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Allahu Akbar!!! Am in tears reading all ur replies...thanks for d care n concerns u have all shown me. Am so short of words,@zahyal,Beta things,Jarus,deols,olawalebabs,zameen,bnty. May Allah reward u abundantly! @bnty,I can't seem to view ur message,pls send me a mail to canaryn893@yahoo.com and include ur number so I can call u if need be,inshaAllah I will get it. @zameen..u can also send me ur number thru d email addy. @Jarus I will also call u too. Bt I will choose d place closer to d university cos of transportation and all. I really appreciate all of u and hope to hear from u soon. Salam alaykum

Salam alaikum my sisters n brothers...thanks for all ur contributions and advice. May Allah reward u all. Pls I have a little favour and I will appreciate if anyone out dere can assist me. Alhamdulillah,I have bn invited for this NIMC apt test bt my greatest challenge now is where I was posted to which is Illorin..I have never been dere b4 and I reall want to go for dis exam. Its slated for d 25th which is nxt wk monday. I have bn able to gather some money to go, cos I will b leaving from minna,niger state,where I reside. Pls my request is dat if anyone out dere stays in Illorin or knw hw I can get very cheap accomodation,pls let me knw cos I will leave on sunday and its obvious I will sleep ova till tuesday morning. Pls even if it is MCAN lodge in illorin dere,if dere can host me for d period, I will appreciate. Just somewhere near d university where d exam is taking place. Pls put me in ur prayers let dis work for me cos I ril nid dis job. Awaiting ur responses. Jazakallahul khairan.

Salam....am really grateful for all ur advice and words of encouragement. May Allah reward and grant u all ur heart desires. It is not easy bt i know Allah will mke it easy for us. Sometimes we face some challenges to make us stronger and more closer to our creator. Everyone is my family knws about our sruggles and dey ve not relented in prayers also. I knw its only a matter of time,every situation dat has a begining must def have an end. May d end of our journey b better dan d beginning. Amin. And InshaAllah when we surmount dis trial....i will definitely come here and let u all knw hw Allah has been merciful and kind to us. Assalamu alaiykum @Beloved1993.....am happy to knw dat ur iman has become stronger,its dbest thing dat ca happen to one. Keep making d dua and InshaAllah u will overcome and cross d hurdle.

May Allah reward all of u my brothers for taking time out to advice and recommend some dua for me. I rily appreciate it.

@snubish,tanks for d beautiful piece,I agree wit u 100% dat dere is financial hardship in d country more dan ever,tins r nt like before. The aspect of seeking help from relatives,friend etc for capital has bn utilisedf n notin came out of it...everyone is having one prob or d oda...and if u r nt from a financially bouyant family u knw hw it is...

My husband is a media consultant,he pkges adverts,documentaries etc for organisation bt dese days all proposals n places he solicits for work is nt jst yeilding results. Bt we leave everyting to Allah. Tanks once more.

@Tbaba,tanks too for d dua's. I will kip reciting dem and will inshaAllah stay away from shirk.

Siddiq,Maclatuni,Larrymoore and Olawalebabs...jazakallahul khairan. I appreciate u guys. May Allah mke it easy for all of us. Amin

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Salam brothers n sisters,this is my second time of posting here on dis forum. I posted sometime ago about how tins ve bn difficult for I and hubby...I tink d topic was "Have we gone wrong somewhere"...don't knw hw to post d link. My good brothers and sister like Maclatunji,tbaba and deols commented n encouraged me. I talked about how tins ve nt bn working for us since marriage,hw feeding was a huge problem,no child,everyting is jst stagnant. Bt Alhamdulillah for d gift of life...we celebrated our 2nd year anniversary a wk ago,we r healthy. So I will be ungrateful if I don't acknowledge my creator and thank Him for His Mercy upon our life.

Well,2yrs and everyting is still preety much d same. No pregnancy,no job...noting. My husband is a very hardworking and industrious man,bt tins r nt jst working to his favour.

Somehow I tink I ve made a conclusion to wat our problem really is... Couple of months into our marriage,he started having dreams where he will see a man,somtimes I will b wit d man in a very intimate way. He kisses me or will give me a hug right in front of my husband. He told me about it and we ve bn praying about it. Due to all d problems we ve bn facing since marriage,we ve bn praying togeda seriously and turning to Allah to provide for us and sustain us. We wake up to pray tahajjud togeda,begging God to change our situation.

