questions that need to be answered
1:Do Germans regard mulatoes who have a non German parent and a German parent as a german
Answer: No
2:Do Germans regard non white german citizens as real Germans?
Answer:No

I think you never traveled to Germany in your whole life and you do not know any German.
Of course the answer of both question is YES.

You see katy your country regards ppl who are non whites as savages and the only true German is a blond haired blue eyed person.

My mother is not a blond with blue eyes women. She is dark, with brown hair and brown eyes but nobody of our German people thinks that she is not a German. Everybody can be a German. We Germans are mixed people.

Your country ppl will never accept your kids as true Germans because they dont have blue eyes or blond hair

So my mother is not accepted here too You do not know anything.

no doubt your own parents might dislike your children but i can tell you that your husband"s family will accept them as nigerians.This shows how open minded we are.Mixed ppl also experience racism in Germany the same way as full blacks,asians and arabs.When your kids grow up they will understand this.

My family love my children so much. My parents would die for both of them.
For the Nigerian grandparents their are just some white fucking children which their son make for the German paper. Oh do not try to hide the truth!
How often I have heard that the Nigerian family ignores or insult the mixed children as bastards etc.
You live in your own world and you do not want to see the reality.

One question for you:

You are calling them Nigerians, so are they not Germans for you?

Whatever katy but what i am saying is stop castigating your boyfriend in a public forum.Whatever the differences u have with him iron it out with him in private and wether you hate his food and his culture is no business of ours.

Than I will give you an advice:


DO NOT READ IT!

i think, if u dont let them know this important side, sooner or later they will totally loose the connection to their origins. it doesnt matter where they were born and brought up. it is part of them and its urs and your mans duty to teach them and let them know, "hey my boy, theres a big world outside germany and your daddy was born in a wonderfull country called nigeria. this is how we celebrate brithdays and christmas in nigeria, this is what we eat, this is our music etc." . . .your children will thank u both one day. .

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That is the fathers thing not mine. I can only tell them about the beautiful country where they are living and where they were born. They know a lot about the world outside Germany. I always tell them about the countrys which I know and about the history and the myths there. I love India and the Arab world, Israel, Ireland etc.

We are watching documentarys about all this beautiful places with their rich culture and history but hey, everything what is about Nigeria my man have to tell them not me. I read some books about the country, about the people, about history etc, nothing is touching me there. I can not develope likness for a place only because somebody I know was born there. Thats not my kind of person.

I think when one day the loose the connection to their origins in Nigeria. Thats no problem for them, because their life is here and not there. they have connection with their origins here. I just think this things are not really important.

from what i read in your posts, i assume that your children get an horrorpicture of their fathers country. thats what makes me a little bit sad. i feel u r only talking abt the bad sides of nigeria, forgetting abt the good things.

I do not speak about Nigeria with my children. The only thing what I tell them, that their father was born there and their grandparents are living there. If they want to know something they have to go to their father.

What I know about Nigeria is bad. Tell me about the good sides of Nigeria. I did not see any, but I would like to know.

for exampe: do your children speak english? how do they communicate with your husbands family ( on phone ), do your children eat african dishes? do they know african music? . . .

The children of course they are listening to us when we are speaking english, but they do not learn it from us. I think you should learn a language from native speakers and not from people who can not speak the language percet by theirselves.

How they communicate with my boyfriends family?
Hmm, sometimes my man call our older son to say hello on phone. Hello wie gehts? And that is all. The boy do not feel good on telephone because he do not understand them.

I mean the English language will not help him to understand them. He must learn their kind of English to understand what they are saying. I often have problems to understand them on phone.

My older son is difficult with food. He do not like everything. He hate food with to much pepper and he hate his fathers food. He can not eat this. He is more like me

My younger son. He eats everything, even when very much pepper is in it.

I think this is like this because my boyfriend never cook that kind of food with our older son. The younger one he grow up with that.

They do not hear African music. My man and the children prefer American rapmusic.
I do not like both of it.

Mamken,

mir gehts gut und selbst?

Of course I have to defend him. He is working hard every day. He job is not so good but he brings his ass every morning to work not like other Germans and foreigners in this country. After work he always takes care of the children so that I can go to my school. He is always there for me and the children and he often solved problems when I did not now how to go on.

But they are many things which I hate on him too.

if their father is a nigerian, they r nigerians too. .

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Yes, sure they are Nigerian too. I accept that. But they are also Germans and they have more , i do not know how to say it, they are more like a German than a Nigerian. When you see how my man grow up and you compare it with my childhood how I grow up. Its totally different. Thats what I mean, they will never be like a Nigerian who lived all his lifetime in Nigeria. Even my man has changed a lot when you compare him with the Nigerians in Nigeria.

and btw, germans will remind them every day that they arent pure race germans. . .u can cancell their roots from their mind but u cant change the color of their skin.

The German here always think that they are Italians and or Arabs.
But they do not have any roots their. Of course they have roots in Nigeria but they also have roots in Germany and because they grow up here like any other German person I think that roots are just stronger.

i would really like to hear your man's opinion. . .
the way u speak abt him, he really sounds like wimp. . . please dont take it as an offence.

What is a wimp?
He is a person who suffered a lot in Nigeria. He was very unhappy there the time he was a young boy. Maybe thats why he is how he is.

if i compare your man to mine. . . well i've to say, urs dont get balls in hes boxer.
ich will mich nicht streiten, nur Meinungen austauschen. . .ok . . Smiley

He got balls in his boxers, but he is quite realistic and not stupid. He always understands me.

Her man is probably one of those who stay at home all day while their wives provide the meal at the table.You really cant expect such a man to say anything if his wife provides the bread in the family.

Oh my man is not a lazy man like you.

He is working hard every day so that we do not need to take any money from social

Does she think Germans are superior to Nigerians?

All already answered your question.

May be you can not read

he do not need to read it. i can tell him that face to face.


and why do you think that nigeria is the country from my children?

yes their father came from their, but thats all. they can say they have a little bit nigerian blood inside them but thats not their country. when you grow up your whole live in germany and you are raised up like a german , how cann you say that you are nigerian and nigeria is your country?

strange.

congratulations!!!!