about 4 kilos of marijuana sitting on my kitchen table. While I was working in a State Government job my wife decided to deal drugs while I was out of town¹,
, The second marriage ended after 8 years, I worked 2 jobs just² to put my wife through college. When she got her degree it seemed that she had no use for me anymore. She refused to spend anytime with me, sex was out of the question. I'm a neat freak, so when I would come home after work, the house was totally trashed. She didn't care, she knew I would be cleaning it up³. So after working 12 hours, I would be up another 6 hours cleaning, doing laundry etc. After about 2 years I had enough and got divorced,

Sir, do you communicate with your wives at all? I don't mean talk, "Communicate", question and answer, finding out what they really want from you and what they expect of your relationship, Spend less time on CNN and BBC (complaints and gists about other people) tune more to Discovery Channel.

Going by 1 & 2 above, I see you as a hard working man who bursts his a.s.s. day and night to satisfy his wife. But at what expense do you meet these demands? You sacrifice spending quality time for making money. Marriage is not about the money (though its an important fuel in keeping it growing), its about companionship. They find companionship elsewhere now the blame is all theirs. Haba! If there is no crack in the wall lizards cannot come in. Seal the cracks. Spend more time with them. Start to work SMARTER not HARDER.

On #3, Mr Clean, how were you coping with her "I don't care" and dirty attitudes before marriage? Use the same methods,

Sir Ono, E be like say this man dey hide plenty from nairalanders.

Here are pics sent to me.