The dream seem to have seized bt about a week ago he had anoda,dis time he saw d man vivdly,according to his description,d man is huge,tall n very dark. In d dream,my husband has jst finished making love wit me only for him to turn and see d man @ d other side of d bed,and from all indication he too has had sex wit me,and he was telling my husband how sweet I was den he kissed me and left. The following day my period started,I was really devasted wit d whole tin. After my period,I resolved dat we should b reciting suratul ikhlas,Falaq,Nas n kursiyyu b4 we sleep. I was doin dat b4 bt somehw stopped.

This morning he told me he saw d man again in his dream,bt dis time he was quarelling seriously wit me and he culdnt place wat d problem or quarell was all about. I and my hubby made love last nite n b4 we slept we both recited d verses. I am tinking d jinn was nt happy we did dat hence d quarrel.

My question nw is,hw can I/we break d hold of dis jinn totally,cos from all indications its like he is d one hampering or slowing our prosperity(Allah alam). What other prayers can I do to break free? I ve hrd of pple having jinn husband etc..am so confused . I recite d qur'an everyday in our house except wen in my period,pray tahajjud almost every nite(d harmattan cold has nt bn allowing me to wake up dese past few wks),and we pray fervently.

Sorry for d epistle bt pls anyone wit any suggestion on hw to combat dis should pls advise. I jst want tins to work out for I n my hsband,I want to enjoy d blessings of marriage. Tanks

@All...thanks for ur advice n prayers. May Allah reward you. Amin

Advice is also welcome...don't just read n leave,say something dat will put my mind @ ease. Jazakallahu khairan

Salam Brothers n Sisters, mine is not a question nor a sermon,I jst need to talk about this cos its killing me inside. Am a regular user of NL bt had to open dis new acct to post this. Am a muslim n female. Where do I start from... I got married in Dec 2010,and eversince I got married, I promised myself to b faithful to my husband n to b a devout muslim by praying steadily n doin wat is expected of me by my created. I had my husband courted for 6months b4 we married,he was all sincere n approached me wit d issue of marriage;no hanky panky.
We got married, I was working in a bank,as a casual staff n my husband is self employed. The whole problem started rearing its ugly head when I was refused a transfer from my branch to a convenient branch close to me...believe me it wasn't easy for us cos,going to work was like a journey everyday...our place of residence was very far from where I was working. We wake up like 4am everyday jst to beat traffic(you can imagine wat happens to our subhi prayers)and come bk like around 9pm or 10 sumtimes. My hubby has to wait for me evrytime till I close...sometimes I don't balance on time. I used to pity him so much cos he was always so nice n helpful. It broke my heart.


After about six months I quit my job,it was causing more harm dan good(couldn't observe our salat well,the take off pay is not worth d stress n all). Then d nightmare began...we started noticing dat eva since we got married,my husband was not getting jobs like he used to do wen he was single,we tot it will pick up afta a while bt as am typing dis now...d situation is still d same. Don't forget dat he spent some money during nikkah n all..so we virtually had nothing to fall bk on. The little I had too started draining...

Feeding became a major problem for us...noting seems to b working for us, bn trying to secure a job too @ my end bt Allah knws best,even if its a teaching job,I don't mind...jst to ease d stress. Everyting I look @ my husband,I hurt cos I knw wat he goes thru jst to take care of me...d other day he cried in my arms,saying he never wanted me to suffer in his house,he had d best intention regarding me n its just unfortuanate dat I ve to pass thru dis with him. Anoda painful part for me is dat...uptil now I ve not conceieved,@ least if we have a child...mayb it won't b all dat bad..but again Allah knws best. I know we all ve to pass tru trials in life cos its Allah's way of testing his servant,and I tried to b patient about it n keep praying to him..bt sometimes it gets to me n I can't help myself. Life has not bn easy for me n hubby,I knw there r thousands who r going thru worse situation dan me bt I can't jst help tinking y we ve to suffer financial instability n childlessness @ d same time. Sorry for d long post, I just had to vent it out. Bn praying esp tahajjud prayer and I pray Allah brings relief for us soon. Cause HE said"For every hardship comes relief". Pleas put us in your prayers and also recommend any dua I can be saying to give me peace of mind and Allah's mercy. Thanks for reading.